LTR of three years. We live together. Bartender for almost a year now.

Seeing a lot of distrust in here for women who work in night life. She begs me to come all the time, and when I do everyone is cool to me. Obviously dudes there have crushes on her but nothing obvious when I’m around. She shows me the insane number of guys who add her in insta, snap, and try to slip in, even though she loudly proclaims she has a boyfriend regularly. They don’t give a shit. She’s shows me the hilarious “No’s” that she sends them.

She usually hangs out after work, comes home when I’m about to wake up around 4-5 AM. She smokes with people after work, and a couple times she’s told me she goes to the house of a guy she works with and buys weed, or smokes with a couple guys from school in their car.

She would stop if I asked her to. Some days I’m totally cool with it and have the mentality that if someone wants to cheat they will cheat, so no point crying or worrying, just keep focusing on myself. However, some days I get highly suspicious because my girlfriend is going to dudes houses without me. I asked her if she would care if I did the same (go to a girls house after work, come home at 5am) and obviously she said she would care and that would bother her. I’ve randomly checked her phone in the night a handful of times, never found anything even slightly incriminating.

She’s pretty good other than that and I’d prefer to keep her around. Can’t tell if I’m suspicious for good reason or just overthinking. Thoughts?