My marriage going pretty swell, the roles are defined, the wifey is happy. We have regular sex, but not as frequently as I'd like. And that is because I don't count quickies and shower sex, which make up 2/3. I don't count them because I feel like she uses them when she's not "in the mood". If I comply, I feel like she gains power over me, and I don't want our relationship to sway in that direction. Am I retarded if I start declining them?

Very possible that that's just my hamster fucking with me and I just need to stick closer to the game plan.