Lately I've been more and more tinder dates and I find I have a tough time closing on first dates.

I've never successfully brought a girl back to my place on a first date. On second date, yes. But not the first date.

I have a set routine more or less. Start in one particular bar near my house, then move to other bar across the street. Become more touchy as date goes on.

If the date is going somewhat well, kiss at second place. This is where I run into a bit of trouble. I almost always successfully get the kiss, but rarely are they super into it. Not enough sexual tension. It's also hard for me to be super natural about the kiss. I've done this quite a few times but it's never that smooth.

Basically I've never felt like I've been able to establish enough sexual tension in 1-2 hours to get a girl back to my place or even get a really solid make out on the first date. In some cases it felt like trying to escalate on the first date even worked against me.

Other thing is I generally schedule these first dates for Thursday nights (as opposed to weekend, don't really like doing them then). Feels like after a certain time things won't go any further because of work the next day, etc.

Trying to figure this out - could use input.