What does Rejection mean to a redpiller?

TheeRyanGrey · 2013-11-24T09:48:04+00:00

Real men don't run from failure and we don't run from self-loathing. We use these great tools to find chinks in our armor and turn them into strong points.

I'm an overweight black kid from a poor ass family so trust me my dude, i've been rejected a lot, by everyone and everything. Everything from women to jobs to my aspirations in music. But each rejection makes me stronger; I'm addicted to that shit: I spend every day searching for rejection, hoping someone finds a weakness in my armor I haven't found yet.

If you're not failing you're either at the mountaintop or not trying hard enough to get there.

HumanSockPuppet · 2013-11-24T11:13:58+00:00

She doesn't know what she's missing.

8bitbaddy · 2013-11-24T13:59:06+00:00

so6p · 2013-11-24T09:54:11+00:00

Hurt from rejection will come only from a mentality that says something on the lines: "There must be something wrong with me." (insecurity) "Why does this happen to only me?" (insecurity) "What if this was my only chance?" (scarcity mentality)

See it. Understand why you feel the way you feel. Improve.

Rejection just becomes a rare golden opportunity to become a better version of yourself.

Having said that, just being of a self-loving personality I choose not to barge into situations where a girl can unnecessarily hurt me (quality girls know how to reject like adults). Believe me, lots of girls out there are hurt, have daddy issues, not right in the head, etc. and they are always on a lookout to take some frustration out on a dude. Who better a target than some man who is trying to woo her and who she isn't interested in as much.

No point allowing some chick to thrown her emotional shit into your soul. Pussy ain't that important. If it comes easy, good. If it doesn't, well I've other fishes to fry in my life than getting pussy - career, friends, family, hobbies. This just means you will only go for girls worthy of taking that risk.

One statement that stuck with me from "The Girl Next Door" (man, I was young and naive back when that movie came out. Aah.. sweet memories). I say always make sure that "the juice is worth the squeeze".

2013-11-24T09:37:12+00:00

You're too busy to get bent out of shape over rejection. Figure out what you could have done better, adjust, and move on. DON'T linger needlessly in those emotions and make sure you consciously identify ways in which you can improve.

dregofsociety · 2013-11-24T11:24:04+00:00

Nothing.means nothing at all.

2013-11-24T09:39:44+00:00

You can only be hurt by something that means a lot to you. Why would you take rejection personally? You (should) have a great life, friends, hobbies, stuff you love, so there is no reason to let a simple rejection fuck you over.

Middleman79 · 2013-11-24T13:27:54+00:00

Couldn't give two fucks. Move on. It's a numbers game.

nicethingyoucanthave · 2013-11-24T16:04:16+00:00

Rejection is just part of life. Not a big deal. In fact, if you're not getting rejected then maybe you're not aiming high enough.

icallmyselfmonster · 2013-11-24T10:29:47+00:00

Rejection is great, especially if it is clear cut, it means you dont have to expend more resources on a fish you will never land. You can move on.

Whats worse is if a woman had rejected you mentally, but feigns interest to keep you around, you can fall into the orbiter / friendzone / wrong ladder easily. When you have invested more its harder to walk away.

Talkshitgethit · 2013-11-24T16:40:48+00:00

It used to cripple me when I was in my late teens/early twenties. Now it doesn't bother me, it lets me know that I don't have to waste time with this woman anymore.

2013-11-24T17:38:57+00:00

her loss

FriendInHead · 2013-11-24T12:43:53+00:00

Rejected? Oh well, not my loss.

You won't get from approach to sex, approach to kiss, hell you may not get a number each and every time.

Don't take it personally, sometimes people are just having shit days and want to be left alone.

roue_ · 2013-11-24T19:15:10+00:00

Rejection to me is a validation of your courage to take a risk. It makes you better than every man out there that was to afraid to try.

Hateblade · 2013-11-24T23:44:12+00:00

Rejection means "not this time."

pcadrian · 2013-11-24T16:20:27+00:00

The way I look at it, if I get rejected, it just means that particular woman wasn't interested in me. This frees up my time so I can go pursue women who are interested.

VZPurp · 2013-11-24T17:43:29+00:00

Rejection means reflect and move. It only feels like shit if you let it. If you dwell on a rejection you've stopped in your tracks. There are more people to interact with.

As you go along and gain experience, learn from your interactions and listen to those more successful.

Influence

Friends

trplurker · 2013-11-25T01:30:57+00:00

Rejection is her self selecting out of my dating pool. Geting over AA, which is where the fear of rejection is being applied, just requires you to go out and get rejected 100 times. Eventually you'll realize that it doesn't actually hurt you, that the fear of pain is entirely inside your own mind and thus subject to your control. That's why the fun starts.

MockingDead · 2013-11-25T01:33:55+00:00

Outwardly, each rejection should be met with bemusement.

Inwardly you can determine if it's worthy of self-reflection. Sometimes they just don't like it.

gmflag · 2013-11-25T03:27:21+00:00

It is just another learning opportunity. Rejection is a favor to you. That is the beauty of rejection. Rejection, failure, mistakes, etc. they all fall along the same lines.

Like u/TheeRyanGrey said, if you're not failing you're either at the mountaintop or not trying hard enough to get there.

MahlerNinth · 2013-11-25T12:43:40+00:00

The only real rejection occurs when I am not happy with myself. Self-rejection hurts, when you feel you're unmotivated, or unfit, or anything like that. As long as you're accepting of yourself, your motives, your body and everything else about you, others' approval/rejection should not matter.

2013-11-25T17:47:42+00:00

Rejection? Why would I care if that girl rejects me, her loss im fucking awesome!

complete_asshole_ · 2013-11-25T23:54:07+00:00

Nothing other than you need to reconfigure to get satisfactory results. It's like engineering, you don't just use the same non-working approach over and over again, you create something new and if that doesn't work you go back to the drawing board and try, try, try again.

People are just problems to be solved, don't get too bogged down in the minutiae since there are shared characteristics to every problem to be exploited.

complete_asshole_ · 2013-11-26T00:03:15+00:00

Pain is weakness leaving the body.

2013-11-25T03:44:16+00:00

What does Rejection mean to a redpiller?

A single instance of rejection means nothing (abundance mentality).

A consistent pattern of rejection means that you should re-evaluate your approach.

RejectionEquality · 2013-11-24T23:53:02+00:00

Rejection is something that I give to women that I deem unworthy of my attention.

As such, most women get rejected. Which is great for me because it means I have plenty of time to lift weights, do science, make money, and get things done.

Even when I cast my magic "want to fuck me" spell, it's not uncommon that I change my mind after the fact.

Rejection is the name of the game. Like your mom told you, it doesn't matter who wins or loses, it's how you play.

^She ^says ^"hello" ^and ^wants ^you ^to ^call ^her, ^BTW.

Title	What does Rejection mean to a redpiller?
Author	24hrpleasure
Upvotes	25
Comments	30
Date	November 24, 2013 9:24 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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