LTR broke off/scarcity mindset

sicrm · 2023-11-24T14:14:23+00:00

Sex was great, 5-6 time per week, BJ, anal, you name it. I find myself chasing her, to come back, I know its bad, inviting her to go out, we've gone out since the breaking off but its not the same, she keeps pushing it and she's losing respect for me I know. I also have the covert contract if I don't chase she will come back, I'm also afraid she'll fuck somebody else.

you had your fun, it’s over now.

she wants another kid and to get married, you don’t.

if you change your mind and do either or both with her, in the not so distant future, you’ll want a time machine so you can slap your past self.

wkndatbernardus · 2023-11-24T15:37:35+00:00

Diagnosis: classic case of Oneitis.

Prognosis: not good unless you have a purpose beyond getting a woman's affection/devotion.

Prescription: understand your mission/why you were put on this earth and go after it.

adeptintact · 2023-11-24T16:56:51+00:00

Simple. Find another girl and stop the oneitis for the single mom. Stop being a cuckold and move on with your life.

El0vution · 2023-11-24T16:49:15+00:00

You’re 34, and can probably be dating sexy and childless 20 year olds. Why are you so hung up on this woman? Oh I see, cause you approached other girls and got rejected. Were your feelings hurt when you got rejected? If so, you haven’t approached enough women. That would literally be my solution for you : approach more women. Hundreds of them. Learn to embrace the rejection. Eventually you will become outcome independent. But you’re not there yet, you have a lot more to learn and grow. 2 years on the red pill is nothing. Do the work: approach and embrace rejection. Believe it or not, once you approach hundreds of women and you become so good at embracing rejection, that even that (the way you accept rejection) becomes sexy to women.

Ragnardanneskjunior · 2023-11-24T18:44:25+00:00

IT TAKES TIME and repetitions to learn how to both develop and exercise your options. This woman is doing you a favor and you are still making contact with her? Here is your rule going forward, if she wants to come over to fuck and then leave then that is okay but if not then she can get her attention needs met somewhere else. You should not be spending non-sexual time with this woman but you don't have the frame for that. You are needy and lack the spine to walk away and mean it. Do not contact this woman for a minimum of 30 days and then only for a hook up.

businessstravel · 2023-11-25T01:17:21+00:00

Me (34) Been with my first serious gf (31) for almost two years

I hate to break it to you, but two years is nothing... If that was the total time of you dating and being in a relationship with her, it's absolutely nothing... You have a shit ton of work to do, which is highlighted by everyone here. Get a lawyer while you are at it, as you could be on the hook for child support for the next number of years. Hit the sidebar and make a fucking plan.

GWARY54 · 2023-11-26T15:28:05+00:00

Simply, spin more plates. Also, I would read Iron Rule of Tomassi 7

Puzzleheaded-Net6944 · 2024-01-24T01:49:52+00:00

"LTR broke it off cause she wanted marriage and more kids" - god damn. isnt one enough especially because he has a different father. idk why people complicate their lives and want more and more kids when situations arent stable

"I have a reversible vasectomy to prevent unwanted pregnancy and have them on my own terms" - tbh if i had surgery for something like this it must be super important to me. I was at a point in your situation in a way, this ex demanded that i have kids, and he never brought it up in our conversations until after engagement. I'm an antinatalist, idk if youve read about this ideology but I abide line by line to it and when i found it it all made sense. I was always thinking it. Now i have antinatalist bf.

Your situation is I will say of a difficulty and living standing that is within extreme opposites, and even on first dates people actually ask this very important aspect before dating, whether their date wants children, ever plans to have and under what circumstances. This is going to be lifechanging for either of you and is not something that can be negociated. I have looked into all the ways to experience parenting without actually having a kid, and the options will never be the same to the person who wants a kid, so just be warned, theres not much you can do.

"everywhere you go women want, 6ft, 6 figs income, 6 pack" - I suggest you are not looking for that sort of woman who is a follower of those petty things in a man that have no value to peoples happiness. If you want to lift its a you thing. But you could be making yourself target to females who use you as a show off instead of a decent guy whos there and can let her into his house if needed, however small it is where nobody can see a thing. Some barbie's ken is not a nice thing to be. If you visit a library you will see how people are looking for different things accordingly and have different interests. Find a place you feel like home, im not suggesting be a geek, be yourself, and friend a woman there.

Title	LTR broke off/scarcity mindset
Author	garciast
Upvotes	8
Comments	10
Date	November 24, 2023 1:50 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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