Relationships are on-going negotiations, not a contract.

Entropy-7 · 2016-04-20T16:20:07+00:00

Stumbled on this:

four characteristics complicate business negotiation in China: •A strong emphasis on relationships. Deals tend to depend heavily on the relationship between the parties involved; social gatherings are common during the negotiation process. •High commitment, loose contracts. Your new partner in China is likely to expect you to invest significantly in the relationship, often without fixed terms, and to respond to his shifting needs. Calls for flexibility can frustrate Westerners accustomed to ironclad contracts. •A long, slow deal-making process. The Chinese focus on building relationships rather than on contracts tends to prolong the negotiation process. Westerners befriend their counterparts only after making a deal, while the Chinese make a deal only when some level of friendship has been reached. •Widespread opportunism. Despite the importance placed on relationships, negotiators in today’s China keep their options open—and may abandon a deal when a sweeter one appears.

Sound familiar?

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G_Petronius · 2016-04-20T19:45:15+00:00

A thing to keep in mind in this respect is that women respond to their current emotional state and less strongly, or not at all, to whatever history you two might have had. A strong enough emotion in the present will override any history in the past. Assuming that she won't let you fuck her in the ass today because when you meekly asked two years she said no is wrong.

Also, the negotiation, so long as we are talking about sex and other attraction-induced activities, is always emotion-based. If you try to pay with the wrong coin, commitment, you won't get the results you want. You can't commit your way into more or better sex. On the other hand, you can very much emotionally manipulate, dread, charm or tingle your way into her pants, because that's the right coin for what you're trying to buy.

sigma272 · 2016-04-20T23:00:57+00:00

Back in my blue pill days, I listened to a lot of relationship podcasts, trying to figure out why girls were ignoring a nice guy like me.
One of the thigs they always said was "she needs you to tell her every day that you love her". It was only after I discovered TRP that I realized why this is true: she's constantly re-evaluating in her head whether she loves you, and assumes you're doing the same.

NeoreactionSafe · 2016-04-20T16:55:16+00:00

Do your homework.

The Child Support Laws were invented in 1950 and additional Divorce Rape rules were added afterwards.

If you simply educated yourself on the contracts that presently exist you would see how bad they are.

The beta goes in with no knowledge of the history of all this.

Our present day situation is entirely unnatural... so you must be warned that the laws permit behavior from females that make no sense in the big picture.

In nature if a woman behaves badly she is thrown to the curb and could starve or be forced into prostitution. Those natural fears do not exist.

So the first step is to know the reality of today.

The Disney fantasy blinds the beta and simply makes him unable to see what is going on.

The beta wears "Rose Colored Glasses" when it comes to women... a complete illusion of what is going on.

The Blue Pill is a mythology... so to break that you learn of Red Pill truth.

Vasallo7G · 2016-04-20T16:24:37+00:00

you remind me of a guest in the beige Philip show that said: "Marriage is like a one on one game of basketball", yep beta guys fail to see it

supergilbert · 2016-04-21T09:12:50+00:00

Any good books to learn negociations? In life and business.

i'm guessing there are a couple of golden rules to follow, I'd like to know them. So far the only thing I have is

"The one who doesn't care wins"

[deleted] · 2016-04-21T01:48:08+00:00

It's always been business. "We need to talk" is a business move - you do what she says or she's out. Most men would rather drop dead than lose out on a piece of ass so they do what they're told. Then they get robbed and they lose out anyway.

aBitClearer · 2016-04-21T20:25:53+00:00

Excellent post, nice and concise. My LTR is regularly renegotiating, expecting more from my time and attention, while asserting desires for higher levels of commitment from me. Thus, I am ever vigilant to see these shit tests as such, and maintain that she continually meets and even exceeds my conditions of satisfaction.

The way to my "heart" is not through my stomach!

TheGatherHunter · 2016-04-22T02:58:04+00:00

Most girls still have that fairy tale. The problem is that it's a fairy tale, not real life. Guess what the best selling fictional book is? It's romance novels. Real life can rarely live up to fantasy, and so she feels resentful because she settled. Doesn't matter if she's a 3 and you're a 9; she'll still find some way to rationalize that she deserves better. Hypergamy is a bitch.

So what can you do? Give her a fantasy. Never be an open book, because once she thinks she knows everything about you, the fairy tale is over. Every now and then she needs a little bit of an emotional roller coaster to make her feel alive.

That being said, your conclusion is pretty solid.

Thenextprince · 2016-04-20T16:47:42+00:00

Its simple. Do not get into relationships. Just fuck.

a3voices · 2016-04-20T20:56:59+00:00

Not since the age of 12 does a woman believe in the fairy tale romance of loving and cherishing their partner through sickness and health.

Depends on the woman and the culture/country she is from.

Title	Relationships are on-going negotiations, not a contract.
Author	i2amahandmodel
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Date	April 20, 2016 2:32 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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