Not too long ago I wrote a post talking about cold approaching to make you more resilient to rejection. The only problem is cold approaching is like taking a cold shower. The hardest part is jumping in. Once you jump in and feel the cold, you feel good about yourself because you actually took action to do something that was out of your comfort zone. However, each time you take a cold shower, you get that feeling of hesitation again.

The solution to this is not thinking about jumping into the water and just do it.

When you go out and approach women who are going about their normal day, you tend to feel like you're bothering them. You tend to feel like a creeper if you happen to walk into a woman's store just to talk to a woman you saw when you walked by this store. These feelings will decrease your confidence and can interfere with how you approach women. This is why this exercise is so powerful.

Let's say you go about your day and you see a woman with a tiny waist and a big round butt with some firm round tits. Her face looks sexy. This woman will be very intimidating to talk to. However, if you've approached women like this for weeks, she starts to seem a little more normal and just another opportunity to do the exercise.

One day you may approach woman #100 and she will give you her number. Congratulations! Text her or call her to set up plans to meet up. However, you were only rejected 99 times. We are focusing on rejections. Did you do indirect approach to get her? Try doing direct approach to increase the intensity.

"If you got the girl, why don't you just keep on doing what you were doing?"

Remember that this exercise is not to find your next girl, but to stay confident and grounded even when you're rejected. When you're not focusing on getting the girl, but focusing on building your confidence approaching women even if it means rejection, you'll start to notice you're becoming bolder, you're not too worried about getting rejected, and you'll get what you want from women. You may be approaching women and using the Mode One approach, telling women you want to have non-monogamous casual sex in a seductive tone to let them know you're mind is on sex or looking for your next friends with benefits and she looks like a great candidate. These types of approaches may decrease your success rate because they're so bold, but the women who actually do agree to get with you will be definite sex partners. There is no guessing or her trying to put you in the friend zone unless that friendship has "benefits" attached to it.

Women love men who are bold, masculine, and confident. After a while you may become an approaching machine. You have a line you use such as:

"I thought you were sexy and just wanted to come over and ask you for your number"

"Let me get your number so we can go out for drinks. My name is [YOUR NAME] by the way. What's yours?"

You get the idea. It's not a pick up line, but just something you say to get a quick "interested" or "rejection answer". She may be interested or she may reject you. You will get a definite answer in less than 10 seconds.

"Why not focus on success instead of failure?"

Getting rejected by women is not failure. You took action so it's a success on your part. You may not have gotten the results you wanted, but that's what this exercise is about... taking action and getting a quick answer.

Some of you may be good-looking and don't even know it because you never approached women. You may think you're ugly because of an imperfection, but the women you talk to are giving you choosing signals. I don't say that to give you false hope, but to give you a different side to things. You may start out doing this exercise and have, what I call "needy eyes", and this is why you're getting rejected, not that you're ugly to women. Some of you may be attractive to women until she sees you lack self-confidence and this makes you look weak in her eyes. This exercise can alleviate a lot of your problems because your confidence increases each day you go out and take action.

The mindset to you'll adopt is just go up and approach to see what happens as quickly as possible.

"What about building rapport and being charismatic?"

Your charisma and rapport can come out within 10 seconds of talking to her. If you approach her and she's sexually attracted to you, she is gonna want your sexual attention. If she's not sexually attracted to you, but can see you as a friend, she's gonna want your non-sexual attention. This is why Alan Roger Currie has his Mode One approach because he didn't want women wasting his time if he wanted to have sex with them, but they were trying to put him in the friend zone just to have his non-sexual attention. His goal was not to avoid rejection, but to find women who were down to fuck without landing himself in the friend zone in the process.

"When I cold approach, my goal is to not get rejected"

There's a line in the movie "The Change Up" where Jason Bateman and Ryan Reynolds switch bodies. The company Jason Bateman worked for was trying to put a merger together with another company, but at this point in the movie Ryan Reynold's character was in his body. Anyway, this character said that they should ask for more money to make the deal. He used a reference about him trying to have sex with a Catholic girl and he said "Doesn't hurt to ask. You would not believe the nasty shit I get these girls to do just by asking" when convincing his boss to go for $100 million more than what the other company was offering. When you talk to these women, if you ask to have sex upfront, some of these girls may be down to fuck from the start. Being that you're avoiding rejection, you might be surprised at how many women are down to fuck or want to have a casual non-monogamous relationship with you just by you asking.

What are your thoughts?