Critique my Texting

refusewool · 2018-02-24T10:54:34+00:00

Cringed so hard at your opener and first few messages. Couldn’t carry on reading. What are you trying to achieve with your texting? Arrange a meet up and game her in real life. I’d tell you to read the sidebar but you probably want cheap and quick seduction tactics.

301niko · 2018-02-24T11:02:18+00:00

You wait too long to get that number. SMASH N DASH don't talk about dwarfs

EhzmwGGh · 2018-02-24T11:07:45+00:00

My friend is like this and he is everyone's court jester. No one takes him seriously but at the other hand everyone likes him.

NewHum · 2018-02-24T11:22:02+00:00

I would first like to say that I don’t believe in texting game at all. You should definitely try to meet her in real life as soon as possible or at least talk to her over the phone.

Im sure that you’re very charming IRL but over text you just look like a try-hard. Every hot girl has 10 other beta guys who text her so you need to be different. You want to be the the guy who doesn’t have time to entertain her over text. If she wants to enjoy time with you then she needs to commit her own time and meet you.

Still I would say you had good intentions. I have been in the exactly same situation as you before (but not over text) where you try to deal with shit tests by joking. The problem is that you did it too much and so gave her a chance to use that against use and mark you as a clown who cannot take anything seriously. Sure you could just pretend that you don’t care but that usually won’t take you anywhere further in this situation. From this point you have to defuse the situation in a strong manner that kinda gives her what she wants (a serious answer) in a way that you still look strong, in control and not like you’re caving in.

There are many ways to do this but what I found out to work is to say something in the lines of:

“Alright, here is the deal then. You can ask me three serious questions and I will give you two answers. One will be a lie and the other one will probably be the truth.”

This way you can kinda give her what she wants but then also not be very serious about it and show her that you don’t really care that much.

I will always defeat joking and comedy as a sure way to get women but it’s a fine art that takes very fine balance. Do it too little and it wool look genuinely and easy (which is should since it displays comfort) but do it too much and then you’re a clown who cannot take everything seriously.

Learn from this and give the girl some time (a couple of weeks to a month) then try again.

walawalawa · 2018-02-24T11:39:45+00:00

A few things:

Started out strong but this rambled on and one. Each spike has to lead to something sexual and once you feel she's ready, wrap it up and set up a meeting.

Her: So just a cheap flirt then? Your subject is more of an art than science

Ok

Her: Also your not so subtle sexual innuendos are not appreciated

This is where you need to reframe and stack.

You: You have a dirty mind, but if you promise to behave let's meet for that drink.

Her blah blah blah

After that it's logistics or next.

Her: So I'm never going to get answers from you? Me: Women love a man of mystery. Why do you wanna ruin it Her: Sorry to hear you can paint all the women with same brush. I like straight forward men, so.. Me: I don't know who your boyfriend is, but he's not spanking you enough

All this is over-gaming.

She seemed interested and was bantering along. But when you moved from playful jerk to annoying jerk you can sense the shift.

Dial it down next time. When she starts to shift towards comfort, throw her something: "Let's discuss is more when we meet, what's your schedule?"

UEMcGill · 2018-02-24T13:12:50+00:00

Stopped reading.

Texting is for logistics. I say again texting is for logistics you autistic fuck.

Move to meet, then close the deal.

3x8-12 · 2018-02-24T14:33:39+00:00

Amused mastery is great, but doesn't translate well to texting when you're establishing a rapport with a new woman. In the future, stick to the recommended texting methods by texting for logistics when you're establishing yourself with a new woman.

XT3M3 · 2018-02-24T14:55:27+00:00

you opened with great promise but then showed you can't read this girl over her reactions. and instead of seeing it was time to stop, you keot doing your act of bs and then you completely lost her.

Her: What do you do for a living?

Me: I teach Orgasmic Sciences to cute chicks

Her: So just a cheap flirt then? Your subject is more of an art than science

Her: Also your not so subtle sexual innuendos are not appreciated

Me: ...

Her: Which field of study do you belong to?

Me: Didn't know this was a job interview

this answer right here was the end. she gave you a few more chances later on to possibly redeem yourself but you blew it there too.

I would have went with

Her: What do you do for a living?

Me: I teach Orgasmic Sciences to cute chicks, post your number here and someone from my office (or i) will get back to you.

at this point if she doesn't place her number or continues to b.s.. you just next. saves you a whole bunch of bs later on. if she (and other girls) wants to fuck , they will give you their number at that point.

redpilledprince · 2018-02-24T15:46:27+00:00

This is way too much texting.

Stick to logistics.

RedSkeller · 2018-02-24T17:45:43+00:00

Way too long.

Title	Critique my Texting
Author	tokyotundra
Upvotes	1
Comments	20
Date	February 24, 2018 10:50 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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