A difficult part of swallowing the pill fully is consistently overcoming the uncomfortable feeling of living and doing certain things that we have been conditioned not to. Mix in the factor that the situations that you find yourself in are always slightly different and new, and you have the reason why so many people struggle to permanently swallow the pill.

You have to realize that it will be uncomfortable at first; to apply things you have read on the board. It is easy to read and tell yourself you will do it, but when the situation arises the RP thing to do almost seems irrational or unrecognizable. You have to force yourself to apply it at first, and soon it will become natural. An Example:

- Openly expressing your boundaries in a non-needy way. IE: (Your date is 15 min late to the bar)

BP response: Don't worry about it! I haven't been waiting long, what do you want to drink?

RP response: You're late X, smile and say no girly sugary drinks tonight, two jamesons on ice please, this is your punishment! (This shows that you aren't afraid to set boundaries and call her out, but also leads and shows her your sense of humor)

The above situation is quite recognizable , and even if you respond in a BP way, you could tell afterwards that you were wrong but just found it difficult to grow a pair and call her out. Something that I've noticed is a lot of guys, especially close friends of mine who I like to relay information to, confuse how & when to properly withdraw attention. Even with posts I've read, it is always usually a third party factor that triggers men to be asking when or how to withdraw attention, where in reality you should be withdrawing it with no push from any trigger.

The best time to withdraw your attention is when things are good. If you withdraw your attention after a fight, or after you get flaked on, etc.. you are doing it wrong, because it is actually easy to. It is easy to, because we are assisted in withdrawing that attention using the rationale that we could, because of the circumstance. Also, a lot of men forget to NOT APOLOGIZE for withdrawing your attention. It should be who you are, and if there is a reaction to your withdrawal of attention, you should ignore it the best you can. If you have to acknowledge it, just treat it as a shit test.

It is usually not recognizable as to when you should be withdrawing attention, because of the level of conditioning we have been subjected to. Some examples where attention can & should be withdrawn, but it is tough to see:

- After receiving a nude. (We are always so inclined to compliment, or send another one back, or text back right away,) So we don't "lose" them.

-After a great date

-After receiving great feedback, compliments, open statements from your plate or LTR or date expressing anything good

-Situations where you could benefit short term, like a guaranteed fuck, but you are going out of your way to take it. IE: you are out with the guys, and you could go fuck one of your plates, but it would be a $10 uber ride when you could just continue chilling with your best guy friends at an after party.

Why when things are going well? Women won't understand it, and it will keep them thinking about you because they can't come up with an answer. When you withdraw your attention when there is a trigger, women will be able to find out the trigger and you are done, whether there and then or in the long run.

Edit: Obviously don't do this all the time like a sperg, calibration is key.

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TLDR: Taking action will be uncomfortable, and sometimes unrecognizable. Learn to recognize these situations, and continue forcing yourself to make the uncomfortable decision until it becomes YOU. In terms of attention, always withdraw when things are going well, and not when influenced by a trigger. Do not apologize for being unavailable.