Depression

hawkfan9 · 2016-02-25T07:52:35+00:00

The goal is to be busy. I get fits of over analysis where I just pick apart everything that's wrong, and it sends you deep down that pit of despair.

Keeping your mind constantly active when this happens is key. Your a busy interesting guy right? Well get back to it. Fill up every hour slot of your day, and you'll realize at the end of it all, you have no energy to waste on a bitch who didn't want to hop aboard the success train. You can offer a ticket, but you cant make her take it. She'll always catch the next train in. So keep handing out tickets until you find that passenger who wants to come along.

hamstercide · 2016-02-25T08:18:07+00:00

The only cure for depression I know is success, and success in what really matters to you. Successes in minor areas might be nice but the bigger thing will still be eating at you. When you make strides or even baby steps in what's important to you you will feel better. At least it's worked for me.

I disagree with these guys saying you should distract yourself. Move on and find someone else. Don't waste time with people who don't reciprocate, invest in people who like you.

RichieFinn · 2016-02-25T10:17:55+00:00

I can't help but think how well she deceived me.

The worst part is she's actually the closest thing to a unicorn I've known.

Someone needs to get a thing called standards. If a girl who takes pride in her ability to deceive people is your idea of a unicorn you clearly havent expanded your horizons enough my man.

RPFreebase · 2016-02-25T07:08:29+00:00

Embrace the pain. Allow it to show you the truth about this chick, about all chicks. There are no unicorns. The pain will pass but if you pay attention you will be left with a deeper understanding of the nature of women and yourself.

In the meantime- keep doing what you're doing. Lift, meditate, make your mission your priority. Remember girls are for fun, they do not add meaning to your life.

I have found having solid connections with other men to be useful in times of emotional disturbances. Not so you can use them to vent to, but to better remind you of the shit that is actually important.

RedTheFuckUp · 2016-02-25T07:57:18+00:00

Not sure what she did but whatever it is, fuck that shit. I'm going through some self inflicted shit with my girlfriend but my passions and hobbies keep me plenty business. When you are improving yourself and focused on your life, you don't have a lot of energy to give a shit about drama.

Pretty generic advice, but I'm happy to help with specifics if you'd like.

Nigbones · 2016-02-25T08:49:20+00:00

I don't know what she did, but from your reaction it seems she was able to get affirmation of your emotional commitment to her. That's a 1- 0 score for her.

MaseWindew · 2016-02-25T09:05:01+00:00

I guess as a man you gotta be on your toes 24/7. Part of the journey that some might overlook is taking women for what they are and not what we were told all our lives. They'll get mad at women because they still think of them the same or at least think that's how women should be.

You can only change yourself and not your surroundings. Only try to improve on or work with what you can control.. Which is yourself. If something bad happens to you, remember it was your fault and only you can do something about it. Everything else isn't going to change just for you.

Apprentic3 · 2016-02-25T10:40:43+00:00

If you could write down what that girl did, we may learn from it.

Izzenw · 2016-02-25T13:21:55+00:00

Hard Next bro. Cutting total ties with someone hurts, and hurts a lot, but its the only way not to suffer.

drqxx · 2016-02-25T14:41:11+00:00

They will think im crazy but it did wonders for my depression. Micro dosing shrooms. Google it; try it; & dare to prove me wrong.

MeatCurtainRod · 2016-02-25T16:44:59+00:00

What gets me is using the word 'depression'. Worse, is quantifying it like 'mini depression' as if the disease has multiple types of viruses, and saying it with a straight face.

Real life. This means you will experience happy AND sad. You can't expect to experience happy all the time. What really is happening to you, is you are experiencing sadness. This is NORMAL. Don't get caught up in feelings. They are just feelings. Don't get caught up in inward observations, because life will pass you by. Contrary to popular belief, feeling sad is actually okay. It is just a fact of life. Feeling sad places you in perspective, and shows you that your past experiences are in fact in the past and allow you to grow and mature. Focusing on the feelings and fighting to stay happy, is gonna destroy any chances of you growing into a mature adult. Normally this moment of clarity happens when you hit puberty, but a lot of homes now are run by women who fuck up their children by keeping their boys from growing up past their little precious toddler.

Step one. No, you don't have depression. You are just focusing on the feeling of sadness. Stop this.

Step two, realize she is no unicorn. The reason why you are sad, is because your brain is screaming at you telling you to move on from the past. This is supposed to be a natural defensive mechanism of the human brain, so listen to it, and move on.

Step 3, come up with a game plan with goals and mini goals. Then implement the plan and win your goals. Achieve something, get into hobbies, focus on schooling.

david_kimba · 2016-02-25T17:29:09+00:00

Dettach from your feelings. Ask yourself what the true lesson for you to learn is. Why did you get into that situation, what void where you trying to fill in. Learn and be thankful. She didnt hurt you, you did. Its your life and your opportunity to learn. Grow stronger and fly higher. Next time you will do better.

bur_ner_ · 2016-02-25T20:14:22+00:00

You're still worrying about trivial blue pill stuff. You'd likely reject the best advice you see here.

I hope you have good friends to help you get out of the funk.

user5577 · 2016-02-26T00:44:14+00:00

closest thing to a unicorn I've known.

Well now you know she was full of shit.

Title	Depression
Author	RandomTerper
Upvotes	13
Comments	17
Date	February 25, 2016 6:23 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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