M40, married to F34 for 15 years, 1 5y.o. daughter, working on our second child. Lifting 6 days a week, visible abs with vascularity. Management career in tech. She's also in tech, individual contributor.

As you see, we married early and young. My main issue back then was basically too few male friends, low confident beta, I treated her as a friend in addition to a lover. She's similar: raised by an elderly father and barely engaged mother. So we were doing stuff together: programming and lifting, then we immigrated to Canada together too.

Things started to change big time after our first kid. I started assuming more responsibilities and lead more, lift more, have male friends. She's also becoming more feminine. Seems like we're on a good track, mostly. One of the issues is our evening conversations. She keeps bringing up the work and tech stuff as we used to discuss in the past. Sometimes I draw a hard line that I don't want to discuss that anymore, sometimes I joke about that. But here's the problem, from a guy who's been in this shit for 15+ years: what do I actually talk about with her? We're so busy, we don't watch tv shows. If we're lucky, we discuss her friends or other parents from school. I need options :) Tia and roast me if you want