Proof that RP is a spectrum.

VoodooShhh · 2024-06-05T18:44:19+00:00

First of all…. calm the fuck down Wyatt Earp. Starting a post like you just busted open the saloon doors with a hand on your pistol daring everyone in the room to shoot is some truly unnecessary tough guy behavior.

Your whole demeanor screams that you understand RP but suck absolute dick at applying it to your life. So since it isn’t working for you (or rather you can’t make it work) you want to pick it apart with criticism.

So now to the point you tried to make with way too many words and barely coherent sentences (read: temper tantrum). It’s not encouraging a woman to destroy your marriage or LTR. It’s clearly stating that a woman can make her own choices in life but she better be at peace with what happens after the fact because you damn sure will be. I say peace because that’s the core of the OI you must have with the situation.

Wife cheats -> you file for divorce with a smile -> life goes on for you just fine because now you get to fuck some strange.

Hope this helps cowboy.

Monsta-Hunta · 2024-06-05T17:33:11+00:00

This is where frame plays a crucial role.

Zero-abundance frame is jealous, scared, sporadic, begging, pleading, angry, no bitches they can call.

Abundance frame is amused, stoic, having expectations for their mate to live up to or break it off, disappointed over jealous or angry, having options(2 in the kitty.)

Mate guarding plays out overtly from a zero abundance man.

Mate guarding from abundance, high value frame, is psychological and Covert. I don't need you so if you do this, you're gone. With strong frame and attraction set from the start a woman will mate guard herself. With a confident and cocky encouragement to fuck another, you put both at a lower standing than yourself - they can fuck right off if they take you seriously.

High value frame can be overt but it's directed to the male in question rather than your woman, she can been unaware. A silent threat, a downplay of their status, removing you and your girl from the area, faking gay and making moves on the male - an idea I found elsewhere that I loved.

LizardKing1975 · 2024-06-05T16:14:17+00:00

Mate guarding is unattractive behavior. It shows that you don’t have options. That’s why it’s discouraged. I don’t think encouraging that behavior is acceptable, though. Not sure where you’re getting that. I don’t think example 3 is correct unless we’re talking about a movie star crush or something along those lines. The first two examples are different in that you have to accept that you can’t control her behavior, all you can do is be the best version of yourself and that should be enough. If not, you move on. You don’t have to accept bad behavior, but you do have to be prepared to enforce your boundaries.

Connect_Package_5918 · 2024-06-05T15:41:50+00:00

“I’m confused and angry! Instead of lifting, reading and asking questions, I’ll just come in and say anyone who cannot give me a step by step instructions on how to live is a faggot.”

You have clearly failed to understand what TRP being a toolbox means. Since you are autistic(me too sometimes) it means that you do not use all of the tools at once and some may never be needed.

I can tell you for me, I think of relationships as a job. I am the boss of my own life. There were requirements for my wife to get the job of wife. There are requirements for maintaining the position. Failure to meet the requirements of the position may result in disciplinary action up to and including termination.

ur_fault · 2024-06-05T16:15:19+00:00

Proof that RP is a spectrum

Why wouldn't it be?

BigBoiTFB · 2024-06-06T10:54:15+00:00

I have been in this dilemma and I do find a lack of content regarding it, I wrote a piece about it recently and here is a gist of it.

If her statements or actions induce the discomfort of jealousy within, then it simply means that something must change. Either her behavior or your investment levels. You must not ignore or try to rationalize away the feeling of jealousy. If you do, that is where "betaization" begins (I'll explain the nuances later).

I have found it to be the case that mate guarding is unattractive only if you do it in a bitchy, "pweez mommy" manner. Sometimes you just have to put a her on the line, because sometimes women want to be put in line. It can be a subliminal shit test on her part, trying to see if you can challenge her and confidently enforce your claim over her without getting your fee-fees hurt. So use concepts from WISNIFG and simply state boundaries as:

"I don't like it"

"I don't stay in relationships where this thing happens."

"I can't take you seriously if you do these things."

You state them without DEERing (without defending, explaining, excusing or rationalizing). Go the broken record route or use fogging, whatever it is that you do without being a bitch.

If she decides to continue with her impropriety, then you must leave. And it's a good thing, you got rid of a girl who wasn't as invested as you were. If you state these boundaries, and she continues with her impropriety and you don't leave her, congrats, you proved to her that you are bitch and now she actively is looking to switch boats (how that affects you personally, I'll come to that later when I explain betaization)

If she decides to stay and follow your boundaries, then she will gain respect for you, given that you didn't put her in a hostile situation, but rather had her go through a simple decision making process, where she is free to do what she wants. Don't make her feel like a bad person for not choosing you, simply be relaxed. You should be happy that you got rid of her without going through the pain of betrayal or cheating.

Coming to betaization, it will occur if you either rationalize away the feeling jealousy and don't state your boundary, or if you state your boundary, she continues with the impropriety and you still decide to not leave her. What we have to understand about jealousy is that it is an instinct, that we as men developed as response to risk of loss of paternity. Respect it, it is instinctual, thus doesn't need any rational argument, if you feel it then that's reason enough for you to tell her to stop. The effect of perception of impropriety, and actual impropriety is the same. And the effect of digesting or rationalizing it away in our heads is also the same. Explained in follow-up comment.

deerstfu · 2024-06-05T16:42:58+00:00

My understanding and experience is that women who are invested mate guard themselves.

Mate guarding is unattractive and not a real solution longterm. I wouldn't want to be with a woman i had to set those kinds of rules for.

Short term, duh, if you set a boundary and stop her from having an opportunity to cheat, she will be less likely to cheat. But you would be better off nexting that girl in the first place before you have an investment that makes you feel the need to mate guard.

Rollo's article on girls night out explains it pretty well.

TheNattyJew · 2024-06-06T00:20:21+00:00

If she's talking with a guy to get validation: its fine, don't mate guard, don't say nothing, if she fucks him, then its her loss.

If she wants to go to a trip with her girlfriends: that's a no-no, then you're mate guarding, but if she fucks another guy, its her loss, okay don't mate guard and let her do what she wants, you can't control ger.

If she has a crush on another guy: tease her with him fucking her, it will be fun, but then if she actually does it, its her loss.

This is not that hard.

1. My wife can talk to whoever she wants. She has lots of practice shooting down men who are taking their aim at her. It has happened since she was a teenager It's her job to do this since she's married now. I don't get butthurt because someone else thinks my wife is good looking

2. My wife doesn't go on girl trips. She doesn't want to. But even if she did I would tell her that it's not gonna happen. My wife doesn't do it because I don't want her to. If she insists then we have a problem.

3. Depends on what "crush" means. My wife probably has had minor crushes on people she works with. But it doesn't affect me. I've had crushes on other people too. It happens. I'm certainly not going to encourage it. But at the end of the day if she's fucking me then IDGAF

Praexology · 2024-06-06T04:23:19+00:00

Not a spectrum.

You dont understand the fundamental concepts and think yourself capable of omnicience - which is why you're so misguided.

My parents are married for 40 years, I've never ever seeing my dad encouraging anything of that sort, or don't giving a fuck if she's looking outside for validation.

And? Maybe your dad tinkers with his cock cage while sitting in the cuck chair as your mom screws a [pick your race] guy.

Just because they've been married for 40 years doesn't mean they aren't miserable, nor does it mean we should be envious of them.

redwall92 · 2024-06-05T15:26:32+00:00

Sounds like somebody needs a practice hug.

Tyred_Biggums · 2024-06-05T15:48:31+00:00

You seem mad. Why are you mad at internet people?

"My parents are married for 40 years, I've never ever seeing my dad encouraging anything of that sort, or don't giving a fuck if she's looking outside for validation. Maybe times change idk"

Is he happy?

established_1991 · 2024-06-06T04:40:40+00:00

It sounds like you’re mad that there isn’t a “one size fits all” approach or answer you can apply and solve any issues you may have now or in the future.

That’s exactly why you’re right. RP is a spectrum. As others have mentioned, you take the tools that work for you and your situation(s) and leave what you don’t need.

In the end, the ultimate goal is to have a mindset that is acceptable to you on your own terms. It’s wonderful to have a partner you can enjoy life with, have memories, etc like you mentioned. And it would, I assume, be gut-wrenching during the divorce process or after. But again, the ultimate goal is to develop a mindset that is acceptable to you on your own terms.

Ragnardanneskjunior · 2024-06-16T21:22:25+00:00

Women that are into you mate guard themselves and literally ask permission to do things that may even potentially upset the balance of the relationship. Women that are using you for resources will work hard to covertly find the limits of what you will tolerate all the way up to the point of you filming her with some other dudes cock inside her. Its a pretty glaring difference. My advice may be hardcore for some but I say nuke the relationship with a woman that tries to make rules for you instead of making attempts to stay in your frame. If you cannot find that sort of woman then you aren't there yet. You can always find a fatty to practice on until you get your fe-fees under control big boy.

Title	Proof that RP is a spectrum.
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Date	June 5, 2024 3:10 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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1. My wife can talk to whoever she wants. She has lots of practice shooting down men who are taking their aim at her. It has happened since she was a teenager It's her job to do this since she's married now. I don't get butthurt because someone else thinks my wife is good looking

2. My wife doesn't go on girl trips. She doesn't want to. But even if she did I would tell her that it's not gonna happen. My wife doesn't do it because I don't want her to. If she insists then we have a problem.

3. Depends on what "crush" means. My wife probably has had minor crushes on people she works with. But it doesn't affect me. I've had crushes on other people too. It happens. I'm certainly not going to encourage it. But at the end of the day if she's fucking me then IDGAF