I just finished Chapter 10 in NMMNG and was slightly thrown off by Dr. Glover's example of a "Nice Guy" named Allen, hitting on a coworker on a work trip, seducing her, and then refusing to have sex with her after when she asks him up to her room. All because he likes the sexual energy, but doesn't want to mess up the work relationship.

I'm struggling to see the difference between Allen's example, and some other writings on Plate Theory. Is Allen's example primarily relevant because he's acting out of frustration with his wife? Or is there something else about the example that I am missing?

Thanks!

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