On understanding the difference between codependant and interdependant relationships

insickness · 2013-12-26T05:00:50+00:00

The difference is healthy boundaries. When you are codependent, you try to take responsibility for her feelings. "Are you sure everything is okay, honey?" When you are dependent, you may still rely on her, but you let her take responsibility for herself. If she wants to come talk to you about a problem, that's up to her. But you're not going to feel like you are responsible for coaxing it out of her, or trying to make her feel better when she throws a tantrum.

emptyform · 2013-12-26T03:26:36+00:00

I grew up codependent thanks to my parents having a codependent relationship. I have been struggling with the "overly detached" part since taking TRP. Thanks for helping shed some light and bring some attention to this. Stoicism is nice, but it doesn't need to be isolationism. The best man I can be isn't one that doesn't engage in relationships, but is the strong one in them.

gekkozorz · 2013-12-25T23:41:00+00:00

Definitely read that URL as "the rapy can work"

verus_mas · 2013-12-25T20:44:27+00:00

This is really funny. I actually did therapy with her a couple months back.

xiko · 2013-12-26T15:56:30+00:00

I have been single for 2 months and discovered the rational male and this sub. The amount of slaps in the face in form of truths I have been having are incredible. Great article.

Title	On understanding the difference between codependant and interdependant relationships
Author	TheMadWoodcutter
Upvotes	27
Comments	9
Date	December 25, 2013 8:36 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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