Whats the deal with bartenders getting massive amounts of pussy? Myth or Fact?

_MrMan_ · 2013-11-27T14:23:23+00:00

Being a bartender has status in the actual bar. It's the same as the DJ. You are effectively above everyone else there besides the owner. You're in a position of authority and power. You are the one who chooses who gets drinks first. You have free reign to talk to anybody there and nobody would think its weird. In fact they welcome it so they get better service.

It's more high social proof than high smv.

StasisNation · 2013-11-27T23:44:27+00:00

So, here's the deal. Bouncer here. The bartenders at my bar pull girls all the time, it's as simple as that. But what kind of people are bartenders?

Centre of attention, everyone wants the bartender to pay attention, give special attention, hell, ignore others even. People tip their favourites high simply for conversation or to monopolize time.
Free drinks are nice, but bartenders have a lot of control in the bar. They dictate who needs to leave when. Piss off a bartender? Have a good night somewhere else. Touch our bartenders and you eat shit.
Bartenders themselves have to be fun people. If they want to make tips, they have to be likeable, engaging, hard working people. But they don't have to take shit from anyone. Your money isn't worth it to them.

In short, good bartenders are your basic definition of Redpillers. They have to be to be good at their job. I'd argue they have plenty of access , and plenty of SMV, so it's just easier for them than other people. Why have SMV/Access when you can have both?

[deleted] · 2013-11-27T16:43:26+00:00

Multiple reasons.

Access. They are constantly around drunk women.
SMV. They're the "Boss" of the bar, which grants them instant status there.
Conversational skills. They do this for a living, they don't give a shit if the girl really likes them or not, so they don't throw the needy vibe out which is half the game.

PaulRivers10 · 2013-11-27T19:06:46+00:00

They don't make much money ( unless it's a special venue )

For SMV, women generally don't care how much money you make as long as you can afford your own place and to go out and have fun.

and going around saying your a bartender isn't exactly high fucking status.

You're wrong. The bartender at a bar basically runs the show. He has a huge amount of social proof, everyone who interacts with him enters his frame, everyone there wants him to like them (even if it's only a tiny bit, but it's a whole room full of people), etc etc etc. Plus of course there definitely is the simple "access" factor that you mention as well.

They don't control who can get into the venue either like a doorman does.

The bouncer or doorman is usually much lower status than the bartender. He lets people in, yes - but he doesn't go in himself. He's not part of the party. He's not part of the action. He's not part of the fun.

The bouncer is like the chaperone at the school dance, or the person selling tickets at the counter.

Their interaction with people is also different - bouncers are fairly adversarial. They have to be. They have to be ready to interact with the lowest common denominator of people who are coming to the bar. It means they have to act in a way to indicates lower social status, usually.

I agree that access is very important, I don't think this is a good example of that. The bartender has a huge amount of SMV as part of his job.

dreguan · 2013-11-27T19:13:42+00:00

Best not to confuse correlation with causation. Its not like being behind a bar gets you laid but being charming and outgoing well kept and good looking gets you both behind a bar and laid.

[deleted] · 2013-11-27T16:17:11+00:00

Bartenders have social value and status in their bar. They can decide who gets drinks first, they can hook up drinks for cheap. Girls just want the edge over the other girls they're with so even something like "I know the bartender" is huge. Bartenders are better looking on average, they have to look nice at work and were probably chosen for the job based on appearance (at least a little bit).

They also practice talking to people for living, they will never have to do an awkward cold approach. The girl comes up to them when she wants a drink, they chat, then when the bartender is off the girl is already drunk and knows who the bartender is. The girl's friends also know who the bartender is so they will let her go home with him. Even though the connection is vague they feel like they can trust the bartender because they know where he works. He was pouring their drinks all night and they didn't get roofie'd so he must be an alright guy, right?

All these things contribute so yes, bartenders do get a lot of pussy.

Source: Ex bartender

BIG_Daddy_Government · 2013-11-27T15:32:14+00:00

Personal Experience Here:

waitresses came and went during seasons, most give BJs under the table, get fucked after work by us. Hostess had a boyfriend, din't stop her from getting fingered all the time. Drunk girls saturday late into the night would dance everywhere. most girls would throw themselves at us, poking their tits in our faces, giving us their numbers, holding our hands firmly. After work was over, we picked girls to our place to fuck for the night.

To answer your first question. Most bartenders i know do get massive amounts of pussy. Fact.

throwaway2arguewith · 2013-11-27T18:02:13+00:00

It depends on the venue.

It was ok in a "real" bar, but other locations (more food oriented), we were just viewed as the "help".

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gohammer3 · 2013-11-27T15:02:43+00:00

Worked as a busser at a bar and the bartemders I worked with could get pussy at a drop of a hat. My manager would always leave a large box of condoms in the staff washroom.

trudatness · 2013-11-28T03:21:21+00:00

Was a bartender - got more ass than a toilet seat.

Shooter-Mcgavinn · 2013-11-27T17:22:07+00:00

Bartender here. Yes I get more pussy bein behind the bar than In front of it. It's kinda like being in charge of the party. And women love power in any form. I don't let people in, but piss me off and you won't be staying. Plus like you said, we already get to have a reason to talk to women, so they don't auto assume I'm just trying to fuck. And as far as money goes? I can make 400 dollars in two days. Friday and Saturday. Working 8-2. 12 total hours. And that's just tips. Not including the 10 I make an hour. That 520/12 hrs. Or a little or 43 an hour. Chump change huh? Also I'm very good at being witty and have great social skills. All put on display when I'm behind the bar. And women eat that shit up. Plus just being able to kick people out and flex any power you have, I've seen girls eat that shit up too. And if you would see half the shit I see guys do or say when trying to pick up women, it not that hard for me to chase you off cause you're a drunk ass and then look like a hero.

Edit: and it's not just customers I've fucked. Lotta staff also. I'm super terrible with company ink.

fodosho · 2013-11-27T23:16:24+00:00

They get quantity but not quality. Picking up the passed out fat chick at the bar when you are closing and mopping up puke and piss isn't the kind of life I'd live. I'd prefer to be a customer pick up the 8-10's and go home with them instead.

VodkaTankerSpill · 2013-11-27T14:24:23+00:00

HHe is always in the spotlight so to say, kinda like a social hub of the venue.

Shooter-Mcgavinn · 2013-11-28T02:37:58+00:00

Stinfsirly new here guys and learning. Could someone explain what smv is?

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Title	Whats the deal with bartenders getting massive amounts of pussy? Myth or Fact?
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Date	November 27, 2013 2:00 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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