I have a friend who I love more than anything, she’s always supportive and caring toward me and we have had a great friendship for 10+ years.

However, she tends to get into situationships and relationships and they get put on priority over myself and our other friends.

I know that some of my animosity is jealousy, I am working hard on myself so that I no longer feel that way. But the guys she dates make me uneasy. They are usually openly misogynistic/sexist, racist and some have been violent with friends.

At the same time, they always treat her like gold, expensive gifts, saying they love her, inviting her on trips etc. They treat her so well and I feel conflicted because their views give me an uneasy feeling but then here they are treating her like a queen so if I disapprove I look like an idiot.

I’m disappointed in her because she spends a lot of time and energy talking about dating. When we do spend time together it just seems like she’s somewhere else. I noticed on a holiday with her and her bf (big group) she seemed so happy and alive being around him. We went on another vacation soon after just us girls and she just seemed more uninterested and reserved. It makes me feel disappointed and sad for her.

It seems to work out well which I am happy for but it almost feels like I lose her when she’s in a relationship. She doesn’t want to hang out with us as much and misses out on occasions to see her bf, or has to invite him. This is more of a rant and I’m wondering if anyone can relate. I feel like a dick and I want her to be happy but I don’t like the way she prioritises her bf over her girlfriends .