Am I being used?

[deleted] · 2019-05-22T13:59:15+00:00

First of all there is no 10/10. Highest is a 9.

Well she's a model so she is focused on people's looks. But she's been put in this dilemma where she doesnt think you are that good looking but you have pre-selection. So cue the hamster "I dont get why she's with you". Prepare for more shit tests as she hamsters away. But also remember the more you fail shit-tests the harder they become.

Otherwise I'd say to let the things she said about you go. Heck, if I was you I would use her as pre-selection bait to get more girls. Use her to increase your SMV

Dont let people affect you with words.

[deleted] · 2019-05-22T13:54:06+00:00

If shit people say affects you so much that you feel it necessary to post online then you are doing it wrong.

Build tougher skin.

At most, words can throw you off in the moment but shouldn't deserve any after thought unless they are said earnestly.

CainPrice · 2019-05-22T17:37:37+00:00

Women are selfish. Your roommate would rather keep you around as a useful friend/orbiter than have you or another woman be happy.

If she could push a magic button where you'd get a million bucks but couldn't share it with her, or she could get 20 bucks, she'd get herself 20 bucks. She doesn't give a shit about your happiness.

FereallyRed · 2019-05-22T14:28:21+00:00

Hot girls don't like losing their orbiters.

900_year_old_vampire · 2019-05-22T13:45:30+00:00

you shoulda just agree&amplified that nonsense when she said it dude. its time for you to start assuming every single woman on the entire planet finds you attractive. physically attractive enough that if you act right any of them will want you. if she says she doesnt, shes either kidding, lying because shes jealous and wants to try to make you feel bad, or there must be something wrong with her at the moment ie her mom just fuckin died or shes going through a deep depression or something. beyond that, they are literally all at your fingertips, you just choose the ones you want.

what you should do is stop caring what other people say about you and just do whatever you want. wana start banging your roommate? cool. clue: shes down. wanna just keep sleeping with your new woman? cool, thats fine too. your roommate doesnt get to make decisions about your sex life lmao. want to just play them both? great, do that.

why you are letting any of these peoples' actions/words effect you at all is beyond me

Irtotallynotrobot · 2019-05-22T17:41:36+00:00

Honestly, the situation sounds pretty positive. Preselection cued her sense of value towards you. She friend zoned you and expected thirsty worship like she always gets, didn't get it. Now she really wants your attention.

I'd act like a cocky son of a bitch. You're in her mind and you know it, shes not far from fantasizing about you. Now she's the one orbiting you. Bring this new girl back and fuck her good, she'll wish it was her.

Keep up the outcome indifference, gradually get more aloof. Pursue other girls, keep up with your work. Continue increasing smv. The power dynamic between you two is changing, let it. There's no "going back to being friends".

Start looking for a new place to live to keep in your back pocket or to take the initiative on. This is the equivalent of shitting where you eat and things are going to fall apart regardless of your actions now; technically she's shitting where she eats.

Redy4Action · 2019-05-22T16:58:22+00:00

She is a model --> used to guys orbiting her --> can't understand why you aren't and is now prepared to use every tool in the book to get your attention

You are a PhD student so focus on that for now wholeheartedly, and if you find yourself drifting into oneitis, find new hobbies with other people and approach other women. Do NOT engage her emotionally, you will waste a lot of time with that, affecting your studies in the future. I also would suggest moving out of there so that you needn't remain in contact with her.

I also would not recommend sleeping with her, lot of things could go wrong

fatbloop · 2019-05-23T07:14:32+00:00

By what you've written, I think you can bang her.

(But it seems like she might BPD so be wary of sticking your dick into crazy.)

Here's what you do if you want to fuck her: Go for a night out. Just you and her. Get some drinks. Start hitting on other girls while you're there. She'll get incredibly jealous. Might shit test you. Laugh it off. Grab her hand, take her to the bar, do a couple shots and go for the kiss. Then pull her home.

^This never fails. Try it out and report back.

MattyAnon · 2019-05-22T15:13:18+00:00

I'm just not used to having a 10/10 girl showing interest in me

And she isn't showing interest in you now.

I simply don't know how to deal with my roommate after she said those things.

Urgh... living with a woman you're not fucking is the worst of all possible combinations. Figure on changing your living situation or hers SOON.

And don't fucking move in with a woman again, especially not in this situation.

As regards what to do: just try and be normal.

But after all, she has been my closest friend in the new city

Is she behaving like a friend when she says this mean shit to you? Really?

me, it's more the things she said about me. I don't understand if she is just using me or if she just has a messed up sense of humour.

Shit testing, but don't take it as interest. She's just threatened by this other girl, because she had you down as a permanent beta orbiter.

Title	Am I being used?
Author	dummyvar01
Upvotes	2
Comments	12
Date	May 22, 2019 1:30 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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