Hey all. been seeing this girl for about 3 months. Raised in a strict family, said she never did a one night stand, submissive and lets me do whatever to her. cooks and cleans. we agreed to be exclusively hooking up a month in. Friend told me she was into me so I asked her to be official (stupid mistake, I know. Should have waited for her to ask) and she said she doesn’t know yet she’s still recovering from her last LTR and needs to focus on herself.

she says i’m assertive, I make her cum constantly, we have dirty sex, my SMV is high, yet she said that to me. Does she have other options? Is she playing hard to get? Am I untrustworthy in her eyes (she saw me with a few girls before but I played it off and we moved on)? Is she lying and cheating and playing me?

Despite all, we make plans to have sex on the weekends and spend time together (travel, get food etc). She always agrees to the plans and wants me to meet her family in the upcoming weeks. However me and my buddy were discussing that I should be upfront next time I see her and say it’s not appropriate for me to be exclusive with her if we’re not dating (because she could be playing me and didn’t make her exes wait like this, and she has power over me by making me be exclusive without dating). Should I just STFU and keep having sex and enjoying my time with her like an LTR and trust she’s exclusive until she brings up dating so I don’t ask again OR tell her what me and my friend discussed so I don’t get played and get an answer and not waste my commitment? I like this girl and we get along very well