Simple reasons why you are not getting ahead in your life.

Link to article: https://fitnessandfinancesfirst.com/2024/05/15/why-you-are-not-getting-ahead-in-life/

You might see some people ascend effortlessly in their lives while you feel stuck in the same place. FOR YEARS. You see people advancing in their careers, relationships, businesses, etc but you feel stuck with nowhere to go.

It is normal to feel this way and I have been here before.

However, if you let the feeling sit for too long, you will become apathetic. Not progressing in any area of your life makes you depressed and unmotivated which will lead you to a downward spiral, which is dangerous.

There are only a few things, a handful of things that are ruining your life. If you fix these and take consistent action for 1-3 years, I guarantee your life will become exponentially better each year.

Fake productivity

Fake productivity is just procrastination masked as productivity. It is similar to masturbation where you think you are doing something productive, but you are just rubbing your cock.

Example? As an entrepreneur, you might spend excessive time perfecting email communications or organizing files rather than focusing on client acquisition or product development.

Or another one? You might be reading a million articles on how to get girls instead of approaching them.

A better one? As a YouTuber, you will spend hours and hours making intros and outros for your videos, making picture perfect thumbnails, making sure your title is on point, etc. But you don't upload any videos since all the things you think should be perfect are not.

Fake productivity is basically focusing on tasks that seem important at that moment but do not move the needle one bit. You are fooling yourself thinking that you are making progress when you are, in fact, regressing since time is running out and you have not achieved anything yet.

The solution? You have to be ruthless with your results. Results > Actions, always. It does not matter if you spend 10 hours or 500 hours studying for an exam, all that matters is getting the task done and achieving results, without mistakes or imperfections.

Remember this, efficiency over everything else.

A note to autists: This doesn't mean you cheat in the exam. If you thought so, improve your reading comprehension.

Overthinking

The worst trait a man could have is overthinking.

Creating problems that don't exist, procrastinating, complicating everything and self-sabotaging. Chasing perfection, waiting for the perfect moment and just not doing anything because you are busy living in your head.

Life becomes much easier when you realize everything is as simple as you make it. There's more truth in that bell curve meme than most people realize.

Whenever you find yourself overthinking, remember your time is running out. The chances of you succeeding are slowly reducing the more you delay taking action.

One day you will wake up and you will be 40+, with a dad bod that all women "love", an obese battleaxe for a wife and a mortgage. If this scares you, excellent. Use this to motivate yourself to seek a better life.

Don't overthink. Take action. Now.

Everything you want is on the other side of consistent action and simplicity. 99% of the outcomes you seek can be achieved by hammering the basics and trusting your instincts.

Simple things will give you the most results. Looking for that one best business model, one unique and secret diet hack, the secret message to send her, etc. are all a massive waste of time.

I know dudes who just follow a bro-split and eat whole foods 80% of the time but are more muscular than 90% of the science based gym bros you will come across. Why? Consistency and action.

I know dudes who are genuinely autistic and don't know how to hold a conversation to save their lives smashing HB8s consistently. Why? He just asked her.

Do whatever it is that you are supposed to do and your life will become 10x better. I promise you none of the shit that you overthink about matters.

"I don't know what to do.. baaaa" You exactly know what to do, you fucking idiot. Do it.

Victim Mentality

"Girls won't fuck me because my jaw line is 0.5mm smaller than chad." - said the incel that has never approached a girl

"I was born into a middle class family" - said the depressed loser who did not study hard in college and is stuck in an $80k per annum job.

"What is the point of lifting? My genes are horrible" - Said the guy who has been working out for 6 months without a solid plan and a diet.

Being a victim of your circumstances never helps you progress and you will live a miserable life if you do so. There is nothing stopping you from living your dream life if you are reading this right now. Want to fuck a 10? Then, approach 10s every single day until you smash one. Want to get rich? Work very very hard in your career, learn office politics and move up the ladder or go down the path of entrepreneurship.

Stop secretly hoping for someone to show you the way because you are a victim. Stop waiting for people to save you. Stop thinking you are special and different, because you are not.

Hoping that someone will show you the way and praying that someone will help you is female fantasy. You have to internalize the fact that you will not have it easy if you want to succeed in your life. No amount of crying or self-pity will magically give you the life of your dreams.

There are people living in Africa, without food to eat, without a home to live in comfortably, without limbs, WITHOUT anything that you have. You have to realize that there are people who will kill someone to be in your position. If you are reading this, you have an internet connection, you have an able body, you have good health. What else do you want to succeed in life?

"but but but my problems are unique". Shut the fuck up, you ungrateful idiot. Suffering, pain and loss are relative. Suck it up and move forward.

If you a chronic whiner with a victim mindset, do yourself a favor and record yourself bitching and moaning about something. Hear the recording ten times. You will feel like a man with a giant vagina.

Nobody gives a flying fuck about your excuses. You are either a winner or a loser.

Hormones and health

If you want to get what you want out of life, you have to be healthy. Period.

Want to become rich? Be ready to work multiple 16 hour days with non-stop energy and productivity.

Want to manage a large family? Be ready to manage stress like a king. Shouldering responsibilities that could crush a normal person, yet remaining calm and composed.

You see, stress tolerance, extremely high energy levels, drive and ambition come from testosterone and DHT and those traits are crucial if you want to succeed.

You might want to read my testosterone guide here: https://fitnessandfinancesfirst.com/2023/09/27/how-to-boost-your-testosterone-levels-naturally/

An underrated yet extremely important hormone that no one talks about is DHT.

DHT is the most masculinizing, pro-energy androgen that a man can naturally produce. DHT comes from testosterone, and this conversion reduces estrogen.

DHT gives you a sense of urgency and discomfort. DHT induces a restless feeling that can only be eased through physical activity (sex or exercise) or productive endeavors, whether financial or intellectual. Makes sense why the biggest winners and innovators are usually highly androgenic chads.

Don't worry about hair loss from DHT. Would you rather have a harem of women, a solid career/business and excellent mental health or a head full of hair? The choice is easy.

Lack of Charisma

In business and career, your ability to persuade and charm is more important than your competence. Which is why you see braindead idiots climb up the ladder quicker than you.

If you do not learn how to be charismatic, you will suffer in every area of your life - business, dating, interpersonal relationships, etc.

Being a charismatic person is easy but it takes work. 90% of charisma comes from not being a socially anxious weirdo. Giving people genuine compliments, demonstrating high status, exuding high energy and enthusiasm is the key to being charismatic.

Think about the most charismatic person in your life.

It is likely that

1. They are a joy to be around
2. They do not have social anxiety.

Be lighthearted, grateful and happy. Don't moan, complain and whine about your life. People don't want to hear about your bullshit problems. Don't tolerate the same from them. If you come across a chronic whiner, cut them off immediately.

Genuinely care about the other person but don't be a doormat. Don't just keep asking questions about the other person, it just makes you look like a weirdo and they won't respect you at all. Tell them your opinions, disagree when you have to while being respectful and you won't be treated like a doormat.

Lack of Machiavellianism and cunning.

Please note that if you are an edgy teenager who thinks being a psychopath is a cool thing - it is not. You will end up miserable if you behave like a psychopath with your loved ones. But remember, you don't have to become a psychopath, rather, you have to adopt those traits if you want to succeed.

You have to be ruthless in dealing with people, especially in dating and business. You should be willing to cut off individuals from your life if they cross boundaries or if you think they are not a good fit. no matter how hard it is from an emotional point of view. Do not give people a third chance.

If someone is wasting your time? Good bye. If someone is a bad hire? Good bye. If someone disrespects you? Good bye.

Your decisions have to be cold and unemotional. If it has to be done, you have to do it regardless of how you feel. You have to be willing to do anything and everything to achieve your goals.

Psychopaths have extremely high stress tolerance levels and you have to find ways to become resilient. You will face extremely stressful situations and you have to be calm in those situations which honestly would crush a normal person.

An example?

A friend's father "B" is a business person that I admire and respect a lot. B owns a couple of mines and a B2B supply chain company.

In a single week, B went through all this:

His mother passed away, he signed an agreement to purchase one of the biggest mines in our state, his supply chain company's employees went on a strike and one of his potential customers backed out of a deal at the last minute. All this on top of managing a joint family of 17. He is the eldest son and hence, he bears all the responsibilities.

You see how stress inducing the above scenarios are? If a normal person went through this in a year, let alone a week, he would have to go to therapy and would be on meds for the rest of his life.

Your life will be extremely chaotic at some point and you better be prepared for it.

If you are not still convinced, here is an even more important reason to learn machiavellianism.

You will encounter predatory individuals on your way to the top. People who will hurt you for no reason and gain a sadistic satisfaction from doing so. Cheaters, liars and scammers are all waiting for you on your way to success.

You have to know the signs of a manipulative person and you have to be able to spot bullshit from a mile away.

Being manipulative is a good thing. If you want to manage a large team and large family, which I assume most of you want since you are reading this blog.

Just because you are manipulative does not mean you are a bad person. There, I said it. You have to manipulate people for their own good. You have to manipulate people for the sake of your family, business or a bigger cause.

Again, autists, this does not mean you manipulate your mother and gaslight her. That is not what I mean.

The guy who is a compulsive liar that scams his own family for his own self-interest is not the same as the guy who leverages someone's emotions to guide him down the path he believes is in their best interest. Both are manipulative, but only one is toxic. - u/tellyoursonthis

A better metaphor? Compare machiavellianism to a knife.

A knife is a tool. You can use it to cut pieces of meat and serve your family a nice dinner or you can use it stab a grandma on the street. Only one is an act of horrifying cruelty.

A note to the autists: You have to be able to switch this off and on. In your corporate job, be highly cunning and manipulative. In your business, do the same. But don't be like this with everyone. You have to be able to let go and enjoy the moment sometimes. Your loved ones, people who genuinely give a fuck about you, etc. deserve your presence and care. Have a sword but keep it covered. If someone tries to take advantage of you, by all means, fuck them over.

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