Control your plate

apskidb · 2015-09-10T15:58:42+00:00

Then I say, "I actually did but thanks."

That's loss of frame right there. You should have agreed and amplified: "omg i so totally made that up so you'd fall in love with me" with a smirk on your face and get up and spank her.

Feisty girls like this give you the opportunity to really up your game. Use it. Don't be butt-hurt. When it becomes too much hard work, next her.

revengeofthecrazy · 2015-09-10T16:31:37+00:00

Talking about achievements/bragging is lame. You're asking for shit tests. This girl is maybe a bit on the extreme side, so don't calibrate too much to her. It can really screw up your calibration for normal girls if you're learning this stuff.

This girl can seem like a hard-ass, but don't fall into her game of mind fuckery. She's probably got a very fragile ego underneath and she's learned to confuse people with her cockiness.

When she tries to provoke you with shittests, you have to find a way to snap her out of it. She's looking for someone who can handle her shit, so don't even attempt arguing with her. Don't use words. Just smirk and look at her like you'd look at a kid who's playing in the sand. Body language is key. Something I do a lot is, when I get shit tested, I look at her as if I was thinking about what she just said, then I say something completely different. This changes the subject and she gets the feeling that I was never even fully aware of her.

FrameWalker · 2015-09-10T15:58:35+00:00

Use soft nexts. Always with plausible deniability. She acts up? You're unavailable for a few days. Show her your time is valuable. She'll either fade or work harder to please you.

Either way I've dropped plates for that level of annoyingness, you might consider it too. If this is ealry on (<2 months) chances are she's just shit testing hard to make sure you're AF enough. Stay relaxed, use amused mastery and agree and amplify. Care as little as possible.

abdada · 2015-09-10T15:26:37+00:00

Don't invest in plates. If she is too much work, next her or downgrade her.

secret_barber · 2015-09-10T15:43:00+00:00

You need to study "Plate Theory" ...you shouldn't be talking so much with your plates or getting emotionally invested in her opinion on ANYTHING. Laugh through conversation, fuck her and bounce. If she starts giving you shit, focus your attention moreso on another plate.

AlphaAccountant · 2015-09-10T17:02:33+00:00

Example: I express my SMV about a particular point. She discredits me for something in my personal life that everyone would give me credit for. She says something like, "you didn't even do that, so and so did." When I clearly did do that and everyone else would just say, "wow you're amazing."

This is bragging. Actions > words. You shouldn't be telling her "yo I'm totally awesome". You should simply act as if you are awesome.

Soft next her.

Title	Control your plate
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	2
Comments	16
Date	September 10, 2015 3:22 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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