Ok, guys. I messed up. Long story short.... second marriage, I’m 40, she’s 41. Recent red pill guy, but with blue pill hangover. Wife got new job and has been stressed as hell and bedroom action has cut from 3 times per week to one or two. Sex life was and has been strained. I blue pill puked and whined about it one night we had a little too much to drink. We argued and she said if she didn’t satisfy me, maybe I should find someone that should. Ignored the shit test and went to bed. A few nights later the following weekend, we went out, came home, I initiated and got shut down, then offered starfish and I refused... went to bed. Woke up next morning and initiated again, she showed little passion and I got the starfish (should have turned her away like the night before, but didn’t). We finished up, ended up arguing. Sarcastically told her thanks for fulfilling a physical need like a BP puke. She got pissed and threw a fit. I left that day and came back later. She was mad and said she felt used and objectified. Well, whether it was blue pill or not, I felt bad and apologized. (This was 2 weeks ago). She was still mad and acting like a bitch so I left for the day. Came back in the evening and told her I was going to get something to eat and as I walked out the door, she asked me if she could come, so I let her. Next night, she initiates and we have sex, things seem normal, however, this weekend comes around and she threw it in my face today. I went and did my own thing today, came back and she looks for my attention this evening. We talk about the last weekend a little, I own my shitty behavior and I listen to her vent. I did not apologize again, just listened. Told her, I guess time will tell. Ok, so I am not planning to lower myself and grovel for attention or even sex. Seems like I’m playing a game of will and frame now to see who wins. I gave up my frame as of late but now holding it again. I am choosing to lead us out of this bullshit. If she won’t follow, I will have little options, one of which may be to boot her. Thoughts?