Hey all,

So I've (20F) been dating this guy(21M) for about 2 months and so far, it's been great. The issue is that I have a critical thing to vet for which is if he has a provider mindset. The only evidence so far is he's told me that he's getting me a gift for valentines day even though we haven't started dating yet, he speaks all the time about not cheaping out on the people he loves and also talks about wanting to work hard to make me happy. I know these are all words and I need to see actions but are there any questions I can ask him regarding this? I don't want to be surprised going into a relationship with him to see he doesn't invest in me financially.

I want to know because I do want to get married in the future and hopefully be a stay-at-home for a couple of years and I don't want to be financially burdened. I also just feel better in relationships when the guy invests in me financially because I've dated a cheap guy once and I felt really gross/unworthy.

Any advice?