why i decided to go monk

SplashArtist · 2015-07-04T07:35:17+00:00

wanna get over your social anxiety? Put yourself out there into social situations. Wanna get pussy but too scared to make the moves to do it? Make the moves. Super simple. And you can have as many excuses as you want and tell me how it isn't that simple, but it doesn't change the fact that it is and you're just rationalizing your way out of getting out of your comfort zone because you secretly LIKE it.

evileddy · 2015-07-04T05:12:26+00:00

Have you tried escorts? Seriously. Not hookers.. an escort.

Might as well pay them to practice your sex moves.

Think of it as going to the gym.. for your dick.

cascadecombo · 2015-07-04T05:14:06+00:00

I think monk mode is best for me so I can learn to separate my self worth from pussy.

Waste of your time, fucking waste of your time.

Do what a smart person would do, if you want to get over anxiety. Not only with women, put yourself in that situation more frequently until you are normalized to it.

http://rejectiontherapy.com/rules/

Try challenging yourself instead of running away, pussy. You will reap the rewards of your new found boldness in several aspects of life.

NeoreactionSafe · 2015-07-04T12:13:48+00:00

No Charm, No Love

If you can be disciplined in this things will get better.

Back in the old, old days women were expected to Charm men. It was just assumed that women played the feminine role and used their physical attraction combined with a Charming (Charm means they seek you out and study you) personality to get you interested so that one day you would be their Captain in life and she would be your loyal Firstmate.

These days this is all backwards...

Men go around Charming women like they are themselves women.

You must stop this and Kill the Beta.

So in the future if a woman does not Charm you stick to the rule and let no Romantic sensation emerge towards her.

Lust combined with your brain produces Romance which is not Love.

Love is being the Captain. Love is Proud and never Needy.

Know what is misguided Lust (beta Romance) and what is Love. (Captain Red Pill)

And if you aren't Loving a woman feel free to fuck the slut... No Charm, No Love. (Lust only)

Love is held in reserve for only the obedient and Charming woman.

trpSenator · 2015-07-04T21:53:50+00:00

I'm with you brother, I'm probably one of the few endorsed guys around here going into monk mode. It's my second time at it, again after making some heavily aggressive financial moves which didn't pan out (Oooh entrepreneurship, you can be such a mean bitch at times). Then got a normal persons job, and realized how fucking plebe and boring it was. So I'm putting my head back down and going to hit the grind.

Going monk, imo, is the best thing a guy can do for himself in the long run. It's all about removing distractions and laser focusing on on goals.

Here is what I do, and I recommend you do as well (I learned this is a method many very successful people do to stay on track):

Set some clear goals, both short term and long term. Then figure out what you need to do to achieve those goals. Then get one of those big ass fucking calendars and mark those goals down on the appropriate dates. And in between those dates, mark down your tasks you need to complete on each required day in between.

Say for instance, you want to lose 10 pounds as a short term goal, within the next 2 months. Great, so mark down that down 2 months out. Then in between, write down "Go to the Gym" on 3-4 days each week. Then on 5-6 of those days write down, "Maintain diet".

Then EVERY SINGLE night, before you go to bed, check off those boxes on that big fucking calendar.

Then as time goes on, you'll start to see those x marks filling up the calendar, and it'll start making you proud. It's like watching a strategy all going to plan. You start feeling like you're completing a game. So next time you are lazy and think, "Uggg, I don't want to go to the gym" you can look at that big fucking calendar and you'll think, "Fuck, I haven't missed a day in 3 weeks. I can't have that calendar have a big mark of failure on it. I can't allow myself to break this winning streak."

And do this with EVERYTHING on your list of goals. You want a new skills? Mark that shit down. Want to finish a book to learn about something that'll help you? 3 days a week better have a 1 hour time slot ready to be marked off.

Do this with everything. It's like balancing your budget, but instead, it's balancing your time. And time is the most valuable finite resource any human being can have, so don't fucking waste it on bullshit.

I don't know your exact goals, but you can always message me sometime, and we can go over them. But if I were to guess from what you've provided I'd start with creating a plan involving:

Gym time. Set some fitness goals for yourself and start hitting that as soon as possible.
Solving social anxiety. Go get some books, make some time in there to read them, absorb them. And then set small milestone goals as well as activities that relate directly to helping your social anxiety.
Skills. Figure out what your job needs to give you a promotion. Or figure out what you need to learn to get a better job. And start working on learning those things. Udemy, Khanacademy, Codeacademy, fucking whatever. This is the information age, it's all out there for free.
Meditation. 10 minutes a day. You need this shit, trust me. It helps smooth out your brain, and will have the greatest impact in the short term.
Practice game. Go out there, and pick up chicks. But refuse to give them your number or take theirs. Just make an objective that 3x a week, you'll approach a random woman, and try to get her attracted to you. Then drop her, regardless of outcome. Just do it, to do it.

Xyereo · 2015-07-04T09:17:24+00:00

Let's be real here: you think you've had some grand realization, but you haven't. "Monk mode" or whatever you call it is just an excuse to avoid your own discomfort while you think you're improving yourself.

First, you didn't know you didn't know.

Now, you know you don't know.

The next step is you know you know.

Then you don't know you know.

Congrats on having an ounce of self-realization. Now do something about it, don't use it as an excuse to reinforce your avoidance of real life.

little_england · 2015-07-04T08:02:25+00:00

I have always thought 'monk mode' has been used as a further excuse by some members to further isolate themselves from women and reality. It suits you because you think you are changing yourself.I know it works for some people but I already know this is not the case for you.

You do not need monk mode to ' learn to separate my self worth from pussy'. This can be done overnight by reading the sidebar and learning the truth. It will not lead to pussy. Lift, sort your life out, and just approach. Talk to both women and men.

knuckelz · 2015-07-04T19:18:26+00:00

If you want to make monk mode even more productive, go pick up No More Mr. Nice Guy. Great book for transitioning from blue to red.

TRPJ · 2015-07-04T07:34:50+00:00

Make sure to read the sidebar material if you haven't already. It's a slog, and even depressing at times, but I can't impress upon you how much those readings helped me understand my problems and what I had to do.

Osoto_Gari · 2015-07-04T08:05:13+00:00

Better to find out you suck and doing something about it at 24 than to think you’re shit hot and discovering you are just shit at 41

EDIT TO ADD

I thought I was getting better. Being more Alpha. Strolled into a Tactical/Survival store the other day & instantly was in the company of fair dinkum Alpha’s. I felt so fucking small, I knew I was completely outclassed. The owner of the store told me after his customer left that the previous guy was a sniper who’d just got back from Afghanistan. The owner definitely gave off a “I’m not to be fucked with” vibe.

The upside of it though was I knew I had to do what I had to do in order to improve my standing. Lifting weights helps. Training harder at Judo helps. But it’s the mental game.

ScottRikkard · 2015-07-04T10:00:07+00:00

If I could give few advices, they would be - Know your sphere of influence (you have power over yourself and your emotions/actions/reactions with the world, but not directly over anything outside),
Value your opinion about yourself more than women's (cause it will suck eventually, they can't be happy) and after doing what you can to improve every day - relax.

(edit) Also - read all the top posts, from the beginning of time.

Blake55 · 2015-07-04T10:15:14+00:00

Hey mate. It's great you've got the time to put into monk mode. I just want to put it out there that you shouldn't be seeking to isolate yourself. You need to warm up to social situations if you want to work on your anxiety. Good luck!

12_f_taiwan · 2015-07-04T17:38:44+00:00

Monk mode is not the solution, dude. We are social creatures (read a book "Social:why are we wired to connect" by Matthew Lieberman) and you shouldn't deny your nature. Continue to improve yourself. You are the common denominator in all your interactions and that is where you should focus.

faded_jester · 2015-07-04T19:27:33+00:00

The fear of approaching women drops drastically the more you do it.....your "fear" is all about what you think will happen.....after you do it a couple hundred times you will know that what you feared wasn't nearly as bad as what you had placed in your head. Keep doing it and you will eventually not give the slightest fuck what girls think and anything you used to fear won't mean shit.

Start small if you have to and approach 5 random women a day. You don't even have to try and get a number or anything....just talk to them for a bit. Do this everyday and within a month you won't think twice about going up to a girl to strike up a conversation. Even if only 5% are interested in you.....talk to 10 women a day and you just increased your available pool of potential dates from zero to 15 a month.

Start small but you have to keep making forward progress. Don't let fear make the choices for you....make the choice to ignore fear. It's hard at first but anything worth having is worth working hard for.

curiousthis · 2015-07-05T03:52:34+00:00

'Monk mode' should be the effect - not the cause. If you're thinking I'm socially awkward, have no chance with the kind of women I'm attracted to, so I will ignore them all, you're not going to be able to fix anything.

If instead you say I'm going to do whatever it takes, and start working out, fixing your diet/fashion, join toastmasters so you can learn to speak in public without fear, heck, even volunteer with one of those political people standing on street corners asking people to sign their petition or something. (Whatever it takes, remember?). If you do that, you will have no time for women. And you will find that they will start flocking.

But you have to be serious about yourself first.

VictorEremitaK · 2015-07-05T14:39:45+00:00

Every guy who goes into 'monk mode' already was in monk mode and is only doing it to make it seem like a choice, fucking pathetic.

2ndLife · 2015-07-05T21:32:54+00:00

This guy is here saying he wants to focus less on pussy because the social pressure brings him terrible anxiety and here we are telling him to get a hooker.

OP, focus on yourself bro. There is a fence in manhood and usually one side has the guys who've put so much energy into women, chasing women they've lost out on valuable time to attain things important to them. On the other side are guys who went after their goals but wonder what life could've been like bangin chicks out left and right. I'm here to tell you that you're left with nothing substantial aside from some ego issues after bangin a bunch of chicks. A facade you use to make yourself feel worthy. Worthy of a woman's attention, company, compliments...

Women don't do this for us. They don't sit around masturbating to videos of us wasting their time. They don't pay for sex with us. They don't try to get their "game" together for us. They don't aim to get a good career for us. They do things simply because they're the things they want out of life. If they want sex, they can get it and never even have to be "good" at it. Your God given body part might not even live up to her expectation and she'll be over it.

You gotta keep your eyes on self improvement and when a woman falls in line, make sure she is the right fit for you or it's a no go. Never settle. Never compromise. They gotta get on your level or get lost.

Title	why i decided to go monk
Author	Fthebluepill
Upvotes	37
Comments	52
Date	July 4, 2015 5:04 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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