What has helped you most while transitioning from blue pill to red pill?

2014-02-08T05:42:26+00:00

Remembering how bad my shit got RUINED after my first LTR. I was killing it in college, had access to quality pussy and was on my way to living the life I wanted to live. I get deep in this one chick for 3 years and when that ended...the shock set in regarding how much I sacrificed for someone who never really gave me anything except a wet hole to stick my dick in.

50-cal · 2014-02-08T03:11:05+00:00

Cheating ex crumbling the world view.

unsungman · 2014-02-08T02:12:56+00:00

Myself. When I first found TRP (the subreddit...not the concept since I've been reading Heartiste way back when it was "Roissy" before the new URL) there was a huge focus on self improvement, recovery, emotional development, transition, etc.

Seeing daily posts about that really got me in "grind mode" for fitness, career, money management, mentality, etc. This got me "addicted" to progress. Currently, I'm only happy if I'm improving so my "happiness" is no longer as dependent on women as it used to be. This is good.

I'm only saying this because it was that inner drive which helped me the most. TRP can be helpful for consulting/inspiration purposes if used sparingly but to be honest you shouldn't rely upon TRP subreddit 100% to push you through the transition completely.

As you work on improving yourself from what you read here...you may develop a certain "bond" with TRP as a subreddit. Just remember that your accomplishments are a result of your own actions. As are your failures. There have been contributors here and there who have encouraged me...but in the end it was me that helped myself.

Nowadays? I only come on here for entertainment or to give my 2cents for decent inquiries such as this. And quite frankly, it should be your own desire to grow/improve/evolve that should help you. Not some contributor or dedication to an online community. There will be contributors who will give an honest, helpful 2cents and others will just be general faceless pricks behind a computer screen. That's anywhere on the Internet, though. Relying on the people who make up this subreddit is inconsistent. Relying on what this subreddit stands for (sidebar material) will be more consistent in helping you push on.

Point is, I wouldn't rely exclusively on daily posts, personal anecdotes, and the "interaction" component of TRP to "help" you transition. Commit to theory and action on your behalf. Do that, and you'll get to the point where you'll come here for a good chuckle and then realize that you're wasting time on TRP when you can be outside in the real world EXECUTING theory instead of reading what other people have to say about it.

cagethepepper · 2014-02-08T02:22:07+00:00

Try not to be angry. If you have to rant, don't rant in front of people which are valuable to you. Avoid doing that until TRP has solidified in your mind for a longer time and the anger passes.

What I found helpful was spending time with my hobbies. Even going out with friends, simply to see TRP in action and smirking to myself. And movies. It's funny to see movies and spotting the differences between being ridiculously TRP and ridiculously TBP.

Transformer6 · 2014-02-08T01:49:34+00:00

Well for me it's like realizing that you were lied to and you now know . Because my whole life I tried to be a model , I treated girls nice and showed respect , I had my heart on my sleeve and yet I was still not making any progress and i was always passed up which was depressing and lonley but now I'm like fuck it , the redpill gave me an advantage of knowing their b.s and my flaws so the ball is going to come in my half of the field so it's only a matter of time before I do a 360

logically_ · 2014-02-08T11:30:59+00:00

For me the matrix analogy was really apt.. that feeling that something is "off" with the world. That the prevailing wisdom was wrong. To find out these thoughts I had were not only true, but rooted in evolution and biology was/is very liberating.

2014-02-08T08:10:31+00:00

Long story short, my ex broke something in me. I got angry and never looked back.

Namerali · 2014-02-08T07:06:29+00:00

Fucked to many ugly women (1 or 2s/10) on the blue pill. Then I fucked my first 7.5 or 8/10. After than I knew the blue pill could only get me low quality girls, I switched to TRP.

neurosurg · 2014-02-08T21:11:02+00:00

Over a year ago, I lived with 2 female roommates (post-college party girls). While I hadn't really gotten into TRP at that point, I was familiar with game and I was quickly realizing that my desire for an idealized, BP relationship was essentially in vain. They seemed like fun girls at first, but I couldn't have been more wrong.

While living there, I got to experience firsthand some of the most over-developed hamsters in existence. Since the walls were thin and they would screech like harpies when their friends were around, I was privvy to conversations that caused me to be both fascinated and revolted. I'd hear them loudly complain about their dating woes, meeting creeps online, and rationalizing getting drunk and taking new alpha cock every weekend. Yet still, I'd often hear them whine, "Why can't I just meet a good guy?!" It all got very annoying after a few weeks. I was living in a test tube filled with all the ingredients we talk about here at TRP. The you-go-grrl validation they'd get from their friends. Their evangelical, empowered-modern-woman-feminist beliefs which I'd get to hear about while cooking dinner. It got to the point where I didn't even enjoy having casual conversations with them.

In the end, I made a big mistake by sleeping with both of them (actually, I first slept with one, and when the other found out, she jealously seduced me so that she could be the one getting the male attention). When everything came out, the dramatic hysteria and pure contempt they both displayed toward me was enough to make me move out within a month.

Not long after, I discovered TRP, and I haven't looked back.

Cruising74 · 2014-02-08T03:23:25+00:00

In addition to the other comments I found setting small goals useful.

One thing I did at the start was look at my social interactions for any 'beta' tendencies. I noticed I was bad at eye contact so made it a goal for each day for two weeks. It was so simple to remember and the changes were amazing. I found people listening to me more, following advice and were much more willing to follow requests and instructions. This positive feedback made me more assertive in general and improved my body language as well eg I started using more open body language when asking for things. All from deciding to look people straight in the eye when interacting.

I then identified other small improvements. Really got things moving for me.

2014-02-08T03:26:39+00:00

Memories and the fact that dominance garners respect. Almost every time I read around here about someone that used dominance to hold or keep respect in a situation, that is similar to and calls back a memory, I see why things happened the way they did. I take note of it and try to use it. The transition has only just begun.

GayLubeOil · 2014-02-08T03:45:01+00:00

http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1uya6e/the_red_pill_chose_me/

2014-02-08T05:49:43+00:00

I've come to the red pill on my own when one too many girls friendzoned me, leached off of my money and emotions only to go off screwing assholes or girlfriends that cheated on me with said assholes. This subreddit got me out of depression and gave me motivation to actually become one of the assholes.

I will no longer be the type that gets cheated on, now I'll be the one they cheat with.

redpillbanana · 2014-02-08T07:56:08+00:00

Think about how many women throw themselves in front of their boyfriends or husbands to protect them when someone starts firing a gun.

Doctor_Mayhem · 2014-02-08T17:06:59+00:00

Spite.

jolly--roger · 2014-02-09T14:52:06+00:00

my own brain.

the change has to come within. This subreddit, all the articles, comments, books, videos, ... they're guides, show you the landing strip, but you have to land your aircraft on your own.

and after the time passes and you refuel, you'll take off on an entirely new trip. an inherently better one.

elpezadent · 2014-02-08T04:27:45+00:00

Reading books like sun zu's art of war, listening to Patrice O'Neil, watching George Carlin's specials, personal experience, and going through posts taking what I can and expelling things that are useless. What helped me get on this track was the no fap challenge, during the challenge I was sexually frustrated and confused why I couldn't get it in. This caused me to take a serious hard look at my interactions with woman. Started doing some homework and found trp. Putting what I learned from no fap into my trp and things have on the upswing. It isn't about the destination its the journey my friends. So don't get too hung if your not mr suave after a couple of weeks.

magx01 · 2014-02-08T16:13:52+00:00

Seeing blue pillers make the same mistakes over and over and never once question the underlying wisdom of their life choices as well as doing the same myself for many years.

Kimjungillestt · 2014-02-09T04:08:30+00:00

Got cheated on when I was nice to a girl I put everything I had into. She laughed when I cried. I moved on and a few months later I manned up and stole this girl from her boyfriend. We had some drinks. My attitude got me to fuck her. And that's when it hit me that being nice doesn't do shit except be safety blankets for bitches after they get done swallowing cum and they want someone to cuddle with at the end of the night. If you want to fuck bitches then act like you already fuck bitches and know what you're doing. Be aggressive and don't give a god damn.

drallcom3 · 2014-02-10T03:01:38+00:00

I realized that being a nice guys rarely helped me with the women. I was often called "nice". It was hard to realize that having your own opinions ("frame"), even if the women in question doesn't agree, is actually attractive. Becoming fit instead of skinny and having a good job fueled the neccessary self-esteem for that.

2014-02-10T15:31:52+00:00

Age, with age I simply began to give less of a fuck an in a weird way that increased my attractiveness and I was astonished by that fact.

I mean, imagine the situation when you are a 28 years old - it was around 2007 or so - professional but still living in a shared house, and a 26 years old average looking female housemate suddenly tells you she is in love with you? Imagine that you are fat - fairly strong because you do lift but you are fat, because you have fuck for a diet - drink 4-5 beers a day and she knows it, you have a bit of a lazy body hygiene, rarely getting a haircut, everybody knows your room is super dirty, and pretty much have given up on women? You mostly ignore her and the other housemates, occasionally you tell them to fuck off, occasionally in a good mood you engage in a bit of a banter - you are witty, but your wit is cutting, you tend to be critical of people and your way of making fun is highly sarcastic and critical of others? And occasionally share with her your fairly scary, "dark enlightenment" type philosophical ideas? And pretty much every time you are not in the mood to banter you just tell her to fuck off? Basically you are a huge curmudgeon? Sounds like the worst possible candidate for a boyfriend?

And this all somehow makes her fall in love. Which is like the craziest shit ever. First she just invites you to tag along when going to place, usually you tell fuck no, sometimes you are in the mood and go, and she finds it amusing how you manage to find a fault in every single person you meet in a sarcastic way, she says this morosity is somehow cute. You think whatever. And then one day, drunk, a bit high she breaks down crying and tells you you are the love of her life. WTF. Can you imagine that? At that point you really have to rethink how women function.

Okay, okay one can always say people are different and yes, they are. But when you see one example that is the literal opposite of what everybody told you, even if you assume it is just a bit of a statistical outlier things begin to look different.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-02-14T06:40:50+00:00

Lifting weights, getting in shape, learning game and USING IT to dread game my wife. Then telling her point blank I intended to go spin plates unless she gave me respect (I am the leader and what I say matters) and affection (a 10 second kiss every day) and a reasonable amount of sex (twice a week at a minimum). In return I would be her loving, affectionate, Beta Bitch (not because SHE wants the work done because I want it done for MY house) but never forget the game and frame. Still working on digesting TRP but amazing how taking control of your relationship and getting all the sex you want changes things. Works the same way out of a relationship- probably better.

Kwizkey · 2014-02-08T14:41:08+00:00

Become genuinely selfish. Yes, it sounds counter-intuitive but it is a good way to stop putting everyone else's needs before your own. I know too many guys who are BP and go about trying to please others in their own interests ie; they want something out of it. Stop beating around the bush and become more blunt and decisive. As too many people are pussies they respect the few who aren't. The main result from this is happiness. You find more friends, you do more things and people want a part in your life.

Title	What has helped you most while transitioning from blue pill to red pill?
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Date	February 8, 2014 1:25 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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