Erectile Dysfunction

LogicalWinner · 2018-07-09T15:15:28+00:00

I am open to any suggestions that can or could help me overcome this problem, so if you have some, it would be greatly appreciated.

Stop telling people you have a High IQ. You sound like a fucking moron.

rob_holloway · 2018-07-09T16:36:59+00:00

What's going on bro? I completely empathize with you and I know how big of a blow it is to your ego. I went through the exact same thing and I am proud to say I no longer have this issue. If I can beat it, then so can you. First you have to realize that you are experiencing performance anxiety. Your body is entering its fight or flight mode because you lack sexual experience. You are thinking about things like, "Am I good enough", "Can I please her", "Is my dick big enough" , :What if my dick doesnt get hard again". The ONLY way to combat this is to become more sexually experienced. Only then can you replace your mental negative feedback loop with a positive one. Here are some actionable tips:

Do not watch porn, masturbate, or even touch your dick (with the exception of pissing and cleaning) for a minimum of 90 days. This is required, after 90 days you will get hard if the wind blows in the wrong direction.The last thing you will worry about is getting hard if you have not had any release in 90 days. You will doubt yourself during this period and experience both high and low sex drives during the 90 days. This is completely normal and just keep going. Do not waver, falter, or fret you will succeed.
Your nutrition must be on point. Focus on eliminating or limiting sugar, proccessed foods, and fried foods. You want to focus on fruits, vegetables, meat, and healthy fats. Healthy fats are crucial in testosterone production things like red meat, whole eggs, nuts, olive oil, coconut oil, chicken with the skin on etc. For the vegatables make sure you are eating plenty of leafy greens and included both spinach and broccoli which have been proven to aid in testosterone productions. Drink a minimum of one gallon of water a day.
Lift weights 5-6 times a week. Training is vital to a healthy sex life. Focus on heavy (whatever heavy is to you) compound movements like the squat, deadlift, bench press, shoulder press, pull ups and rows. Every other exercise should come second to these. You will feel your sex drive ramp up after your heavy training sessions. I would also add 2-3 HIIT cardio sessions per week.
Go to the doctor and explain your situation again. Ask them for some Cialis. I was prescribed 20 mg. The Cialis with combination of my 90 day reboot I was able to have sex successfully with zero problems.When you have one sexual victory you are proving to both your conscious and your subconscious mind that you can have sex successfully. Slowly ween yourself off the Cialis once you feel comfortable. The last thing you want is to become dependent on the drug.
Purchase The Mental Health Impotence Healer Program. It is about 37 dollars but well worth the money.The product is a form of audio that is created to both relax your mind and simulate your subconscious mind to the experience of successful sex. Your subconscious mind does not know the difference between simulated sex and sex that is actually happening. The whole goal is to break the negative feedback loop. This product will help you I guarantee it. I cannot recommend it enough.
Lastly, stop putting woman on a pedestal. This is what your problem boils down to. You are worrying if you are good enough for her, when she should worry if she is good enough for you. When you go to have sex for the first time after implementing all the other steps DO NOT care if you get hard or not. The key to getting an erection is RELAXATION. You are there to have fun and she is there to please you. By thinking too much you are putting pressure on yourself that doesnt need to be there.

I apologize this post was so long. But I struggled with this issue for so long. Being with a girl that you are attracted to and your dick dying is something I would not wish on my worst enemy.The only way to beat this is to have more sex and more positive sexual experiences. If you have any other questions do not hesitate to PM me. You can beat this bro, I am rooting for you.

Trust the process. Bless up King.

otszx · 2018-07-09T14:07:11+00:00

Keep up noporn and meditation. I had a similar issue with a girl (stopped seeing her) and eversince I had no issues with 3 other girls.

Especially if it's a psychological problem, it's gonna get worse every time you don't get an erection, because you will already worry about getting it up too much to get aroused.

So seeing as you get hard alone, fuck someone you don't care about and you should be fine and it will restore your sexual confidence.

Incognito_famous · 2018-07-09T13:49:19+00:00

Stop watching porn. Ask people on r/nofap

purplefidgetmidget · 2018-07-09T15:35:51+00:00

The only way you're gonna solve this is to work through your problem.

As long as you keep your frame you can just straight up tell her your dick has a mind of its own and gets a bit shy the first couple of times so we're just gonna fool around until it gets its act together. Say it like it's no big deal, because it isn't a big deal, it happens to most guys. Just don't act like a pussy about it apologising and trying to frantically explain it. Just be like, yup, it happens, deal with it.

Then just focus on having fun without your dick. Don't even try to have sex, just focus on doing other stuff. Once you reach the point where you have truly let go and you honestly don't care about having sex, your dick will magically come to life and you'll know it's time to go.

TRP is all about being alpha and shit but if it's your first time or first couple of times having sex you don't need to be 100% iron-clad man of stoic emotions, you can explain to her and deal with the problem together, just keep frame as best as you can.

Getting yourself sorted out is the number one priority but I can tell ya that doctors and therapists and pills aren't really needed.

Morphs_ · 2018-07-09T18:04:14+00:00

Sildenafil is similar to Viagra and its generic version Kamagra. They work only for like four hours. A better option is Cialis, it's the best IMO since it works for around 48 hours. 20mg works fine for me with the generic version, 10mg with the official brand. You need to be actually aroused for these medications to work.

So you likely have two problems, the ratio I cannot decide as I don't know you, but it's probably a combination.

First, you may have erectile dysfunction due to too much porn use and masturbation. Go to the NoFap reddit, or yourbrainrebalanced.com and read other guys' logs. Stop with porn, masturbation and orgasm unless you have sex with a woman. It's difficult and can take up to 120 days before your sexual function has fully restored, but well worth it of course.

Second, which I guess it mostly the case now, is that all the bad experiences with sex made you anxious and stressed about it. I had that too and it would always make me scared when I was about to have sex with a girl, because I had to perform.

Going to a psychologist helped me a lot, he learned me to give less fucks. Just expose yourself to sexual situations, use some Cialis (and don't feel bad about it). If it works, great, else no problem. Together with NoFap you'll eventually work this out.

And don't be harsh on yourself, I did that and it doesn't help.

Kabuki431 · 2018-07-09T15:31:57+00:00

Go get a blood work done and check your testosterone levels. You could be on the low side.

JohnDick2k · 2018-07-09T16:28:21+00:00

"TL;DR : I have erection problems, even when under medication to prevent the issue. I will see my doctor again, but am open to any suggestions or advice that could help me overcome it

Hello asktrp,

I come here to ask for advice on how to treat my erectile dysfunction (ED), as I feel that some people here have been through the same problem, but overcame it." That'd be enough. "sex god method" book touched this problem and it was advised to just relax and not focus on getting it up, just enjoy the moment.

GayLubeOil · 2018-07-09T18:00:29+00:00

I might be able to talk you past ur problem if u Skype me.

officerkondo · 2018-07-09T20:21:40+00:00

tall and good looking, with a high IQ

All of these are irrelevant to your broken dick. Do you think an high-IQ person should fix a broken dick by (1) consulting his treating physician or (2) asking me, a stranger on the internet?

redpilldick · 2018-07-09T20:58:21+00:00

Like others have said, nofap and testosterone. Viagra has zero potency for me if I take it with food. I couldn't get a boner after taking 100mg with food, but got the boner of my life from 12.5 mg another day. The source of your problems is likely tension and anxiety, I am in the same boat. Google "Pegym hard flaccid" or "pegym pelvic floor balance". I think this is the source of your problems. if your dick can stay hard to porn it is all mental

AlexanderTheBread · 2018-07-10T10:38:50+00:00

TLDR: Phew this is rather long but worth the read if you've had sexual problems. Basically, you can jump start your sexuality by having a patient sexual partner and a couple of tricks up your sleeve. It works the fastest compared to any other method including nofap and lifting and so on.

Hey man, take a step back and relax for a bit, will you? Breathe in and breathe out. It's going to be ok. You're in good hands. There have been some good comments here so far, but nothing that's quite the right stuff. You are the typical decently healthy man with erectile dysfunction due to mental issues caused by sexual inexperience. You are flailing about trying everything to create boners out of thin air and you're getting frustrated as hell, because it's not working. Because that's not how boners work! But more on that later. What you are experiencing is not so bad - you are actually taking the first step to understanding your own sexuality and that's awesome. It's just coming down in this terrible way. It happened to me too.

I was like you, roughly 26 years old, few sexual partners, and in my head. And I couldn't get it up for the life of me with a girl. It just didn't budge man. Nothing at all. It was dead. And even worse, I couldn't masturbate much anymore either. My boner just took a vacation it seems. So, like you, I started reading as much as I can about why it happens. And there was a TON of information on hormones, nutrition, lifting, supplements, etc. I tried so many things for a good 6 months. I observed, made changes, used supplements. I put in a lot of effort, got in better shape, got better sleep. And still. Everything I tried would lose its power quickly. Improving my fitness, diet, sleep and so on, didn't really improve my sexuality, because I had none to begin with!

You have a few paths here. One of the easiest is to bootstrap your dick economy, if you will. Be with a patient girl and build your way up to proper good sex. If you don't get a boner, just work on her. If you have some, let her blow you. If you have enough for penetration, do some. Etc. This is what happened to me almost by accident. I kept seeing that girl for a few months and I'm thankful for meeting her. Then my problems resumed once we broke it off and I moved on to new girls. This is roughly month 9 of my journey so far. I spent the next 6 months improving my internal world and sexual understanding until I stopped having consistent problems with new girls.

So what's going on really? The short of it is that when you meet a girl, you are not quite used to her being a sexual object for your pleasure, so when you get down to it, you are not stimulated in a sexual way. Why is this? You operate at a high abstract level by thinking. Sex happens by feeling, which you don't quite have access to right away. So, objectively speaking, she's sexy, but you're not feeling it. No boner. Sorry. Then this becomes a negative experience in your memory, because the girl usually leaves you if you can't pleasure her. Now you meet a new girl and you have a bag of negative experiences to ruin your mental game and the cycle repeats.

To break this cycle we need to go deeper. Your dick can get hard from physical stimulation (i.e. hand, rubbing). It can get hard from mental stimulation (i.e. looking at something sexy, anticipating something sexy). It can get hard from internal processes (i.e. release of testosterone, holding your pee). It's probably the first two you have trouble with. That's because your brain can also inhibit your sexual response. There's a good two-factor model on sexuality involved here. There's a gas pedal and a brake pedal. The sensitivity of the gas pedal determines how easy it is for you to get aroused (and if you're physically healthy, get a boner). The sensitivity of the brake pedal determines how easy it is for you to shut down the whole show. We have naturally set amounts of sensitivity in each and they take a while to change.

In this model, your gas pedal is probably not that sensitive and whether it's due to negativity or other things, your brake pedal is more sensitive. And it's making it difficult. By improving your diet, sleep and by lifting, you would be improving the sensitivity of the gas pedal. By improving your mental state, you will decrease the sensitivity of the brake pedal. Common advice is to go NoFap for a while. What that does is indeed increase the sensitivity of the gas pedal, but it is much slower for the brake pedal. I believe this is because it works by not doing the thing, rather than by doing a better thing.

The quickest way to let go of the brake and decrease its sensitivity is to start having sex. The positive experiences of getting aroused, getting a boner and cumming will create a positive feedback look that will heal you fast. But you need to start. And that's difficult. It can take you a while to get enough experience under your belt to let go. It took me about a year to understand this, but once I did, it was a quick process.

Let's talk about inhibition. Through trial and error I found the "fall asleep and wake up with sex" method. It works like this. Be naked with the woman you want to have sex with, do some sexual things, but not much. Then fall asleep next to her. Wake up or have her wake you up 5-10 minutes after you've fallen asleep and while sleepy, start having sex. Usually the inhibition takes a bit of time to start up and is associated with being awake. You go under the radar this way, too sleepy to know what's really going on.

Why does this work? Both sleeping and boners require a similar kind of relaxation and disinhibition. If you can do one, you can often do the other too. People call it trust sometimes. You need to be able to trust her with your physical safety while you sleep. But also your emotional safety that she won't leave you when you can't get it up. Instruct her to wake you up in a sexual way. This has worked for me nearly every time! Any amount of disconnect from her should help too. If you can forget she's there in the room and you go back to her, it often works well.

[deleted] · 2018-07-09T19:24:45+00:00

you said you "found trp 3 months ago" and "starting turning your life around". it takes a minute to build your body back up if you've been spending the last years guzzling mountain dew and being sedentary. and shut up about "porn doing damage" i hate when people say this kind of shit :P sure, too much of anything might affect you negatively, but jacking off to porn too much is by no means irreversible "damage", its just being a lazy cunt. stop worrying so much and start focusing on recovery. the more you worry, than more limp-dick-itis you will have. rome wasnt built in a day z0n

PS: please stop taking pharmaceuticals before you ACTUALLY fuck yrself up, eat more fruit & vegetables and start swimming and lifting weights! the doctor cant save you, you can!

Fapisluv · 2018-07-09T20:14:46+00:00

Try supplementation with arginine. It helps with erectile dysfunction(and with that vascularity brah).

BusterVadge · 2018-07-10T15:09:06+00:00

I am a 27yo male, tall and good looking, with a high IQ (i mention this because i think too much, which in turn causes stress and anxiety).

Not sure what type of meditation you're doing now but mindfulness will really help you here a lot.

globetraveler · 2018-07-09T14:45:28+00:00

I’d recommend this:

take your time with foreplay
whisper in her ear that you want to watch her masturbate
after watching for a couple of minutes you pull out your dick and start masturbating also
both of you will be so turned on and you should have a good erection by now to engage in intercourse

zeroshujin · 2018-07-09T20:15:24+00:00

It takes more than a few weeks. I stopped watching porn, stopped masturbation, start working out regularly, eating healthy and after couple of months it went away. I also took sildenafil

Of course sildenafil would do nothing if you're nervous, which is logical after bad experiences with ED. Once you gain some confidence it will work better. After that you can reduce the dose until you no longer need it.

Title	Erectile Dysfunction
Author	mechahodor
Upvotes	14
Comments	22
Date	July 9, 2018 1:11 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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