Am I getting Beta Buxed?

failingtheturingtest · 2017-11-17T05:28:58+00:00

Game like anyone else.
If she tries to withhold anything for commitment, just next, instantly. Not worth the fucking hassle.
Chicks with kids still want sex. At 23, she's less likely to think she's fucked up her RMV completely and thinks she's still got it, so she may not be feeling the pressure to lock down a provider in a hurry.
But if there are signs of her trying to negotiate commitment, etc. Just pull away. She'll either try and use sex to rope you in (WRAP IT UP!) or she'll start showing more overt signs of manipulation.

If in doubt, walk away. There are at least a dozen other women in the world.

replicaplater · 2017-11-17T05:31:50+00:00

Wrap it up unless you wanna pay for her next kid. If she does have a kid don't get involved with them at all, no exceptions.

TheStumblingWolf · 2017-11-17T09:06:01+00:00

I think you should give her the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes single moms are just tired of being moms all the time and just wanna have some fun. As was said though, if she starts withholding stuff, which doesn't align with your goals, gtfo.

MattyAnon · 2017-11-18T00:16:07+00:00

Been snapping all week

bad idea........ be busy!

am 99% sure she has a kid. She doesn't know I know yet.

Not a dealbreaker.

Not LTR material either.

What's the play here? All I want casual fun.. not into commitment at all right now. Any advice on how to go through with this?

Yes.

HAVE CASUAL FUN. This isn't as trite as it sounds: play it your way for what YOU want. She can accept or leave. If she leaves there will be more. So play it how you want it, and to a certain extent let the cards fall where they may. You want sex, you go for sex. If she's down she's down. If she shows LMR and you freeze her out and then have sex then she's down. If she walks out saying "damn, another man that won't provide for Chad's baby" (which she phrases as "damn, all men want is sex") then you've got your answer. BUT.... assume she wants the same thing you do until you find out otherwise. (And "otherwise" might be a shit test, so don't take it too seriously).

Meet her. Joke "did you find a baby sitter then" at the weekend and refuse to explain, just smirk. Don't ask if she has a kid, don't say what you know, just chuckle to yourself. She'll hate it :)

If she mentions anything about commitment, say "I'm not looking for anything serious".

Accept in yourself that she might be looking for a provider. You might lose her by refusing to commit. Be ok with that. But you might get the casual fun you want too. Proceed with that until you find out otherwise.

Forgot_Pword · 2017-11-17T05:31:28+00:00

I'd move to greener pastures. Not gonna get more than a couple lays before the "squeeze".

atlastic1 · Fri Nov 17 11:40:03 2017 UTC

Did you pay for her shit on your first meet? Without more info id be inclined to say she hasnt decided whether you are AF/BB yet. She has a kid so its a fair assumption she wants a beta provider, doesnt mean she wants you to be that provider though. She may already have a provider sorted already anyway.

Throwawaysteve123456 · 2017-11-17T20:20:51+00:00

This is an alpha widow in the making. A lot of the time they widow younger with kids, she may be completely done by 25, but will make up in that time.

Title	Am I getting Beta Buxed?
Author	testicols
Upvotes	4
Comments	10
Date	November 17, 2017 5:13 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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