I want 3 themes in this semi-FR. This is my first FR, so it might be terribly written.

1) Sex by itself is empty, even though sex seems like the most important thing when we are sexless

2) Sometimes you just need to be at the right place, right time

3) Just being cool and friendly is enough to get laid most of the time

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So I matched with this girl on Tinder, her photos made her seem like an 8. However, we all know how Tinder is like. I subtracted two points, but even then she still would be bangable. Besides, I just moved to the city only had sex with my ex-ltr for 1.5 years.

Initially I suggested getting drinks or food, but I was feeling so lazy. Despite having a 2 month dry spell (can't have sex at parents place, so didnt try), I was honestly too lazy to go on a date. Especially since I work long hours and its Wednesday. I tell her im tired from work and I'm doing additional work from home, which is true. So I suggest she just come and chill.

Keep in mind, when I ask a girl to come and chill at my place, I keep it as friendly as possible. Look, if the girl is hanging out with you alone, or from Tinder, there is really no need to very sexual. You do need to be masculine, but that does not necessarily mean sexual. Also if it is late at night, offer to drive them back whenever they want, or let them know you'll call a taxi for them back after. This takes the time pressure off and most of the time they will pay for the taxi themselves anyway. It just helps to take as much pressure off as possible. You're a big strong man and she's helpless, put the girl at ease by making it clear they can leave whenever they want, and you'll even help them.

She arrives at my place at night, I show her around and make casual talk. Note: best way to get a girl comfortable is tell her a silly childhood story. We get some wine, hang out outside for 5 minutes. I suggest watching a movie inside since its cold. 3 minutes into the movie we bang. She moaned like a whore, sucked my dick like a pornstar, and I came in her mouth and on her face. I used to be terrible at escalating, but then I realized half the time girls are nervous and they don't even notice you being clumsy.

After we were done fucking, she left promptly and I don't want to see her again. Fast lays seem like the ideal, but I felt empty afterwards. Taking only 15 minutes to sex made the sex feel meaningless. Partially because it was too easy, but partially because I didn't give a shit about the girl. Not much different from masturbating, except this carries the risk of STDs (she sucked my dick almost too well...). Perhaps I am too accustomed to LTRs to make quick 15 minute lays enjoyable for me, but I don't think that's the real reason why. The reality is, having a purpose in life and striving towards your goals is what will give real fulfillment. We want the quick lays when we get lonely, but really, sex isn't what we need.

At the same time we "fall in love" when we try to win a girl-over because it gives a goal, it gives meaning. Take that out, then suddenly the girl and sex don't mean much.

I've gone off topic from a FR, but I had to. A FR of a 15 minute lay would sound like a win, but in reality it doesn't matter at all.