Effortlessness - Should I make it sound completely like I've never touched a gym etc?

Nighthawk_Black_ · 2021-02-07T20:13:27+00:00

Just say you go to the gym don't be talking about any of the tracking your calories or progressing in weights.

boy_named_su · 2021-02-07T21:02:34+00:00

It's good to avoid lying, but it's okay to be vague/mysterious/not answer questions directly

I'd just say "ya, I did a couple pushups last week"

Whisper · 2021-02-08T00:08:10+00:00

you look a lot bigger have you been working out?

"Yeah."

Then change the subject.

somuchw1n · 2021-02-07T20:41:47+00:00

You may be overthinking it. Why deny that you work out? That would backfire when people realize you're actually at the gym a lot. And people's body composition doesn't just magically improve like that due to small changes in diet.

DS_1900 · 2021-02-07T23:27:35+00:00

Bro, a simple, 'hey yeah I've been going to the gym a bit more consistently, thanks for your compliment, good to hear you think I've made a bit of progress' is absolutely fine.

It's a long way from telling people to 'check out your phone for my obsessive journey' or something else like 'yeah bro I've been hitting it 6 days a week for 2 hours a day and smashing every exercise I can and going home shattered and eating only eggs and chicken breast, etc.' - both of these do not make it look effortless.

Edit: To add, the advice is to make things look effortless, not to hide them. If you hide things, rather than just play them down (and let you actions speak louder than your words) then you'll find that people won't trust you as you are demonstrating that you don't value them enough to be truthful with them about what has caused your success.

AnonChadThunder · 2021-02-08T01:04:42+00:00

Being serious about the gym makes friends and enemies. The enemies you make are betas and not worth being friends with any way.

Why would you be dishonest? You think it’s uncool to train hard and smart? You worked for your appearance. Be proud of yourself.

PCMRworsethanRgaming · 2021-02-07T23:09:46+00:00

You aren't gaining any respect telling another guy a lie like eating extra meals

Noodlesoupe2 · 2021-02-08T01:56:22+00:00

Lmao you guys take these rules too far. Being honest and giving advice when asked is good. Bragging about your workout routine and making yourself look like a try-hard is bad.

2021-02-08T00:58:22+00:00

You're likely thinking of Law 30 - Make your accomplishments seem effortless.

If a girl asks if you workout just say you have a love for the gym. They don't want to hear about your PR's, rep schemes, caloric surplus/deficit. Girls want to believe you were born with a six pack and stubble.

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nexther · 2021-02-07T22:59:15+00:00

Just say “yes.”

trpppp123 · 2021-02-08T00:36:38+00:00

Don't need to go into details, but I also don't think there's a reason to actively hide it. A simple "Yeah, I've started hitting the gym here and there" is enough.

volvostupidshit · 2021-02-08T00:36:46+00:00

Just say yes like it's no big deal.

red__Man · 2021-02-08T00:55:25+00:00

"I hit the gym from time to time" but don't the kind of dudes who make their lives spin around the gym lifestyle (gym clothes 24/7, gym stories and selfies etc)

EarthlyHuman7777 · 2021-02-08T01:59:57+00:00

To clarify I was being sarcastic when I was talking about PRs and rep schemes etc (not overthinking). obviously you don't do that!

someone said something once along the lines of 'girls want to think you're just born big and athletic and never had to work for it' and even saying you go to the gym in their head is sometimes a step below that. So i thought potentially a 'nah not really, it's mainly...' isn't a a 'lie' as such it is mostly nutrition/excess caloric intake after all...

also I feel like girls I've talked to in the past actually have no idea that it is necessary to workout to get bigger -

in my experience they don't respect the hustle AT ALL

LorenzOhhhh · 2021-02-08T05:19:45+00:00

how is anyone actually this socially awkward lmao jesus christ

Spudjurgens · 2021-02-08T07:32:25+00:00

TL;Dr Gyming shows character, but if I deny it I sound naturally Alpha etc which ideal wins out for girls/for respect etc

You won't sound naturally alpha if you deny it, you'll sound like a dipshit. Just say "Yeah." That should give enough mystery. As you pointed out, gymning shows character, and also, that you have better things to do than sitting around trying to fool people.

YoungAussiePrince · 2021-02-08T10:34:27+00:00

Are you autistic?

Title	Effortlessness - Should I make it sound completely like I've never touched a gym etc?
Author	EarthlyHuman7777
Upvotes	16
Comments	27
Date	February 7, 2021 8:04 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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