https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P2AUat93a8Q
Transcript

Some useful insights, but more or less it boils down to excitement in boring relationships, aka alpha fucks.

Here's an interview of the speaker:

https://archive.is/rbh7e

Perel: That’s the one word I hear, worldwide—alive! That’s why an affair is such an erotic experience. It’s not about sex, it’s about desire, about attention, about reconnecting with parts of oneself you lost or you never knew existed. It’s about longing and loss. But the American discourse is framed entirely around betrayal and trauma.

The feminine imperative is strong with her talk, and while she doesn't frame the discussion around women who cheat, it's clear that's what this is constructed around. It's just a whole lot of rationalization hamster to justify and excuse cheating.