My nex had 2 best friends. One was super materlistic and very judgy. My nex would talk bad about that sometimes and I'd be like why are you putting down your friend before even introducing me? It was like he was insecure about him. Eventually they fought too much over some disagreements on covid (fighting who was more smarter and knowledgeable) and stopped being friends. Then his other friend... this one seems obsessed with my nex. He actually told my nex that they can't be friends because he spends too much time with me and not with him. Because of this my nex made a routine where he would do gatherings at least once a week and once in the weekend... it was honestly draining to keep up with this routine and my nex always wanted me to be a part of it.

There was some other things I found weird for male friends to be doing such as:

Texting EVERY single day. I have best friends and I don't need to message every single day and still maintain strong connection.

Both are sooooo emotional and they talk about eachother's relationship with alot of detail. I know this because when his friend was upset with his gf, he called us over to vent about her meaning that's what my nex did too. I had to tell my nex that this feels like privacy violation and I don't think we should know so much about someone else's relationship. He brushed it off saying we are bfs, we should know about everything. I definitely don't rant about my relationship because I actually respect my partners privacy as well as mine.

One other thing his friend does is silent treatments with his gf when he is upset. He can do it for over 3 months and I was like WTF ... I asked my nex what he thought about it and he was like I don't think it's the best way but it works for them and I respect that... I was like?? Shouldn't you advise that this isn't the way to approach conflict with a partner? I felt so bad for his gf because I could see how much anxiety his friend was causing her. My nex said nothing about this yet is the primary person his friend goes to for advice. This goes both ways

Anyways long story short, my nex turned out to be a covert narcissist and I decided that if I see red flags even in my potential partner it's a no go for me.

What are your thoughts? Am I overthinking?