Does moving in with your GF kill the relationship?

RedditAdminsSuck_88 · 2016-08-07T22:07:19+00:00

https://therationalmale.com/2011/10/06/shacking-up/

Read this.

The fact that you are even considering it makes me believe you have not read the sidebar, and think TRP is just some kind of ideology that can be adapted in a day to make things with women easier.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #4

NEVER under any circumstance live with a woman you aren’t married to or are not planning to marry in within 6 months.

Notice how it says NEVER.

NEVER. In all caps.

That means there is no valid excuse to break this iron rule. Period. I don't care what your rationale or reasoning is. Do not do it.

SlothOnRoids · 2016-08-07T23:15:27+00:00

I have been living with my girl for over 5 years now and things have pretty much remained the same. If you aren't planning to marry the girl don't do it though. Always be ready to walk on the drop of a dime if any blatantly disrespectful shit starts happening, living together makes breaking up exponentially more difficult though.

jdgalt · 2016-08-07T23:16:35+00:00

This is straight out of L101. Never move in with a woman; never let her move in with you; never marry or promise to marry.

You seem to think she's an exception to AWALT. No. What she is, is fishing, and trying to set the hook in you. If you let that happen, all the goodies will go away as soon as she has that ring on her finger. No woman can be trusted that far.

Sementeries · 2016-08-07T21:21:13+00:00

Don't move in unless you guys are about to get married.

TheWizardofBaghdad · 2016-08-07T21:31:34+00:00

You need to introspect and figure out your own motivations. Question all of your beliefs. Nothing is objectively true.

What makes you feel the need to make everything "official and different"?

What has made you think the next logical step moving in together?

etc etc

Generally speaking most people will say that it is a bad idea because in practice it tends to not work out well

Jakei34 · 2016-08-07T21:28:51+00:00

I'm currently observing two people who are still under 20 and moved in with one another. Just watching everything die away slowly.

Three things I notice

They don't hold hands while in the car
They don't kiss one another as often
They don't say I love you as much. _____________________________________________________

Bonuses: * They have a child * Man doesn't have a job. Dependent on dad still.

But don't move in with a girl unless you are getting married in within half a year, WHICH YOU SHOULD NOT.

Sepean · 2016-08-07T22:21:06+00:00

If you stay alpha it won't kill your relationship. And she will try to force you or trick you into dropping your alpha.

aurelius_shrugs · 2016-08-08T03:54:00+00:00

She will attempt to push every boundary and turn you into a beta.

Now imagine she's in your face all the time. Don't be a dummy.

FilthMonger85 · 2016-08-07T23:07:49+00:00

I dont necessarily believe Tomassis iron rule 4. People who get married without seeing if they can live together for at least a year or two are doomed to fail. Yes it changes the relationship just stay in shape, apply light dread and give her the good dick whenever you feel like it and you shouldnt see too much change in her.

On the other hand 2 of my good friends both got married before living together and didn't even last a year together. Completely incompatible.

getRedPill · 2016-08-08T00:50:06+00:00

It does, greatly. Here's 5 reasons why:.

It does.
Read the side bar.
It always does, greatly
See please point 1 & 2.
The side bar, read it.

jiveraffe · 2016-08-08T11:13:06+00:00

I'm surprised nobody has mentioned the age-old adage: familiarity breeds contempt.

Or if you prefer: 'Hell is being locked in a room with your friends."

Title	Does moving in with your GF kill the relationship?
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Date	August 7, 2016 9:15 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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Iron Rule of Tomassi #4