Depressed, alone and frustrated

Pusikur · 2019-05-25T20:53:36+00:00

Where are u from bro if u are from Balkan i can help u

transitive1021 · 2019-05-26T00:08:53+00:00

Get some vitamin D.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/reading-between-the-headlines/201307/vitamin-d-deficiency-and-depression

RossDDMarshalls · 2019-05-25T22:22:37+00:00

Dude, make another thread about lifting on an appropriate subreddit. Lifting keeps me sane, and I think it'll help you too, but it seems like you still have a lot to learn.

What does your lifting routine look like in general? Describe your squat form. Describe your diet.

Awesometjgreen · 2019-05-25T22:00:17+00:00

I want to give you advice because I was in your situation not even 2 months ago but I also recognize that some things don't work for everybody. I would suggest just identifying some female you wouldn't mind going out with and ask her on a date. If she says no then too damn bad, ask another girl. I did this and I initially got rejected by two girls and the third said yes. Now she's asking me if I eat ass and grinding on my lap everytime we go out (like I said I was in your position). Just start by asking girls out, don't worry about anything else, just ask them out.

throwaway12121999 · 2019-05-26T00:57:47+00:00

Sounds like you might have low T. Get your testosterone levels checked. Get bloodwork done for total T, free T, and e2. Ask your doctor about it or find a lab.

If you're low, get on TRT. If you can't, buy it yourself.

hansieboy10 · 2019-05-25T22:53:32+00:00

Forget woman for now. I was in a deep depression for almost 2 years. You should focus in recovery first. Make small steps, go to therapy. Dont compare yourself to the succesful redpillers for now.

Blakrov · 2019-05-26T00:51:44+00:00

Heh, sounds like me... at least its only been a year, I'm on about 4.

Make sure you do your warm ups, Agile 8 for example, I spend about 10-20 mins warmups, its worth it. Get your sleep.

Msg me if you want to chat with someone in a similar stint

ThatIzWhack · 2019-05-26T01:42:43+00:00

Since you're at university, does your school have a rec centre or gym you can use? Are there intramurals you can participate in? School clubs that may peak your interest?

If you're in exams, send out a mass email to people in which ever class you want and see if anyone wants to meet up and study.

Does the school have any student support services they can offer you? My school offered short term individual counseling, maybe there's something similar available to you. Call your registrar or any office that may be able to point you in the right direction.

It's all starts with you, but there are avenues out there you can explore that will help you along. If you've got good family, don't keep this shit from them.

dani098 · 2019-05-25T21:09:50+00:00

You should be monitoring your total cal intake and carbs and fat. Not just protons. Shit, lack of carbs and bring in “depression “.

ZabuzAli · 2019-05-26T02:02:57+00:00

Seeing no results in 2 months means you’re doing something wrong.

Ditch calisthenics and get a real lifting routine.
Track your kcal intake
Track your weight progress

I have a feeling you’re getting injured because of improper form due to trying to up the weights too quickly. When you first start, start with a weight you can actually do, work on your form, then you will be able to start increasing weight with a low chance of injury.

As for the loneliness, seek therapy. I used to be the same and was surprised by how much my past was affecting my present behaviour and thinking patterns. Try it out for a few sessions and see how it goes.

Thunderfin · 2019-05-26T02:45:32+00:00

gave fucking up

Maybe that's why you're alone... /s

I'm not from the US but I daydream at least 10 times day about shooting up all that disgusting filth of humans around me and I'm afraid that given a few years I could seriously break.

Wtf? That seriously took a dark turn. Why are they disgusting filth of humans? Who are you to say they're shit when you yourself admitted you're nothing?

You need to get off Reddit and get a psychologist ASAP. Sounds like you may even need a suicide hotline. Really hoping we don't see your name across the news in a couple weeks related to a school shooting.

And just saying, it's equally scary that this post got close to 15 upvotes. 15 people upvoting someone who wants to do a mass shooting?

jeco77 · 2019-05-26T03:05:24+00:00

Dude you are way too hard on yourself. Calm down, stop comparing your life to others as your history and experiences are unique to you and you alone. Just keep on with your exercises and do them not to get buff like the swole gym buffs but for your health. You need to start loving yourself almost unreasonably. Empathize with yourself and the situation you find yourself in and choose to do better not for anyone but for your own well being. You have family right? Talk to them about your state of mind. Close friends? Do the same. Understand that this life really is not that serious. We are 13 billion years into the universes existence and billions of more years are yet to come. All this will be washed away by the sands of time so focus on building a life that you will be happy with. Read ‘The power of self-Discipline: No excuses’. Hopefully that helps you get started on working on your life. Good fortune to you friend.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2019-05-26T03:06:04+00:00

but I daydream at least 10 times day about shooting up all that disgusting filth of humans around me

Therapist.

Set up an appointment today. Quit fucking around, my man.

L1amas · 2019-05-26T07:47:51+00:00

Other than working out, what the hell else are you doing in your free time?

Justanotherredditt · 2019-05-26T07:51:38+00:00

Set a goal of 100 pull-ups, 100 pushups, and 100 Bodyweight squats a day. Do them at your leisure throughout the day, but make sure you do the 100 of each. Report back in one month and tell us you don’t see progress.

taway987123456 · 2019-05-26T08:06:05+00:00

Please get blood work done to check your testosterone levels.

I swear most men who have anxiety/social anxiety, depression, brain fog etc are more than likely in the low T category.

CharlesChadworth · 2019-05-25T23:03:36+00:00

Ask and you shall receive.

If you don't ask a girl out for a date the chance of her asking you is minimal. I have had girls approach me, however I leave that to good timing and being in the right place at the right time. Usually if you hang around with girls they get to know you and it's easier for them to drop hints.

Never ever rely on this tactic. I seriously regret all the times I could have asked girls out in my younger years and the missed chances. Now I make up for it and ask a girl out for coffee, drinks etc.

Do I get rejected? Hell yea, do girls sometimes reciprocate and take me up on this offer? Yea. Do I get nervous? Of course. It's all part of life.

As for shooting up people, you need to calm down. There are animals better than some people, however there are also people who are decent. Stick with the good ones.

Ps: If you get a chance to work a sales job do it, no matter how shit. You will learn that you cant sell to everyone and that rejection even in sales exists. Same principle applies to girls. You cant win them all.

ShotgunTRP · 2019-05-26T03:30:37+00:00

Figure out NOW how you are going to make as much money as you possibly can by 29. THIS is your most important mission and number 1 priority.

Inbetween get as fit as you can. This is your Number 2 priority

In the very few spare moments of your life inbetween these 2 things. Make as many friends as you possibly can with as many different kinds of people. This is your number 3 priority

You have NINE years to do these three things and set up your 30's to be the greatest decade anybody ever experienced in mankind.

SACRIFICE your 20's to the gods of hard work and you will see the changes you want in your life

... and to anybody saying the cunt needs therapy theres nothing wrong with a morbid fantasy once in a blue moon. Just keep that shit in check and watch some horror or play some gta once in a while

somedude12363 · 2019-05-25T22:58:45+00:00

You have to throw the self pity in the trash. Just do what people here tell you to do and man up. It all comes down to not giving up. If they were 5 meaning full pull ups you would have been satisfied, but you weren't, and you knew you had more in you. Man up, push yourself to your limit, and use lighter weight if you have to. If you haven't seen results in two months it's your effort, it should not be easy. Look up David goggins. He went from a 300 pound pussy to going to navy seal tryouts in 3 months.

If it takes an hour to finish a set with constant effort, let it take an hour.

Corporation_Pull-in · 2019-05-26T03:34:42+00:00

Drink a liter of milk a day.

communistcontrolact · 2019-05-26T00:42:22+00:00

Get over yourself you weak pussy. You’re not in east Africa starving to death or living in poverty.

Go get a hooker and stfu

Davidskylarkk · 2019-05-26T01:21:51+00:00

Dude, get some heroin, you'll feel fantastic!

Title	Depressed, alone and frustrated
Author	Vouch33r
Upvotes	14
Comments	41
Date	May 25, 2019 8:45 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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