Ex finally contacted me

fnordsnord · 2014-12-11T04:40:13+00:00

Zero contact. She replaced you less than a week after dumping you. How can she possibly value you? You still have the feels for this one. I can tell from the tone of your writing. Mark my words (yeah, I really talk like that) if you get back in touch you'll get sucked back into her orbit , even from across the country.

themikeykilla · 2014-12-11T04:33:53+00:00

Been through the same thing. I went for it... 6 months later heartbroken all over again. Oneitis is REAL

EvilNando · 2014-12-11T06:19:36+00:00

lol k - sounds like the best reply you could ever give, honestly

oldredder · 2014-12-11T08:42:00+00:00

If you still care you haven't learned anything.

That's not an insult it just means life experience, suffering, gains, joy, loss & realization of value, yours & hers, obviously is an incomplete process.

Keep going.

SkorchZang · 2014-12-11T11:56:21+00:00

Ohh that's gotta hurt so delicious, I can almost feel what you feel man.

She's good. Manipulating you well. But sadly for her, you already moved far-far away, and moved the fuck on as far as women in your life... Which means there's no point to even acknowledge you read her expertly crafted email.

To do so would be to admit that you're giving her some kind of thought, some kind of chance to get back with you. I had a similar situation once, and I bucked in under what I thought were "true feelings", all that shit, and responded to the ex's invitation. We met a few times, but I discovered the most painful thing, I left her because she's a lying bitch - and she's still a lying bitch now after all that time, and always will be. Nothing I can ever do about it and it's useless to throw it in her face.

Here's hoping you'll save yourself the trouble & wasted time. Smile, mentally send her your warmest thoughts, and then push "Delete" unanswered.

NotQuiteRedPill · 2014-12-11T16:41:16+00:00

Many of these posts are correct. She's only "thinking" of you now because something has gone wrong with the new guy. Then she can come back to you until someone better comes along. Listen to "User Friendly" by Marilyn Manson. You get the idea.

Disherecarl · 2014-12-12T11:16:49+00:00

Do not do not DO NOT! Respond to this. She's reaching out to you in an attempt to validate her own self worth. Do not give her the pleasure. Any reciprocation of feels you get from this girl will be less and less as she pulls you into orbit. You owe each other nothing and if you entertain this move you will regret it. Every single guy in this thread is telling you the same thing and you damn well better heed our warning. If you must respond, give her the "lol ok" and be on your way. Godspeed brother.

papirojo · 2014-12-11T04:32:52+00:00

Gotta let it burn

But on a serious note.. what do you have to gain from this? (probably nothing)... Realize that you don't owe anyone anything and that includes closure. Regardless of what you do, don't go admitting the feels.

Title	Ex finally contacted me
Author	ar2341
Upvotes	6
Comments	15
Date	December 11, 2014 4:22 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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