Hard theory: 'value management' and the no fucks zone. From a rp raised male.

Foreward:  This guide is intentionally written without using hard or classical terminology. If you want that, check the side bar glossary and readings. That being said, without having read the side bar or primed yourself over a while of lurking, this guide still should prove to be comprehensively accessible. Edit- if you find value in this share it. The sooner we remove the misconceptions the better we can all grow.

Disclaimer

Don't like what I have to say? Don't care. Leave a contrary post but at least do the community a service and back it up. I'm not here to please you. This guide won't help you get pussy? You likely don't understand value. This guide doesn't use rp dialect? See above, 'the forward' I'm here to help because I need to collect my thoughts.

Topics:

First off, banqueting, implying a very select clientele at an event you completely control. This section will aid any individual in recognizing how to manage value, internal, and external, and the functions in regards to how the world views your value.

Second off, the no fucks zone. How to place yourself solidly there. I've helped many understand the path towards gaining the zone and maintaining it. This section will help explain what it is, what it is NOT, and how to begin realizing you're already using it commonly. 'That's right, you are.'

First: Value, Banqueting and selfish charity.  Posts about value are all over trp and mrp, how to increase it, internal vs external, how to measure both, etc. Throughout this section imagine, as my dad and granddad taught me, that you're running a banquet, and value is on the menu 24/7. It is your cost and your profit.

What is value? Value is what the world sees in you and wants. Quite simply, if others want it, it has value. This is not to confuse it with being strictly external value, as value comes in flavors, internal, and external.

Internal value is anything which improves what others want from you by improving yourself. These values are important in that they cannot be taken from you except in extreme circumstance. This is why trp always says to newcomers, GO LIFT. GO READ. It's true, it's a good start. Other noted internal values are education, above average levels of field specific training, temperance, fortitude, experience, and integrity. Internal value is how you go about securing external value, as it is your fuel for your external expenses. A high internal value lets you gain external value more often and at a larger magnitude.

External value is important as well, though it has a cost. External value can also be taken from you at a moments notice, tragedy, misfortune, or even some idiot with a knife can separate you from your external value. Things like nice cars, clothing that is trendy, or being in the bosses evoked set can shift quickly and with barely any warning, and require a large upkeep of energy. Keep in mind external value isn't only physical, charity and trust are also external, as well as your public image. 'Charity especially should be treated as incredibly high maintenance'

How to treat, build, and spend value?  Treat internal value as a long term stock investment. Build it, build your portfolio, and your passive income will replenish faster and at a larger amount right? When you buy that nice car or refresh your wardrobe yearly, or want a classy night on the town, it's better coming out of the yearly passive income than your monthly active income isn't it? The same goes for internal value as opposed to external. On to the metaphor.

You are what the world sees you do.  If you're a person who is constantly adding value to the world, people will want a slice of it, who doesn't want nice shit? Everyone thinks they have something to trade, many think they can get some free! The world is endlessly hungry, bigger, better, and stronger than you. It will fuck you. It will consume everything at your banquet and leave nothing for you. This is why at your buffet that value MUST come from excess. As a buffet dwindles in size what happens? The fast starters move to a new table, most will lag about until competition is too fierce, some will close the shop and lick the plates. If you're really bad at managing your value, you will eventually have nothing left to fuel yourself, you will first lose external value, and damage your internal.

"The man who kills a man, kills a man, the man who kills himself, kills all men." G.k. Chesterton. Do not kill yourself 'and all future opportunities' by outspending your value.

You must internalize that to give value for free is suicide. There must always be a sufficient exchange.

You must always focus your time on increasing the size and quality of your banquet. Since the goal of any rp individual is to increase net value, you need to consider others into your equation. Connections are the biggest external value asset you can tap into, but you must be selective in who sits at the table. Both because you are the company you keep, and also because it creates scarcity 'in access' to a real bounty of resources, 'your hard built buffet, your value'. This especially falls into the realm of charity, give selfishly or not at all.

Anyone who comes to your table can beg, but they have to be a VIP to be seated. This isn't to say you don't calculate the value of playing the benevolent God, it actually raises interest in the table when done correctly as others believe there's a chance at entry. This is the massive, singular value saver in saying NO. Say no when anything and anyone isn't cost effective. This shouldn't even be difficult, if you really understand the above you know how important it is to safeguard your internal and external value. Would you allow someone who walked up and demanded 4 hours worth of cash from you to open your wallet and help themselves? No? Good. Then don't let some random non VIP eat from YOUR value banquet without trading the same in THEIR value to you.

Your value is a limited resource, very limited.  The less time you spend building your internal value, the less often it can be spent without damaging it's replenishment rate. It is an upkeep that only grows and never ends. Its a buffet that always needs new better bigger courses added, you are the owner, bouncer, and host, and you're using that surplus of internal value to purchase/attract others who bring you external value. No one will save you except yourself, the world does not care about you and if allowed, will try to consume you. Do not be jaded about this fact. Be happy. The world is dependable, now you know where you stand.

It is your duty to improve yourself So that you can add value to those that can add value to you in kind. It is the ultimate truth of anyone who expects to gain anything from the world in a meaningful way.

For this reason I heavily suggest doing as I do, and applying the 80/20 rule. 80 percent of your time should be spent increasing internal value while only 20% should be used purchasing external value. Before you schedule going to the club, 'which costs you time, an opportunity cost everyone must be aware of' make sure your schedule includes 4 times as much for internal value building. Lifting, education, public speaking training, podcasts, whatever it takes, most of your day should be focused on improving internal value. When you go out to open the doors to your buffet not only can you have peace of mind and focus solely on managing the clientele, you will have clients begging to trade with you.

General rules of banqueting if you have a high income job, hell, general for anyone.

1: don't ever discuss money around women. Not how much you make, not what you do, not what you're worth.

2: don't ever offer to pay for anything. She probably just by speaking to you has figured out you're in the upper demographic, maybe from what you wear, maybe the car you drive, massive because you swipe that card a little too casually.

3: no gifts. If she asks drop her.

4: no 'emergency handouts'. Couldn't make rent? Not my problem. Need something for class? Not my problem. I need a morning after pill? You'll pay me back 'or we split it'

5: modesty. Don't flaunt what you have. Ever. Advertising external value excess damages your position, defaulting it to provider. Advertise only internal value excess.

6: everything is a contract. The world wants to eat you, if your relation is landing you a net loss, 'like a business deal' note how it happened and signs. Drop the deal. Learn for the future.

7: if she checks out, and you want more, pre nup or gtfo. No questions asked. If she resists even in the slightest, you made a misjudgement, get over it, there are others.

Don't invite people to look into your nest. They need to earn that information.

Upcoming-the zone