Recently been working on my game again after a long stint, and I'm rusty as fuck, but the initial fear of rejection has pretty much left me now. I started chatting to a girl who's HB8, and has a lot of followers, social proof etc, and is obviously quite smart as well.

In part of the conversation we had, I said this after she had told me what she'd been going through recently (and yes, this is embarrassing for me as well. I'm re-learning):

Me: "Well, I apologise. I wasn't to know you'd gone through that, but in my defense, I was extra thirsty and you look like an oasis in a desert"

Her: "While I understand, that’s also what most rapists would say, haha"

Me: "Yeah, but I'm not most rapists" (That was obviously intended as a joke)

Just how badly did I handle this small exchange? How can I come off as less "rapey"? And yes, I am probably autistic. I don't care. I'm here to learn.