Emptiness

CoyoteMiyamoto · 2021-06-22T02:02:23+00:00

I remember this post from last week. I urge you to find a therapist. Your problems don't start with game and having a mission. You need to address deeper issues first. I think once you're feeling better things will fall into place.

I mean you're saying you feel empty and that you're unproductive, and then a couple of paragraphs later you say you're preferring high pressure and competitive environments and that you have great interpersonal skills. How does that work? This whole post contradicts itself.

bachbozo · 2021-06-22T02:49:06+00:00

5g’s of mushrooms on an empty stomach in nature

Buteyko Breathing Method

Relinquishing desire for your true intentions

A good road trip

Rendering meaning through selflessness

Tai Chi

Bach’s Cello Suites

Semen Retention

Paleo/Carnivore

papunigga031 · 2021-06-22T02:11:03+00:00

Depressed/empty is not a normal standard of living for men. There’s something behind this state. You need to listen to your gut.

What exactly about your current life fulfills you? You said you feel empty, that means something has to change.

That said, your problems are your problems and there isn’t enough info here on what the cause is. Do some introspection and find that out for yourself.

papunigga031 · 2021-06-22T02:12:21+00:00

You said “I feel lonely” but then two sentences later said “I don’t like hanging out with people.”

Which is it?

Seems like you’re overthinking shit, and you’re overthinking is keeping you in the same place. You can’t lift your way out of loneliness.

If you’re lonely go out and hang out with people. They aren’t that bad.

Unbannable_1721 · 2021-06-22T02:16:04+00:00

Two words: Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.

It will change your fucking life and turn you into an alpha. Go find a gym and go to class.

Andorli · 2021-06-22T02:33:20+00:00

You either have bpd, cptsd or something along those lines. The quiet variety.

Yasfs · 2021-06-22T03:48:11+00:00

Read the Holy Quran

scf7446 · 2021-06-22T03:50:01+00:00

Lower your standards and get yourself out of a victim mentality.

What is the point of calling yourself a loser, other than to make yourself feel worse? It's hard to respect someone who doesn't respect themselves, so your life is guaranteed not to change with this negative attitude.

You survived so far at 28, have a paying job, and have a standard of intelligence, enough to be reflective and analytical about yourself. You're also obviously high in openness as well, and that whole 'can't figure out what you want to do' is a gift, not a curse. Most people never even question what they should be doing in life, they simply follow the crowd or stumble into opportunity. You need to see that this trait that you view as a weakness, can actually be a great skill set. To drive the point home, you at the very least acknowledge the imperfections in your life and your strengths, I think once you remove the judgment out of your analysis, you can look at your flaws objectively and move forward.

Sorry to hear that you grew up without a dad, but I want to counter that with a question. Do you think most men in life live with a strong role model? Is that what you see when you look around at the people around you? Personally I'd like to argue that finding a strong mentor is the exception, not the norm.

You can either think about your failures and what could have been, or you can accept your present situation in a neutral light, without any egotism or negativity and live your life in the present, building up to something that you find worthwhile.

You are doing well in life, read on the internet and look at how the rest of the world lives. Feel some gratitude in your life, then aim towards a higher goal that is meaningful to you.

intelligentlemanager · 2021-06-22T21:06:21+00:00

From your bottom paragraph I conclude that you should consider becoming an IT consultant. Like business analyst, it architect or project manager. I think you could thrive in that environment - lots of communication and deep analysis

WHATTHEDECKK · 2021-06-28T02:32:16+00:00

You have PDD or mild depression too

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2021-07-09T12:17:30+00:00

How's your relationship with the rest of your family? Brothers/sisters? Uncles, etc?

Sad_Tomatillo_4143 · 2021-07-13T03:21:48+00:00

Actual advice. Don't look to television as a way to have an identity. They are stereotypes, tropes, they are meant to entertain, but not realistically sound.

Thelamadalai190 · 2021-08-01T08:05:25+00:00

Go work out. Make it consistent with a progression chart. 4+ times/week and walk/easier days off. You need results to stay motivated. Trust me, you have no idea what this will do for you. TRT (google it) may be a viable option if you have testosterone issues.

Eat well. Research this for your particular diet.
Sleep 8 hours when not working out, 8.5+ the days you do (trust me, lifting heavy and working hard will fuck up you SNS).

Caffeine in moderation. There is a reason the industrial revolution happened after EU was introduced to coffee beans, but BE CAREFUL, as it is a psychoactive and will elevate stress/anxiety.

Get into coding/data analytics - best $ amount for your time. If you're good with people, tech sales can be lucrative. Good luck.

Title	Emptiness
Author	RickyRossini
Upvotes	13
Comments	27
Date	June 22, 2021 1:33 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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