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| 19 | Vetting tip: watch out for LVM who try to get you to associate your positive moments/traits/accomplishments with negative connotationsThank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 05:05 AM |
| 231 | Vetting tip: watch out for LVM who try to get you to associate your positive moments/traits/accomplishments with negative connotationsOh yaass when I got my promotion my ex instead of congratulating me when off and goes "finally" and that was it. These men are just pathetic 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 07:09 PM |
| 7 | I need support, I think I need to break up with himI emphasize how hard this may be for you. You love him and potentially want a future with him while he isn't doing or thinking the same way for you. You're 7 months in and there's already too much commitment. You deserve more than this and being on different terms with future children simply means that you two are not compatible and that is okay. He isn't meeting your needs and isn't someone you should be with. You got this! Many of us went through something similar to what you have and hey! we … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 12:33 AM |
| 27 | Every warning FDS educated me on was literally my LVM exThank you. It's definitely a long journey of healing but surely getting there.. To add more to it, he came crawling back after discarding me due to his "trauma" 6 months after and offered friendship. I said heck no and sadly over explained myself with his response being "I'm sorry you felt that way" he claimed he changed but all I saw was a worsen loser who seriously needs intense therapy and maybe never dating anyone again. He was hurting me continously and it just didn't seem like he was capab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 10:33 PM |
| 88 | Why I DON’T EXPLAIN. On boundaries, disappointment, and self-shielding: You don’t have to explain to an emotionally abusive man why he isn’t allowed to hurt you anymore.Oof this post hit me hard. Unfortunately I was in that spot over explaining and trying to tell my ex how much he hurt me. I honestly thought he would actually feel empathy for once but all I got was "I'm sorry you felt that way" Luckily I'm at a better place today and know never to look back. As soon as I rediscovered everything I immediately blocked, deleted and completely removed him out of my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 06:58 AM |
| 49 | Man After Breakup: A StudySpot on. They know they don't deserve it and also addicted to the chasing game and the one that got away bs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 10:30 PM |
| 10 | Valentine’s Day approaching, what are you ladies doing to celebrate?Planning a galentine event with my cousin for our friends 💕 decided to go all out this year because why not, it's the perfect opportunity to enjoy some gal time and dress up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 07:48 AM |
| 10 | Women who dated covert narcissists, did their narcissism get "worse" over time?ALSO if they treated you wrong the first time what guarantees they will treat you better the next? They shouldn't have messed it up in the first place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 05:55 PM |
| 47 | Women who dated covert narcissists, did their narcissism get "worse" over time?Yes and the fact that he continued on pushing for friendship when I was literally spelling it out to him that he hurt me was just bizarre and also shows his true character. A healthy partner would leave you alone so that you can heal and also that's common etiquette especially if you decided to leave the relationship. He wasn't capable of that and seems like he still isn't as he has the audacity to check up on me till this day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 07:55 AM |
| 98 | Women who dated covert narcissists, did their narcissism get "worse" over time?My narc ex played the classic victim and his ex ruined him. He was heavily insecure and was emotionally abusive and I do think I got the worst version of him but from what I heard, they only get worse. My experience after the bu was this: he was MIA for the first 6 months of the bu, then he reaches out and offered friendship in which I immediately turned down. The less aware me met up with him and hoped for a change but his response was "I'm sorry you feel that way" THAT was a definite wake up c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 07:22 AM |
| 23 | Have any of you ever known a man who initiated a split with his partner WITHOUT getting into a new relationship right away?My last ex 6 months but all while trying to get me back in his life as "friends." As soon as I shut him down, he went wild on finding my replacement 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 10:01 PM |
| 9 | Stories and examples of sensitive/emotional men being abusive or manipulative?My experience word for word. Oof sooo validating to know I chose the right decision to leave and leave for good. THEY DON'T CHANGE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 01:13 AM |
| 89 | Another negging tactic: Men asking your interests then telling you how they dislike themOooh and if they are narcissistic, they'll act like all your interests are amazing and things they either want to try, visit or will tell you how they enjoy all the same things you do. Just be aware of those types too because soon they'll hate each and every one of them. If you see a man reverse and tell you they hate it all then that's your biggest sign to walk and to keep on walking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 05:47 PM |
| 21 | This is emotional manipulation and you should never, ever think your SO is necessary to make you feel complete. Any variation of this is bad. Please take it seriously, a man who idealizes you is easy to disappoint as he holds you to unreachable standards, and once disappointed, he is dangerous."You're perfect" is another one to be aware of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 09:41 PM |
| 222 | Cancelled a date today 😌 My first unmatch block delete!!Oof can't believe he called you intense. He knows he can't meet your standards so he is trying to level you down. Hard pass! Good job for cutting ties, you dodged a gigantic bullet😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 08:38 PM |
| 16 | How to recognize a narcissist. If you’re in this type of relationship, run! I promise you, it’s never going to get better. (Emotional Abuse Short Film - Gaslighting)My word for word experience when dating a covert narc. Someone who puts you down like that doesn't deserve to be in your life. RUN AND DON'T EVERT TURN BACK. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 05:11 PM |
| 38 | Men playing victimVictim mentality to me is just immaturity. My ex was like this where the third date he dared to victimize himself that his ex cheated then the day he broke it off he blamed his parents for raising him the way he was along with blaming his cheating ex. I've learned the hard way how much of this was a red flag. He traumatized me for being emotionally abusive and making me feel like I was going crazy. However I don't victimize myself for it. I looked back, learned that I have unhealed wounds/trauma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 03:38 AM |
| 34 | A man who loves you should be able to explain what he loves about you SPECIFICALLY. It’s a red flag if he is generic about your qualitiesYup my ex too. He said the same words when my friend asked why he liked me. She's kind , good hearted, empathetic and smart. If I think of it now I'm like wow this guy is so surface leveled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 10:29 PM |
| 18 | No... just no.. we met at a tire shop and "bonded" over coffee loving but I didn't think he would actually commit to asking on a coffee hopping or whatever this is.Nopeee I don't give out my number until I feel safe with the person and THIS!! is the exact reason why I don't give it out! Lol I'm just shocked, FDS gave examples of LVM like this but never experienced it myself until I did and wow it's definitely mind-blowing and I'm just realizing more how much I appreciate the fact I discovered FDS because I just dodged another big bullet! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 02:43 PM |
| 165 | No... just no.. we met at a tire shop and "bonded" over coffee loving but I didn't think he would actually commit to asking on a coffee hopping or whatever this is.Update- I said no to coffee date and he suggested we get dessert and walk the park after work and I bring my dog. Yeahhhhhh he got blocked and deleted right that second 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 04:18 AM |
| 169 | No... just no.. we met at a tire shop and "bonded" over coffee loving but I didn't think he would actually commit to asking on a coffee hopping or whatever this is.Yup basically that's the idea..I told him how I like doing that on days when I'm free since I love coffee and touring different shops but NOT for a date... it's just my personal hobby and I think he took it wrong🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 02:03 AM |
| 7 | My friend has her first date and she's asking me if this is okayThanks all for the advice- my friend decided to move on from this person as she feels off and doesn't like how "intimate" he is getting without even meeting yet. Her and I instead will go to sip and painting😋 | /r/askFDS | 24/09/21 01:49 AM |
| 58 | Guys barging into the bathroom on purpose seems to be a big issueMy narcissist ex... he would never let me close the door when I showered and often times got upset that I chose to go shower on my own. If I think of this today I'm baffled that I accepted that shitty behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 11:58 PM |
| 10 | Block and delete is the right way, right?Thank you. This is exactly what I needed to hear. | /r/askFDS | 15/09/21 04:30 AM |
| 37 | What was your moment of clarity?The first time he cried over his toxic ex. The first time he shamed me for being afraid of possibly getting pregnant. The first time he tried to control me over his jealousy. The first time he started belittling me, my career, family and friends. The first time he showed the severe side of his victim mentality. The first time he shifted from one person to another. The first time he compared me to his toxic ex which never stopped. My last straw was when he stated he felt better when I was crying … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 10:03 PM |
| 26 | Kicked out of FDS!!!?Umm yeah it happened to me too. Idk what I did, I just out of nowhere can't see the group when I was recently given newbie title. | /r/askFDS | 01/09/21 05:25 AM |
| 30 | LVM who share their relationship trauma with youOh yeah my narc ex did this on our 3rd date. "My ex cheated on me but I did my best"= I treated my ex like shit so she left me but I get to my victimize myself and you get to tolerate all of that 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 04:57 AM |
| 11 | Markers of AbuseOof and they forever act like a victim. "Why me, poor me" if someone can't take responsibility for anything then that's a hell no for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 05:31 PM |
| 47 | What kind of mothers + fathers make LVMs?The description you provided regarding the mother and father traits was on point to the T of my LVM ex who is also diagnosed as a covert narcissist. This is probably maybe likely? a pattern. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 06:48 PM |
| 199 | ALL of his exes can’t be the “cRaZy” ones…I remember with my LVM every time I said no, his victim mentality would activate and he'd be the most depressed person in this world. He would cry and cry and the world has done him wrong when he was only trying to be the "nice guy." Then the gaslighting would follow right after it. I should have known that THIS was the real him, never will I tolerate this behavior from anyone ever again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 03:43 AM |
| 9 | My new partner seems to be putting me on a pedestal, how do I respond?Yup I agree to every point you have mentioned. My narcissist ex was exactly like this. I was the most perfect, flawless person one day then the light switched out of nowhere and I became a flawed person he didn't want to be around at all and couldn't stop belittling. My therapist said it's a tactic called "splitting" and very common in ppl like my ex. Anyways thank you for your response! I'm being really careful because I was severely love bombed in the beginning and things just went so low at t… | /r/askFDS | 16/07/21 12:58 AM |
| 7 | My new partner seems to be putting me on a pedestal, how do I respond?Hmm idk how to really explain this since the relationship is so new but generally he is very catering towards my needs. I think this incident really made me feel that he was putting me on a pedestal because he wouldn't stop asking If I was okay and kept checking up on my feelings from the incident throughout the rest of the day we were together. Also he just kept trying to make things right repeatedly. It just feels like he is telling himself as long as I'm okay he is too. Oh the same night, I w… | /r/askFDS | 15/07/21 11:19 PM |
| 26 | Don't give second or any chances to LVM's, NVM'sPlease do, we want everyone to become aware of this concept. We deserve better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 06:25 PM |
| 28 | Becoming attracted to Green Flags/ HVMI can relate. I too came out of a relationship with the ultimate LVM ex of my life and although I learned my lesson, I couldn't find the attraction towards men who seemed to show HV traits/ and are healthier. The trauma bond and not finding the familiarity in healthier ppl is probably what's keeping me from opening up. I can't say there is really a strategy to this (personally). However the one thing I learned is that the more aware I become in myself the better it became in terms of me opening … | /r/askFDS | 06/07/21 07:19 PM |
| 8 | Let’s Talk About LVM Exes and When They Come Back After A BreakupThese men really do have the same cycle 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 06:31 PM |
| 125 | Let’s Talk About LVM Exes and When They Come Back After A BreakupMy ex was a covert narcissist. He discarded me then came back after 6 months and offered friendship saying I was his strongest connection 🤮 I did meet him in person because I wanted to confirm myself if he really was a narcissist (he was diagnosed from a professional therapist but I wanted to see it myself) and to see where I was since I've been very actively working on myself through self education, therapy and changing my lifestyle 180 from the damage he has caused me. He definitely was one. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 08:31 PM |
| 42 | If they try to change youSame. I feel bad for the old me that thought I could make my ex stay if I continued to change for him in the way he wanted me to. Never ever again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 12:32 AM |
| 96 | NEVER AGAIN will I...Count me in 👋 -tells me their ex cheated on them early on or just talks about their ex in general -talks about their ex all the time -victim mentality -doesn't take responsibility for their mistakes and simply doesn't apologize -belittles, criticizes anyone -carries so many insecurities and uses it to control -any controlling behavior -walks ahead of me -chooses to be materlistic rather than showing their emotions, empathy to "win" people -tells me they need time to think over things. You want t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 02:45 AM |
| 20 | Yes, by all means, walk 20 feet ahead of your wife and children, you asshole.I would say there were many times his mask slipped very early on but officially it slipped off completely after 9months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 01:08 AM |
| 76 | Yes, by all means, walk 20 feet ahead of your wife and children, you asshole.Yup my LVM did this ALL the time as soon as his mask came off. General walks, grocery shopping, hikes ARGH. It ended up being where I was being taken care of from his friend when we went on hard hikes because my ex was already so much more ahead of us. JERK and a COWARD 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 05:31 PM |
| 68 | Characteristics of my HV HusbandI've seen similar traits from my NVM ex and I truly thought he was an HVM but he lacked the biggest and most important trait which was empathy and the willingness to consider their partner's feelings. Now this is my number 1 priority when meeting a potential partner. Thank you for posting, it's very encouraging to be able to hear that there are men who can carry every thing you've mentioned along with empathy. I haven't found that person yet but hopefully one day I'll be in a place like you🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 11:35 PM |
| 6 | Beware of the non-apology apology!!! Anyone ever had a LVM say "I'm sorry you got hurt" rather than "I'm sorry that I was a piece of shit asshole who did not respect/consider your feelings?" One is not even attempting to accept blame!! BEWARE!!The minute I heard that selfish non apology, I blocked him everywhere and officially. Don't have ppl around who can't apologize properly, it's common sense that apparently they don't have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 07:33 PM |
| 13 | How a man gets angry is very revealingMy LVM ex would destroy tissue boxes into pieces when I'm standing there begging him to stop mistreating me. I knew one day I would become that tissue box if I didn't leave asap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 04:19 AM |
| 131 | BREAK-UP PSA: CHANGE YOUR LOCKS 🔐Oh yeah please do this. I had an ex walk into my house after months of the break up. Thank goodness I was home with my dad. While my dad was taking care of him, I went ahead and changed our entire security system. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 08:12 PM |
| 2 | How do you cope seeing friends in healthy relationships while you were discarded by a narcissist?Thank you for your encouraging words 🙏 | /r/askFDS | 21/05/21 06:13 PM |
| 2 | Is he a NVL /LVM ?Wow never speak to him again. What the actual heck🤬 | /r/askFDS | 21/05/21 03:03 AM |
| 64 | Today marks one year since I blocked my narcissistic, emotionally abusive, alcoholic ex. Here are all the ways my life has improved since:Thank you. I'm about 9 months out from my relationship with an narcissist and about 3 months out from NC, and completely blocked and deleted. I'm saving this post to remind myself whenever I'm feeling low that I deserve better and that I'll be in a place where you are at today. Congratulations 👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 08:01 PM |
| 20 | How do you cope seeing friends in healthy relationships while you were discarded by a narcissist?I really hid everything I was going through until after the break up and after I started therapy. I didn't know I was being abused and struggled with the confusion. My friends now know it all and have been very supportive. I also learned to tell my friends everything if I'm not doing okay. | /r/askFDS | 16/05/21 03:43 AM |
| 1 | My dating experience with a covert narcissistMessaged you. Thank you so much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 07:38 PM |
| 1 | My dating experience with a covert narcissistDo you possibly have that post? I am interested to compare notes😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 07:07 PM |
| 2 | My dating experience with a covert narcissistI'm sorry you went through that. Seems like it was definitely a tactic of him trying to make you feel insecure just how my ex did with his ex TO make me feel insecure. In my case, his family loved me. His mom bonded with me well and she would always talk about her stories for hrs which I never minded. My ex struggled with this because I was doing something he wasn't capable of doing. Even his dad warmed up to me eventually and my ex wouldn't stop obsessing over that because again it was somethin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 04:34 PM |
| 6 | My dating experience with a covert narcissistYes sure. Basically men were superior in his family but likely didn't do anything for the family. His mom seemed always anxious and obsessed with her kids, always walking on egg shells with them and ofc her husband. Meanwhile, she was taking care of the family and making a living for the family. His dad was retired and didn't lift a finger. He didn't help with the mom's business and my ex would say, "I would never imagine dad to go help" but the funny thing is he wouldn't either for the same min… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 04:04 PM |
| 11 | My dating experience with a covert narcissistI think it's a combo of his narc traits plus NVM traits(from my point of view). The traits of his love bombing, blame shifting everything to his ex, revealing trauma early on and using it to manipulate me, entitlement, not able to take criticism at all, not able to apologize at all, major victim mentality, causing confusion(being nice one day and really mean another), and hot and cold were some of the key traits in me learning he was a covert narcissist. My therapist helped verify this as well a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 03:41 PM |
| 14 | Patterns Of Thinking And Behavior Often Displayed By NarcissistsEek it brings me too many similar memories. I was also involved with a covert and he was soooo good at hiding it until his mask came off but what you posted was exactly what I had gone through minus the name calling. I somehow got him into therapy but it was shocking because after 6months he reached out for "friendship" and I basically called him out in his mistreatment towards me and in that hr, I experienced DARVO, gaslighting, victim play( his biggest tactic) blame shifting( his ex caused it … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 03:56 PM |
| 7 | Why do men always have a sob story?Or a narcissist. It's a big no if men start off with a sob story. | /r/askFDS | 11/05/21 04:07 AM |
| 3 | One "good" thing I learned from my NVM relationshipI was in the relationship for about 1.5 years. Honestly I feel like it affected me in ways where I knew I was lacking but my nex made me it feel more emphasized. I always lacked self esteem and always compared myself to other people. I noticed my mom compared me alot to other kids and she still does that today so when my nex did it, I guess I accepted it as it is because I was so used to it. Now I stand up for myself and actually confront my mom if she tries to compare me, shes gotten better at … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 03:16 AM |
| 20 | One "good" thing I learned from my NVM relationshipYes thank you for this. Getting less vulnerable is so hard because I was always raised to be vulnerable but this is something I'll explore with my therapist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 04:52 AM |
| 10 | One "good" thing I learned from my NVM relationshipThank you! I was just reading your post on abusers, I went through all of the things you went through especially for me was triangulation with his ex from beginning to end🤢 never again, thank you for your post! I feel really validated that I made the right choice to leave and stay away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 04:51 AM |
| 8 | That last conversation won't give you closureIt's really not worth it. I've had this "closure" conversation with my narc ex after 6 months and I received the worst apology you could get of "I'm sorry you felt that way" and just more gaslighting, manipulation, victimizing for rejecting his offer of "friendship." Not only did he NOT change but rather just got worst and more arrogant. I learned my lesson and immediately blocked and deleted him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 05:08 PM |
| 78 | TW: THIS IS WHAT BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A SCROTE LOOKS LIKEOh my goodness. I hope she left that hideous scrote... we also need to be aware of the ones who covertly do it. Putting people down while crying then victimizing themselves saying it's their trauma that's causing them to act the way they act. NOPE abuse is abuse Run regardless!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Mixed opinion on love bombingThank you for the clarification. Will delete this post | /r/askFDS | 25/04/21 01:57 AM |
| 10 | Health benefits of leaving a LVM and NVMSame exact experience plus I gained more hobbies, learned that I was capable of alot of things that my nvm ex belittled me for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 06:58 AM |
| 8 | Pay extra attention to how he talks about his ex! [from Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft]Yup same! The tactics are now hard to miss for me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 06:10 AM |
| 12 | Pay extra attention to how he talks about his ex! [from Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft]Yup this was my ex and he turned out as a covert narcissist so generally speaking if they talk about their exes in a negative tone no matter how small or big, it's a definite NO for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 06:05 AM |
| 26 | Pay extra attention to how he talks about his ex! [from Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft]Or if the man doesn't say the actual word "crazy" but covertly says it where you definitely feel like the ex was crazy, still RUN. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 12:39 AM |
| 1 | My "sex" story with an LVMThank you! Yes he was a jerk and child in every way..NEVER AGAIN!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 04:04 PM |
| 4 | My "sex" story with an LVMAww thank you and I'm sorry you went through all of that because I know exactly how you might have felt during this horrible experienhce. You definitely didn't deserve it!! I too suffered in that relationship for about 1.5 years and my period cycle basically got all messed up/my health declined where I couldn't even handle cramps because of the stress. I'm still working on recovering my health and body but I still try to thank positive in some way.. that we can at least thank that it wasn't more… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 04:02 PM |
| 5 | My "sex" story with an LVMThank you for this reminder. I have yet to meet someone who can offer the feelings you have mentioned but as long as I keep my head up high and love myself then things will come into place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 03:56 PM |
| 151 | Guys who have a problem with sex during your period are LVMMy experience was that my nex didn't care as long as he could have sex. I wasn't comfortable at all about it but he would push it and act like it's completely okay. Also he had times where he was upset I was on my period because it meant we couldn't have sex..if he wanted it and if I said "I'm on my period" he would be like "again!?" Don't be fooled if a guy acts all cool about it and doesn't think it's disgusting, still there can be hidden agenda. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 09:40 PM |
| 24 | In a society that profits off of women’s insecurity, loving yourself is true power! 🔥✨Yasss once I started to love myself I no longer tolerate toxic people. My body just knows it right away and tells me to walk away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 05:35 AM |
| 2 | Coffee & Walk Dates Lack Chemistry BY DESIGNThank you for this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 03:36 AM |
| 4 | Coffee & Walk Dates Lack Chemistry BY DESIGNIdk why but dinner dates are so awkward for me and I can't even eat properly for first dates. I try to approach it with video chats the first time then naturally it's been a case where the guy asks to meet for dinner which is helpful to me because we got the first time part out of the way. Plus it's so much easier cut them off if the video chat didn't go well. Oh and bar dates are a hard pass for me. Just curious, are coffee dates as a starting point okay if it leads to dinner after? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 04:45 PM |
| 23 | LVM covert narc ex is back againThank you so much for this!!!! I seriously have been looking around and couldn't find anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 01:15 AM |
| 17 | Guys who leave you at a party or a family gatheringWow I didn't know this was a thing in regards to LVMs. My covert ex did this! Introduced me way too early in the relationship and as soon as we started picking up on visiting his parents house on a regular basis, he ALWAYS left me to work on fixing something for his mom and I would just be sitting around alone or with his family member who happened to be there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 07:23 PM |
| 52 | You can't have it both ways. They've always needed us more than we need them. Never forget it.Yup my NEX to the T. He can go feel worthless all himself as long as I'm not a part of it because I ain't playing his games anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 07:21 PM |
| 50 | HELP - my LVM ex just asked me if I want him to go to counseling with me.Don't believe in what he says. They will say things you want to hear to lure you back in but likely he doesn't care. Theoretically speaking, there's no way he "learned" something only after 1.5 months. My nex came back after 6 months claiming he is different and guess what? he wasn't and in fact he seemed to have gotten worse with his arrogance. Shut him down, you deserve better than someone who easily walked out from you. | /r/askFDS | 05/04/21 05:35 PM |
| 3 | What do you think about checking potential partner friends before committing into a relationship? Too much or fair?Definitely agree with you. Once I saw how crappy his friends were I saw him for who he was. | /r/askFDS | 02/04/21 04:25 AM |
| 1 | What do you think about checking potential partner friends before committing into a relationship? Too much or fair?Valid points! | /r/askFDS | 02/04/21 04:24 AM |
| 3 | Okay I just want to warn girls to BEWARE of men who say they were cheated on...So true.... | /r/askFDS | 01/04/21 04:09 AM |
| 3 | Share your Red Flags on men who view women as disposable objectsOof I got this from my ex | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 09:00 PM |
| 9 | LVM Narc ex sent me a handwritten letterI was referring to physical and appearance. He put me down for not looking more fit and new girl isn't fit at all and he has specific features he likes. After his last relationship, he rebounded for two weeks and the new girl now looks like the rebound he didn't find attractive. After the breakup, I learned that he discarded her becsuse of me so I guess he used her while he was looking for a "better supply." I think I became his better supply because he was obsessed with his ex that he triangula… | /r/askFDS | 29/03/21 02:44 AM |
| 9 | LVM Narc ex sent me a handwritten letterDon't be embarrassed if you have become aware and changed. My nex has no hope for that and I don't think the new supply and him are over, he is doing this on the side because he isn't finding her attractive. I think you're maybe right that he regrets losing me as a supply because I was the best one yet, most empathetic and I let him mistreat me because I empathized his trauma and wounds( definitely NOT proud). I'm only focused on moving forward and working on myself. | /r/askFDS | 29/03/21 12:27 AM |
| 15 | LVM Narc ex sent me a handwritten letterYes, I now have learned the hard way how much he is not the one for me. Letter has been ripped and trashed, he will NEVER hear from me. Thank you. | /r/askFDS | 28/03/21 10:10 PM |
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