Advices for introvert men?

Here2lrn · 2014-09-10T21:57:37+00:00

I posted a similar question and someone replied with this youtube channel:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=b-a1jXgAsQI

It's really helping me so far and the advice works with my own introverted personality (ask questions, don't try to show off too much, be a good listener, etc).

kick6 · 2014-09-11T17:00:10+00:00

It sounds like you're attempting to hide shyness and social awkwardness behind the label of introvert. The difference between introversion and extreversion is where you charge and expend your batteries. Introverts charge their batteries alone, and expend them in public and vice versa. Think about this first. An introvert CAN be outgoing but it drains is batteries. So if you can't, it's another problem entirely.

HardPillToSwallow · 2014-09-10T21:41:27+00:00

No body knows you are an introvert but you. Continue as normal. I'd say introverts have higher potential for plate spinning, as you're less likely to have the energy to want to see a girl all the time.

Dick-Tracy · 2014-09-11T01:29:48+00:00

See my previous comment and the rest of this thread here:

http://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/2eb1uz/how_to_be_alpha_and_introvert/cjxshwg

The short answer is that you're buying into a bullshit false dichotomy. You are not "an introvert" in some essential sense; you can and must learn your way out of it, by exercising your social muscle. Don't buy into the bluepill horseshit excuse of it being in your nature somehow.

kingofpoplives · 2014-09-11T16:26:22+00:00

Don't worry about trying to be the friendly outgoing guy. You're not gonna win the game.

Perfect the brooding loner persona. Plenty of women eat that shit up.

Thizzlebot · 2014-09-12T01:51:18+00:00

You get the fuck over it. People hide behind the mask of "introvert" when they really mean scared to socialize. No one is polar with either of these things but if you are going to justify being a little bitch by calling yourself an "introvert" that's fine with me. Get out there and be loud and proud.

CampbellSmith00 · 2014-09-10T23:58:54+00:00

Stop being an introvert

CampbellSmith00 · 2014-09-11T01:40:39+00:00

If your world revolves around "I am an introvert," then you will be an introvert. It's simply a label that you give yourself; one that has been made acceptable and accessible by society. If you change frame and say "I will be an extrovert" then you damn well bet that your world will change. I did it, you can do it.

Just talk to people. It takes practice, but if you wallow in "woe is me, I'm introverted, I can't talk to people" then you won't succeed. Stop thinking of yourself as an introvert. Be "fun" or "interesting" or etc... Change your worldview to fit what you want.

Title	Advices for introvert men?
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Date	September 10, 2014 9:35 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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