Current girlfriend saw clothes from past girlfriend in my place. What to do?

x7CR7x · 2014-04-07T16:20:22+00:00

Accidental Dread Game FTW

gt35r · 2014-04-07T16:34:34+00:00

What's funny is she's almost using this as an excuse to prod you for treating her to something special like getting you to make it up to her over a gift or dinner. She should know something like this is common and not really a big deal, but she sees an opportunity to try and guilt trip you over it into rewarding her with attention and special treats. Which of course don't do any of that.

Archwinger · 2014-04-07T18:09:10+00:00

This smells like shit and seems like a test of your ability to hold your frame. Somebody should come up with an easy to remember name for this.

Never argue on her level. Never explain yourself. Never justify yourself. Never apologize. Do NOT validate her behavior or her viewpoint.

And in this case, concede no ground whatsoever. You have every right to have had past girlfriends. It's not like you hid this from her and told her you were a virgin.

Agree and amplify. "What do you mean how many women!? That stuff's mine from before the operation." "Alive or dead? You know how serial killers keep collections from their victims?" "Oh, I kept that around in case any of it fits you. You might not be too big. Try some on."

"I don't make you feel special? I let you rummage through my closet. Not a lot of girls make it past the bed." "Of course you're different from my past relationships. My last few girlfriends wouldn't be complaining right now."

PhantomDream09 · 2014-04-07T02:00:35+00:00

Here's the thing: She is just another woman, and the sooner she understands that she is absolutely replaceable - the more she will strive to stand out and keep your focus in positive ways. She needs to know that she's not special, and that if she wants to stay with you, she has to always be on her best behavior.

[deleted] · 2014-04-07T13:44:33+00:00

Ask her how many guys she's been with.

You're just another boyfriend to her. Why should she be someone special to you?

aaron_the_just · 2014-04-07T23:37:30+00:00

Call ex over, have a threesome?

[deleted] · 2014-04-08T23:37:50+00:00

...if you've been with a lot of girls, then I'd think you'd know how to handle this childish reaction from her?

This shouldn't bother you at all, and sure you can console her concerns, tell her that there's a reason she's with you right now and hte other girls are gone, but don't forge to tell her that this type of attitude won't last...as long as you mean it.

Best of luck man, you shouldn't have needed to post this if you've been with "with many girls."

lost_2_apathy · 2014-04-07T00:45:09+00:00

Maintain frame.

Sounds like she's got some insecurities to deal with,it's not your problem.

redpillschool · 2014-04-07T17:15:41+00:00

Ask if she wants any of the clothes, they might fit if she lost a few pounds.

(no don't really do that)

IDefyAxioms · 2014-04-07T00:58:18+00:00

Depending how serious the situation is (how angry she is), either tell her "it's none of your business/it doesn't matter" or Agree & Amplify. Just tell her you both had forgot that they were there and it doesn't matter. The "you never treat me special/different" is just a sort of 'catch' to make you react/respond.

Edit: for those downvoting, explain why.

Title	Current girlfriend saw clothes from past girlfriend in my place. What to do?
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Date	April 7, 2014 12:16 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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