Worried about my brother

Bufflegends · 2017-06-06T19:52:00+00:00

My brother went through this. Dated a real piece of work. However, every time I intervened, raised awareness, or tried to get in between them, she looked better in his eyes. It's when I stepped back, told him I love him and if he's happy, I support him, he started seeing things for how they are. They eventually broke up.

By standing in the way, you're causing them to have a reason to be together, a common struggle, YOU'LL be the problem if you get in the way. If I've learned anything from this, it's to NOT get involved in drama, to take care of yourself, set up solid boundaries, and learn to let go of things we cannot control.

Your brother will learn, hopefully not the hard way. In the off chance she is who she is pretending to be, then he may be all the better for it. Either way, if you support him, you'll be who he turns to to be his best man or his shoulder to cry on if/when it ends. If you don't, you may lose him as a brother and friend.

TheHustlingWizard · 2017-06-06T19:56:09+00:00

Let your brother live and learn. He's a big boy

Tell him once straight up how you feel about her and leave it at that.

DB_2014 · 2017-06-06T20:31:56+00:00

First off, never again let a bitch shoo you out of your own room.

Secondly, my brother is in a similar predicament. I've tried to reason with him, tried to get him to read The Rational Male, tried to get him to read Book of Pook, etc... he won't buy any of it. He thinks I'm just bitter, which is ironic because he's never dated a girl in his life much less had a kiss and I've been with 20+.

You can't force the Red Pill on anyone. They must accept it for themselves and be willing to turn their back on the warm, fuzzy bluepill propaganda of the modern feminist society. Most men aren't willing to make that painful decision. I've learned to leave my brother to his own decisions and be there when he needs it. Both of our brothers will have to learn for themselves unfortunately.

6foot4whitemale · 2017-06-07T02:27:23+00:00

Moved in with us after only 2weeks.. nigga what teh fuck kick that bitch the fuck out LOL and that nigga beta as fuck cuffing hoes in 2 weeks.. bruh

SlippinJimmii · 2017-06-06T19:56:30+00:00

let him learn, people need to be burned by the bulb before they accept that its hot. Some people are like moths and they keep going back to the light. Make sure your brother learns and let him do his thing, sounds like the pussy has got him under its spell, we all have to learn.

Daspker780 · 2017-06-06T20:04:28+00:00

"no, I am happy and it will make me question things. I have my dog, you and my girlfriend"

It sounds like he knows to some degree that this girl is a train wreck but has kept rationalizing everything bad about her just for the sake of being able to have a girlfriend.

The straw that broke the camel's back came last night when I was literally shood out of his room (we live together) by her. I was already leaving, but she made it absolutely clear with a "buh bye" that I wasn't welcome anymore.

Major no. Never let anybody, let alone some whiny bitch, disrespect you like that. My advice would be to talk to your brother and make it clear that she is not welcome in your household anymore.

I've only been here since March and am still learning so consider other options and advice as well, and feel free to critique my advice if you feel the need.

shredzro · 2017-06-07T01:04:22+00:00

There's a red pill documentary?

Conceited-Monkey · 2017-06-07T16:31:08+00:00

Some people insist on sticking their foot into a bear trap, in spite of detailed presentations, data analysis, videos of other people in bear traps, and numerous entreaties from friends and family not to stick their foot in the bear trap.

moonpodrising · 2017-06-07T16:53:05+00:00

The story about the Red Pill documentary says it all. Without claiming that the film is totally reliable (never seen it) you offered him an opportunity to learn, he's deliberately chosen to maintain a state of ignorance, because he thinks that'll help him keep valuable things he has.

You can't shove truth down someone's throat. Even if they'd benefit from accepting it. All that's left to do is... love him. Don't lie to him. Give him truthful advice when he asks for it.

sc1690 · 2017-06-07T04:23:48+00:00

Do you live in China? I only ask because of all the RED FLAGS EVERYWHERE! He's your actual bro dude, kick his ass!

throwawaynoobye · 2017-06-07T14:20:17+00:00

if ur brother is stupid enough to date such a girl and not just ONS her, he deserves what is coming at him.

prepare urself to be uncle ilikemychickenfried to some poor kid born out of their union.

MattyAnon · 2017-06-07T16:29:16+00:00

she already has 5 tattoos, some of them very large

red flag. not a dealbreaker, but a concern

vehemently claims she never lies

Well this is either true or a lie, so can safely be ignored.

always paints herself as an angel e.g. she was the best girl her previous boyfriend will or could ever get and that she never lies or cheated on him

same as "I don't lie".

is a "victim" and complains about everything. Either it's not that bad and she just whines a lot or she is an infector (48 laws of power) and invites disaster and misery into her life and will invite it into others

This is bad, but it's fairly standard female behaviour.

immediately performed a branch swing from her ex to my brother. Literally no gap between her last relationship and the next. Claimed that past relationship was already dead and she hasn't loved him for months

standard. but not too inspiring either.

talk only about herself

standard.

told my mother she loves her job and told me she hates it (lieing?)

actually more standard than you think. she has mixed feelings and presents whichever benefits her.

moved in with us after only 2 weeks

this is a fucked up terrible plan of your brother's.

his sense of humor is changing and becoming more pc

uh oh... he's accommodating her and becoming more SJW to please her. this is bad. the betafication begins..

"no, I am happy and it will make me question things. I have my dog, you and my girlfriend". He has acted that way before.

Denial.

What do you guys think? I've spoken to him once and said he needs to watch his back because something is of and that my instincts are telling me get keep this at barge pole length. He said he would and hopes that this isn't the case with her.

The girl doesn't seem THAT bad. But negative, needy, dependent, manipulative and so on. All the things that make women a terrible choice to live with, and not something to base your life around.

I think his hope is maybe what's keeping his attention away from noticing what is going on?

Blue pill shit. Men do this.

Should I speak to him again and outline things a little clearer? He values my advice and we've always had a very close relationship.

Bottom line is this: she'll make a terrible LTR and an even worse housemate. But he won't listen, will likely tell her what you tell him, so don't say anything.

ru_ghey · 2017-06-06T19:32:03+00:00

tl;dr this is to long too be red pil. red pil talks less

ru ghey

Mangoinhand · 2017-06-08T17:19:48+00:00

The only question that matters here is:

Why did YOU allow another tenant to move in without your consent?

This is all on you.

jahozafet · 2017-06-07T15:13:55+00:00

The first rule of TRP is don't talk about TRP (unless you are on this TRP subreddit, anonymously). I know your brother got the same information as you at the same time, but that doesn't matter. Most people spit the red pill straight back out, and there's nothing you can do for them. When I first took the red pill I tried to share it with one brother and 5 friends. Most nodded enthusiastically about the ideas and agreed with them. And then they changed absolutely nothing in their lives and went on with their blue pill lives. Hard for us to believe because we are the ones who truly swallowed it, but most consider it radical ideology. Furthermore, if you talk about it openly, you are taking risks you don't want to take. Out of context, people will consider TRP subscribers on par with serial killers.

Title	Worried about my brother
Author	ilikemychickenfried
Upvotes	9
Comments	31
Date	June 6, 2017 7:02 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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