We’re probably all here because some women broke our hearts or we didn’t quite understand women the same way some of the other guys we grew up with did from the jump.

The red pill is about awareness of the hidden truths behind male-female sexual dynamics. What it ISN’T about is using little tactics to get your girlfriend or wife to fuck you. There’s other subs like that (Autism and such).

The red pill isn’t about control. It’s about abundance, having faith in yourself, and building value and skills as a man that will help you to lead others. Men and women alike. The moment you realize how stupid control is, that’s the moment you truly start to see the world the way it truly is. Unfortunately there are very few people who see an alternative.

Most people think… what alternative is there to control or submission? There can’t be an alternative can there? Well there is, there’s a reason very few people are truly meant to inspire others. That alternative is influence. Control is the reason why most of us didn’t do well with women growing up. We weren’t given the freedom to make mistakes and gain experiences growing up, so we fell into rigid mindsets and behaviours that limited our desire to explore different things and go outside the box. Our inner child was stifled, so as adolescents/adults, the social risks that are required to get women were almost insurmountable. It took WORK just to break out of the comfort zone, and I’m sure that was rewarding wasn’t it?

The key is influence. You can’t control anyone but yourself. That’s why we tell you guys to be hitting the gym, breaking your social anxiety, develop financial skills, chase greater job opportunities, improve your mindset, and to stop focusing so much on chasing something that isn’t meant to be chased.

So what is influence? Influence is the art of attracting people into your direction. It’s not the “in between” control and submission, it’s actually completely different. It’s a form of assertiveness, and the ability to influence people is highly masculine. It means your frame is strong and your perception of life rubs off on people emotionally and rationally. You respect other people’s thoughts and opinions just as much as your own, it shows, and people open themselves up to your perspective much more readily.

If you have good intentions and are on the right path you can make a serious positive impact on the people around you. You can change lives. You cannot be a leader through control, you have to be influential to truly lead people. They must trust your leadership in order to follow. It’s something you can’t fake. Well I’m sure you can but you get the point.

Let’s get back to women. Why do most women next you? Probably because you’re boring. You’re always thinking of what to say, in your head, insecure, always planning things out… you’re trying to control things because you fear what you can’t control… which is everything. Women can’t respect that, they can sense your desire to control. It’s beta as fuck. Don’t you know it’s unattractive?

Stop giving a fuck. Accept yourself entirely. Stop giving a shit what she thinks and say exactly what’s on your mind.

But above all else, NEVER be serious with a woman. Never be serious or logical. What most guys don’t get is that being a jackass, joking around, and teasing her is just about the most masculine thing you can do. Why do you think the funny guy making her laugh is always the first one in her pants?

It’s because you are bringing her into your frame, a world where nothing is serious, an escape from her reality. You’ll know you’re doing a good job when she is non stop giggling. This is how women get aroused. And this goes back to influence.

This is why the key to passing shit tests is NEVER the obvious logical answer. You’ll notice that almost every way to pass a shit test it with witty humor. Once you internalize this you won’t need a cookie cutter solution. You learned the rules of the game, but once you become the game, you can start to make your own rules. This is how people become charismatic.

You can use all those seduction techniques and shit if you want, it will probably work with the dumber ones, but at the end of the day you’re not red pilled if you’re still trying to control everyone around you. You’re acting out of scarcity and out of insecurity. The real key is to not give a fuck, and to draw people in with your personality and your positive energy. Your aura is what truly attracts the women you actually want.

Stop trying to take control. You can only take the lead if you become influential. And if you’re not born with any charm, at the very least quit doing the shit that turns women off. You can only control yourself, but its influence that brings people into your bubble.

You can take this any way you want… in a sexual context, in a marketing context, social circles, content creation, anything in this world involving people. Control hasn’t gotten you very far past the beginning.

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So stop trying to control everything, start influencing the people in your lives.

Start practicing the principles that will attract the energy you’re looking for.

Stop giving a fuck.

Stop being so serious and logical about everything.

Stop trying to appease everyone, make yourself laugh first.

Stop caring about the results and have fun.

Stop getting so tied up around getting results and focus on enjoying the process.