Depressed.

onrappel · 2021-05-28T23:27:50+00:00

I’m hearing a lot of insecurities based on other people’s opinions of you. Why do you give a fuck?

You want some actionable advice? You’re in high school. I guarantee you aren’t the only guy thinking these same things. It’s a weird time. It’s a weird place. You think the world of every little thing that happens to you. Pain is temporary, but can be permanent if you let it. These girls lose their looks in 10 years. Those dudes on the team will have beer guts and flunk out of their second choice universities in a few years. You have so many experiences waiting for you it’s impossible to tell you what to do. Ask yourself this: what do I want? Whatever that is, go fucking get it. Do the fucking work.

TheGreatestSpice · 2021-05-29T01:22:19+00:00

You’re in highschool and you’ll always be friends with people from high school and see them all the time after graduation!

-end sarcasm-

Branch out your friendships beyond school or even your community.

New_Guard · 2021-05-29T09:47:26+00:00

The biggest issue with high school if you're someone who's a little different from average is that you don't really have full agency to select your own social circle. I mean, of course, you have your pick of the people in your school, but that's not really the full spectrum of life. And everyone is insecure and playacting at life.

I'm in my 40's now, and a few years ago I briefly passed through a social circle of guys who I thought I might have some things in common with, but it turned out they reminded me exactly of some of the annoying, immature guys in my high school who I never vibed with. I had thought all of that type of guy had matured into adulthood, but no - it's just that my friend group is now made up of my type of person.

This kind of stuff will get progressively better as you get more freedom to live your life as you want and as you develop more unique skills and interests that you can share with others. Tough it out. It sounds like you're putting good work into yourself. Keep doing things that will pay dividends in 10, 15, and 20 years. Stay fit, do well in school, develop a solid code of ethics, and don't let bitches derail you from your efforts - they're literally a drug as dangerous as any illegal substance.

throwawaymylifeeie · 2021-05-29T16:10:38+00:00

Hey man a lot of things you've said on here resonate a lot with me. I was a similar person to you in high school. My biggest problem looking back was that I cared too much about my image and it seems (judging by your post history) this may affect you also without you even realising it.

It seems you're hyper-succesful and driven and that image that you work hard to portray is what people judge you by. But the ego you get from the 4.0gpa and being hs QB etc. isn't likeable unfortunately. People respect you I'm sure, but you wouldn't be the type of guy people would just chill out and get Chipotle with.

Coming from experience if you want more friends you have to lose your ego and allow yourself to be on the same level as others. Then your self worth comes from your relationships rather than the image/ego you've created for yourself.

TheRedApostle · 2021-05-29T17:50:45+00:00

What you're feeling is 100% normal, even for people older than you.

Humans are social animals, regardless of what the several alphas on here will tell you.

And it is only natural to want acceptance from said animals as well.

But I promise you this : high school is one of the dumbest places on Earth, and you'd be an idiot to not get your training wheels here.

Keep asking girls out, keep training and keep making a fool of yourself if you want to do something with your life.

This will set you up for college EXTREMELY well, unlike the dorks who are living off the reputation they've built in the hometown where everyone knows their dads.

You'll reinvent yourself just the way you want, I promise.

Until then, keep doing things even if they feel inappropriate and leave you feeling terrible - because you're stuck with the wrong crowd. And it will eventually be replaced.

T00kTheRedPill · 2021-05-28T23:28:46+00:00

Have you decided to take action towards the surfing?

BajaGhia · 2021-05-29T04:06:19+00:00

Well as long as your being spergy and all, you should look up clep.

Its an easy way to knock out your college undergraduate for super cheap so you can save some time and lots of money.

Also, start up a lawnmowing business and start taking care of the neighborhood milfs bush, you can make good cash for yourself, still be active and spend time with new people. Wear a condom, come in her mouth or in her ass, do not get anyone pregnant

It is time far better spent meeting new people than trying to change existing peoples minds about you. Sounds like you got some stink on you.

Unbannable_1721 · 2021-05-29T13:59:52+00:00

Hey man, you’re still in highschool— enjoy this time because once you’re 22 like me you really miss those Days. Just continue working out hard in the gym/ in sports, focus on mimicking people who are successful. I.e how do they dress? How do they stand? What jokes have I heard that got girls attention? What are their recreational activities?

Also, invite girls to friend group activities. Be cool with everyone even if they’re two faced.

DrugsNSlumnz · 2021-05-29T04:29:57+00:00

Military will transform your life. Look into it.

Title	Depressed.
Author	johnjim242
Upvotes	23
Comments	46
Date	May 28, 2021 11:03 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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