Does sharing too much always backfire eventually no matter what?

FereallyRed · 2019-12-02T20:52:18+00:00

Never show weakness. She is not on your side.

VividFall7 · 2019-12-02T19:47:08+00:00

Not really. People don't give a shit unless it can create humongous drama and they don't care about you. They'll even share their own experiences with you, so if it backfires, you can get revenge (though be a better man than them and don't.)

If it's an LTR/plate, think twice. Mostly they don't give a fuck, but if you act insecure or otherwise unattractive they'll pick it up most of the time.

PhaedrusHunt · 2019-12-02T20:34:35+00:00

Irony: don't feel vulnerable about vulnerability.

Women actually find it way hotter to know that you have emotions but can control them as opposed to being a stone faced, numb, unreachable guy.

That said, women find mystery irresistible.

jjj2576 · 2019-12-02T20:45:15+00:00

Remember: Your LTR is the First Officer. You are the Captain. Be the Captain. Women don’t want to be your therapist— it makes you unattractive.

Being comfortable with yourself is huge— that’s part of owning your shit. But consider cheesey Vampire romances (Twilight & True Blood). The male vampire love interest has higher SMV to the female protagonist, because of his “mysterious” nature. Living acta non verba can perpetuate this vibe.

Consider Iron Rule of Tomassi # 2– NEVER, under pain of death, honestly or dishonestly reveal the number of women you’ve slept with or explain any detail of your sexual experiences with them to a current lover.

Robert Greene touches on this too...

Law 3: Conceal Your Intentions— No need to reveal your entire hand. Acta non verba. Only play cards when you need them. Only say shit that matters— Jabberjaw, while hilarious, was also annoying.

Law 4: Always say less than necessary— there is power in concision. Use it.

What Books from the Sidebar have you actually read?

Edit: Grammar.

kclanton80 · 2019-12-02T21:44:00+00:00

Yes it can backfire. Always say less than necessary. Don't help by giving women reasons to disqualify you. They're obviously not telling you everything.... Why should you tell them everything?

This goes for friends as well. like Robert Greene says never put too much trust in them for they are easily prone to envy.

I'm not a believer in concocting huge lies, but you don't need to reveal everything about yourself. Women enjoy some mystery anyway..... They want to have to figure you out. A guy who is an open book is boring anyway.

Play some things close to the vest. Be a mystery...

Title	Does sharing too much always backfire eventually no matter what?
Author	peter798
Upvotes	2
Comments	13
Date	December 2, 2019 7:40 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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