Last week I posted the ten commandments of living life as a socially awkward man; on my post, someone commented- “all these are longterm processes that take time... not quick tips or tricks aside from maybe trimming beard or whatever.” While I am a firm believer that true self-improvement takes time, I do understand that a number of us in this community have a very linear thought pattern and are looking for a quick fix; a number of us are extremely rigid and routine. That’s still an issue, a huge issue at that, but I can’t speak for everyone; I can’t address everyone’s individual issues. I will however, provide some hacks and “routines” that can help you navigate.
Dating
Date Ideas
- Zip Lining
- Painting Class
- The Zoo
- The Museum
- Gun Range
- Escape Room
- Billiards Lounge
- Mud Riding ATVs
- Walking in The Park
- Go Kart Racing
- Magic Show
How To Have A Successful Date
- Barely Talk- She Should Leave The Date Thinking, “ What Do I Even Know About This Guy?”.
- Ask Any of These Questions
- What are you most passionate about?
- If you could go back in the past and change something what would it be?
- Do you travel much?
- what is your biggest deal breaker when it comes to relationships?
- What was the last crazy adventure you went on?
- What's your favorite time of the year or what holiday you prefer?
- What you do right now is something you see yourself doing for every?
- What was the best thing growing up for you?
- What would you do if tomorrow was your last day on earth?
- What do you like most about yourself?
- What's your favorite movie?
- What's your proudest moment?
- Do you have any secret talent?
- What is your wildest Fantasy?
- Is there something you used to do that you don't do anymore?
- What were you like as a kid?
- What's your most valuable thing in life?
- What's your perfect date?
- What's the best advice you ever received?
- If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
- How would your friends describe you?
- Constantly Nod When She’s Talking
- Don’t Talk For More Then 30 Seconds At a Time
- Wear All Black
- Pay For Everything
- Send Her An Uber Back Home If You Don’t Want To Sleep With Her That Night
- If You Want To Sleep With Her That Night, Say This At The End Of The Date-“I know you’re having a great time. Let’s head over to my place to cap things off.” This isn’t some euphemism or reverse psychology BS(i.e “hey let’s go watch a movie at my place”). Lead that bitch, let her know the plan; if she’s truly into you, she’ll follow your lead and go back to your place.
- If She Doesn’t Want to Sleep With You When She Comes Over, Tell Her You Have Work In The Morning So She Has To Leave Now
How To Detect Who’s Interested
Compliance Testing
When you meet a girl, shake her hand and try to spin her around. If she doesn’t let you spin her around, she’s not interested; she’s not compliant to your leadership. If a girl doesn’t allow you to do something so trivial as spinning her around, what in the world makes you think she’s going to agree to have sex with you?
Always Get The Number
While I am a firm believer that socially awkward men should avoid social media in order to lower the risk of being exposed for past mistakes/bad reputation, I understand that not everyone wants to live without a social media identity. There are also non-socially awkward men that will be using this post for some reference. A lot of men ask women for their social media account when approaching, or accept her social media account as a consolation prize when approaching for the number - “ I don’t give it my number but here’s my instagram”;Both of these situations are a hard no.
A woman breaks all sorts of boundary or rules for men that’s she’s truly attracted to. Woman are comfortable around men they are attracted to, so if a woman needs to establish some sort of communicative boundary in the form of giving you her social media account before giving up her number, then she’s simply not that attracted to you or noncompliant.
Side Piece: Their are some girls that may actually play “hard to get” but that is only one type of girl: a girl that knows you know how to find her. For example, the cashier at Walgreens knows that if she offers you her Instagram instead of her number during your first approach/initial conversation, there’s a chance you might come back another day try to game her up again. I personally think these girls are a bit of a waste of time just simply because their are plenty of girls that won’t play this manipulative tactic, but use discretion.
Where To Meet A Bunch Of Girls
- Female Artist/ R & B Concerts
- Festivals
- The Beach
- State School College Campuses (Bunch of Hot Girls)
Pick Up-Lines
“ I don’t think we’ve met, but let’s change that. I’m ___, what’s your name?”
“You look like the next heart I’m going to break”
“ I want you.”
“How would your boyfriend feel about us talking right now?”
“I need you in my life ”
“ You look like ex-girlfriend material”
Sexual Innuendos To Throw In Mid-Conversation
“You’re a good girl aren’t you?”
“You look like you do what your told”
“ Look me in the eyes when I’m talking to you”
“ You little rascal”
“ Someone has on the booty pants today!”
“You look like you’re looking for trouble”
“ You’re being a bad girl. I’m going to spank you.”
How To Have Great Sex
- Eat Her Out Before Anything Else
- Spit on Her Pussy
- Suck Her Tits
- Kiss Her Neck
- Choke Her
- Slap Her
- Spank Her
- Call Her a “dirty little slut” & “horny little bitch”
- Pull her hair
Texting/Calling
Rapid Fire- Call Within The First Three Days To Schedule A Date- Ideally Within The First 24 Hours. This Whole “ Three Day Rule” & “Act Unavailable” Rhetoric Is Stupid Unless You’ve Established A Rapport. Between Dating Apps, Nightlife, and Instagram DMs, women have ENDLESS options.
At the same time, most of these “options” are in actuality just simply looked at as passive income, validation that requires no real labor or input on their end. That’s why so many women give up their Instagram handle or number with no intention of responding; she doesn’t know you and odds are she’ll never see you again- but it still feels good to have a guy talking to himself in her messages. It still feels good to know a hot guy is into them.
The longer that you take to establish a memory, another moment, an experience with women, the further the initial moment that you had with her drifts from her mind.
The sooner you try to schedule a date the better. The sooner you go from “ guy I met at the park” to “ guy I went for drinks the better. The sooner you send “ Hey it’s _ from last night. Let’s grab a drink tonite! Does 6 or 7 work?” THE BETTER.
Fashion
- Wear All Black
- Wear Fitted Clothes
- Wear Chelsea Boots And Casual Leather Shoes
- Avoid Bright Colors
- Avoid Jewelry & Piercings
Here's a few style guides for reference:
https://johnlefevre.medium.com/125-style-tips-for-men-642400e9167a
https://johnlefevre.medium.com/how-to-dress-like-a-man-2018-edition-bbc904edd46a
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DNuDsHvBbAE
Fitness/Diet
Every man, regardless of body type, should do three sets of 50 pushups, sit-ups, and dips through the day. Diet should be anti inflammatory, excluding gluten, dairy, added sugars, and processed foods.
If You’re Fat
Fat guys need to eat at a calorie deficit. I personally don’t have time to calorie count, so I think your best bet is 1-2 meal a day, with very minimal carbs. Stick to a diet of only fruits, meats, and vegetables and watch how much weight you lose.
If You’re Skinny
Skinny guys need to eat at a caloric surplus, and lift. Their are some skinny guys that have narrow joints, small frame, ultra low body fat percentage, or ultra fast metabolism, so you need to either lift at a progressive overload or see an endocrinologist because your fast metabolism might actually really be hyperthyroidism; hyperthyroid medications can do wonders to treat it. Ultra low body fat can sometimes be genetic, so you’re simply going to have to hop on some creatine and potentially gain even more muscle then someone your weight and height may have normally have to in order to look big.
I want to continue to push the narrative that any man that’s awkward needs to immediately seek professional help to work on identifying social cues and/or to manage mental health related issues. That’s the biggest issue. Being socially awkward for some of us is more then just ranting on the internet all day, some men have had their reputations ruined, lost their freedom, and landed themselves on a sex offender list due to this shit.
Seek out an occupational therapist to directly help you with social cues and body language, along with an acting class to supplement that occupational therapy work. Seek out a speech therapist if you have a feminine or gay sounding voice. Finally, a psychiatrist (even though I’m against medication) can help with some medications for impulsivity and inattentive. (HUGE SOCIALLY AWKWARDNESS TRIGGERS).
If you’re in some deep shit or have never been psychologically tested or anything of that nature, get a nueropsch evaluation as well as that can entirely break down what’s wrong with you and how you can fix it; it’s a thorough examination.
If you’re going to see a therapist, please be very careful as many of them inhibit beta male culture telling you everything is okay and to love yourself. Make it very clear early on that you’re into redpill culture and looking to un-fuck your life sexually and socially; they’ll either respect that and help you, or try to promote some bullshit about how her “friends all like dad bods and short shy guys”. If they do the latter or you find yourself talking the majority of the sessions, get the fuck out of there.*\*
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