conversation to avoid friendzone

abdada · 2015-08-30T15:30:50+00:00

More important than conversation is action. Show your interest with kino and k-closes. Don't deal with any one female beyond the K-close results.

EdvardMunch · 2015-08-30T15:45:32+00:00

Those are good things to remember but let me ask you how you would behave if you were 250lbs and a master boxer? How would you eat breakfast as a master boxer? How would you drive a car? Talk to people who gave you shit?

You can ask and request all day long about how the boxer acts from when he wakes to takes a shit, etc. But you are not the boxer.

No doubt learning is important, you should fill your head with knowledge. But, more importantly is to change your core being, then you'll have balance.

Balance means you can be a devious rake and still do those things you've listed because you will not be a nice guy afraid of his sexuality.

I first recommend you work on being selfish for a bit. If just for a week do things for yourself in all ways. She's being annoying, just say "that's a little annoying you know" not in a mean manner just because that's actually how you feel. When you learn to be you and go after what you want you won't have to work at omitting your negatives and actively displaying what you've heard works.

Know what you want and be clear about your intentions. If it seems apparent from the start that you are interested in her sexually there won't come a confusing time where she's surprised that you 'like' her. That's how you avoid the friendzone by never giving her the impression that you're asexual and a tool for her to use. You doing you will give off self respect instead of working to insert a line that displays self respect.

RedPillJax · 2015-08-30T16:48:59+00:00

If your SMV is high enough and you aren't a complete beta, the friendzone kind of disappears on it's own.

I'm flirty and direct with women I want, and am constantly escalating things when I speak to them. There's no 'how was your day,' there's no 'what are you doing this weekend,' unless I'm setting up a plan with them.

They are not your friend, so you don't treat them like it.

As /u/EdvardMucnh said, it's kind of something you learn as you get more experienced, and I could give you a bulleted list with all the things I don't do, but I don't think it would be that beneficial to you unless you've put in the work to raise your SMV to my level, and have been working on self-improvement, cultivating an abundance mentality, and OI on your own.

If you raise your SMV and gain some OI, you won't worry about the friendzone - if anything you may have a slight concern about her self-filtering herself out from your potential fuck list by doing something you don't agree with - but it won't be much of a concern, because you have an abundance mentality and know that you have 5 other girls as hot or hotter than her on the go anyway.

Terror_of_the_Void · 2015-08-30T22:28:42+00:00

"Embrace your sexuality." -Pook

ilovemagicmush · 2015-08-30T16:00:22+00:00

Be attractive and be direct about your intentions.

Okeseko · 2015-08-31T09:52:28+00:00

Last week my friend went on a date with this 20 y.o. girl. I asked how it went. He replied it was great but he didn't tried to kiss her and didn't even did any kind of kino. I warned him, be careful with the friend zone. He replied saying - "Hey Okeseko, I'm not like you, I don't just want sex I want a relationship. I need it!". I told him, even if a relationship is your goal, you must aim to get sex. He ended agreeing with my POV...Unfortunately he didn't had a 2nd date. She saw him as a friend.

Flirt a lot! When texting always show sexual/romantic attraction. The trick is not appear needy. Compliment her personality, be specific!

Last weekend I had a heavy makeout session in a rave with a girl who refused kissing more than 10 times. Every time I went for the kiss she moved the face away. I responded with a smirk every single time.

A friend of mine who knows this girl told me he didn't saw her kissing a guy since last year. Well, I know I know AWALT, she could be sluting around but at least she discrete about it.

throw_em_all · 2015-08-31T17:41:02+00:00

Be clear with your intentions.

That's it.

Title	conversation to avoid friendzone
Author	wartorle
Upvotes	6
Comments	14
Date	August 30, 2015 3:28 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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