Are you into commitment or spinning plates? How many lifetime sexual partners do you desire?

AFPJ · 2014-10-13T21:24:37+00:00

"Lifetime sexual partner count" is peculiar wording & not necessarily related to Plate vs LTR.

Props on the poll - these should be done more often. Alas, some discussion is warranted here.

Let's talk about why our preferences are what they are, advantages and disadvantages.

I'll start. My lifetime count is already in the hundreds, but I prefer LTR. Advantages include:

Significant reduction in STD risk (no idea how but I never caught any)
No more spending 1-2 hours in a club every time you want to get laid.
Aligns with my schedule: I'm an early rise, sleeping by 10PM kinda guy
My expenses are virtually zero. We pay for our own stuff and split food.
LTR comes to my place. I don't have to drive, we go out 1-3x a month.
Outings are fun and productive: Home Depot -> coffee -> H&M / F21.

Disadvantages:

They can be a little needy. I've to deviate from my schedule every month or two.
I have to hold their hand through their important life decisions like big purchases.
I have to occasionally mix in a little cringe-inducing Beta to help alleviate dread.
Once or twice a year their car will break down or something, I generally help out.

My LTR's cook, run errands and bring value to my life in many other ways. All I do is routine psychological maintenance (a little drama, put them in their place, etc) and give their lives discipline, structure & meaning.

tombreck2 · 2014-10-13T21:31:41+00:00

Plates for a few more years then when I find a good one I'll give her a chance to win me over

DowntownSacramento · 2014-10-13T22:20:38+00:00

I never needed more than 3 women. An Asian, an Indian, and a blonde. My quest is over when I find all three and they're bi. I'll go Muslim or Mormon on a bitch to marry all three of those.

secret_barber · 2014-10-13T23:22:40+00:00

I don't have a goal number. I can manage spinning 3 active plates, while keeping a few additional conversations going. I'm spinning plates to fulfill my high sexual desire, (re)gain proper perspective on relationship dynamics (after a failed 13yr marriage), rebuild my confidence/self-worth and for fucking laughs.

MagnanimousGenius · 2014-10-14T04:41:36+00:00

I've alway had LTR's, but always been prone to cheating. I'm successful at both, and I like the LTR most of all for the fall back it provides when I'm in a slump, the safety against STD's and the companionship.

I'll note though that on a recent post I made I'll be taking someones advice to cut out cheating, although I've found that my SO always seems to sense it and it just makes them clingier, give into me more

abcd_z · 2014-10-14T04:44:52+00:00

Spinning plates for the rest of my life.

It is good to be the king. B-)

calciu · 2014-10-14T04:55:28+00:00

I am already over 50(more than half of them escorts from the dark days), am I happy? Not really, I'd love to have a family and kids, not sure if I am able to do that at this point in my life. So spinning plates it is...

Title	Are you into commitment or spinning plates? How many lifetime sexual partners do you desire?
Author	PostNationalism
Upvotes	8
Comments	12
Date	October 13, 2014 8:51 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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