This guy is about to turn down a (probably) once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to work for Blizzard because his GF says if he loved her he'd stay in Indiana and see her every other weekend while she finishes grad school.

throwawaygonnathrow · 2013-06-25T06:33:15+00:00

If you loved me you'd ______.

If you hear those words, your shit test alarm should be going off. Evaluate the statement - if what she is saying is in her best interest and not in your best interest, then she is testing your value and seeing if you are so low value that you will choose to be reliant on her rather than fulfill your own interests and desires. She knows she has you by the balls if you fail a shit test of this magnitude. She will lose respect for you the moment you fail a shit test like this.

noblepaladin · 2013-06-25T04:47:13+00:00

And what are her goals?

She wants to become a professor in history and then take time off and teach part-time when babies arrive. I'd be the breadwinner.

sirpsycho3 · 2013-06-25T08:08:36+00:00

A women will try her hardest to make herself the first priority in a man, but when he does she loses respect for him. She's really doesn't want to be the priority contrary to what she says

Theophagist · 2013-06-25T08:43:29+00:00

She wants a sacrifice to feed her ego. I wouldn't be too terribly surprised when her attitude changes to disgust once she gets over the gesture of devotion and realizes she has a spineless lap-dog.

pirateundies · 2013-06-25T04:57:00+00:00

Tell her she's sacrificing his nice income if he doesn't go.

See how that gets processed.

betaprime · 2013-06-25T12:56:43+00:00

Bet you he caves and gives up his dream job, and she dumps his beta ass anyway for someone else.

I don't wish anyone misery, but there's no helping folks who won't help themselves.

AlwaysLateToThreads · 2013-06-25T09:29:37+00:00

My selfish ex pressured me to turn down a place at art school and I caved in, changing the course of my life forever, probably. It was my decision, of course, and my biggest and perhaps even my only regret.

Djbroan · 2013-06-25T11:37:55+00:00

Fuck that. He should be at Blizzard already. If Blizzard offers you a job, you take it.

Looks great on a resume.
The pay is said to be great.
Along with the gifts and trinkets and discounts you get, behind the scenes makes it look like a fun as hell place to work.

dreamingawake09 · 2013-06-25T05:32:40+00:00

Shit, I would take that opportunity in a heartbeat. If she isn't willing to tough it out, the she isn't worth it period.

Tronconaso · 2013-06-25T12:04:47+00:00

This guy is completely over thinking it. If she isn't supportive of his dreams, which he has probably expressed to her in the past, then she isn't the one for him. Nobody, male or female, should be selfish enough to deny their significant other an opportunity to fulfill a dream. The fact that he is even considering caving into her is sad to me. He needs to go ahead with or without her. If she is worthy of him, she will follow or work it out.

Sword11 · 2013-06-25T05:09:34+00:00

Yeah cause CA doesn't have schools like Berkeley, Stanford, UCSD... if you are business focused there are some other small but obscure schools

MuffDaddy99 · 2013-06-25T12:11:10+00:00

And she has the balls to tell him that if he really loved her he'd pick her over his career and lecture him about relationships requiring sacrifice.

A giant shit test.

angelothewizard · 2013-06-25T06:10:16+00:00

Oh god, my heart is breaking at this guy. It hurts to think of this.

essenceofsias · 2013-06-25T08:45:33+00:00

Oh this is almost certainly once in a lifetime. I have friends that work there...its almost unheard of to get one offer, let alone two.

W-Z-R · 2013-06-25T16:38:03+00:00

If he caves, she will lose attraction and he will have no girl and no dream job.

n0c0ntr0l · 2013-06-25T17:48:36+00:00

No girl is worth your dream. EVER! How can he even entertain her selfishness?!

[deleted] · 2013-06-25T17:31:24+00:00

This is where Blizzard is located:

https://maps.google.com/maps?q=131+theory+irvine+ca&ie=UTF-8&ei=kNPJUa_wB-bG0wG5g4HgCw&ved=0CAoQ_AUoAg

Look closely. Can anyone see a possible solution to the problem of him going to work and her going to school at the same time? I'm sure if they thought about it really hard, they might be able to come up with a solution.

johnsmith66 · 2013-06-25T19:14:50+00:00

It's kind of ironic that she says, "relationships require sacrifice," but she is unwilling to consider going to graduate school in California. She is expecting him to make all the sacrifices while she goes to graduate school to advance her career. She obviously doesn't care about him at all.

culofiesta · 2013-06-25T21:29:30+00:00

She knows that once he leaves Indiana and sees how much higher quality the women are in CA she has no chance.

Mooshaq · 2013-06-27T02:08:47+00:00

OP updated his post here - thankfully, he decided to take the job.

However, I do expect that we will be seeing him here at TRP in the next year or so...

chiffonade- · 2013-06-25T11:58:52+00:00

on the one hand, it's his career.

on the other hand, only a fucking fool would work for a video game company, an industry that is notorious for mercilessly exploiting technical staff.

in the end, the only choice is who he is going to be the bitch for.

[deleted] · 2013-06-25T16:27:09+00:00

Into the time machine we go to look at one possible future:

http://www.the-spearhead.com/2013/06/22/stephen-marche-let-there-be-socialized-daycare/

I feel for Mr. Marche. Giving up on your dreams must really be a letdown, but men have been doing this for family from the beginning. However, at least in the old days men were afforded a certain position and respect as “head of household.” But not anymore:

We were moving back to downtown Toronto, where people self-identify as socialists, so I expected open-mindedness. Yet the reaction to my reduced professional status and stepped-up involvement in child-rearing was sharply divided along generational lines. Among Baby Boomers, classic gender stereotypes prevailed. To them, I had become “the woman” and my wife had become “the man.” Boomer men could not wrap their heads around what I had done, while the women would smile an amazed smile, their eyes glinting with a touch of self-satisfaction. A younger generation was completing what they had begun.

Among people my own age, the reaction was more complicated. Our story possessed a sort of circumscribed romance: to academic friends, the idea that I had given up a tenure-track appointment was like the Charge of the Light Brigade—glorious professional suicide. At any rate, most friends and acquaintances in roughly my age group at least understood the nature of the decision. They appreciated that chasing jobs was part of 21st-century life, and that marriage sometimes requires sacrifice. Well over half my male friends have wives who make more money than they do. Nonetheless, in social life, I found myself more and more of an addendum: “This is Stephen. He’s Sarah’s wife.”

Poor guy — this is all too familiar to me. What he didn’t realize was that his compliance and submission to his wife would not win him any favors. Without being taught otherwise, we men tend to think that being reasonable and giving in will evoke the same response in wives that it would in husbands, but this isn’t the case. Too often, we must learn the hard way, and for Marche that meant being treated like “the wife” at his wife’s journalist social events. Sounds like hell on earth to me, but hey, she’s making good money, so it must be worth it…

Gold_Silverman · 2013-06-25T19:30:51+00:00

How could this woman possibly ever respect him again if he turns down this job for her. Afterwards she knows that she owns him.

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