So take into account that I live in Belgium. Girls offer sex way harder than in all other FR's I'm reading here, mostly under imminent commitment.

My Tinder approach: - 3 opinions on x vs y, for instance: coffee or hot chocolate. They can't fail the test, so when they pass, they win a date with me.

With my 150 matches I've run the same game, and with those were it goes well and she's responsive etc, I try to meet asap.

In Belgium (and Holland according to a fellow rp), girls don't really respond to this in a positive manner. More on that in my report.

So this girl is 25, has done some traveling, self-proclaimed feminist, drank beer, leading job (children psychiatry), .. meaning she has a mouth on her and is very direct (quite masculine traits). So that led her to saying the following things:

  • "you're player" (in a negative way). I look too smooth, have a lot of dates going, have a fancy car, am untrustworthy, ..

  • "you dodge questions'. This was about her shit tests, which I mostly ignored or applied A&A. To her, dodging the questions means I am obscure which reinforces my untrustworthiness.

  • "you wanted to meet way too soon". Another reinforcement of being untrustworthy, not looking to commit, ... (not what she was looking for)

  • "you date alot". Her hamster was obviously at light speed and she made up all these things about me. She thought I was having multiple conversations which I mixed up, multiple tinder dates / week, .. I never denied/confirmed these claims, which made the hamster spin even more

  • "we don't match, I don't like players".

So in my mind, there's two ways to look at this.

1: They were more shit tests.

I just listened to her reasoning, denying some, ignoring/a&a others.

2: Judge her by her actions, not words

True, she was on the date with me (I ended it), she enjoyed herself, even though she was talking negatively about me all the time.

In the end I didn't go in for the kiss close, as I didn't want no drama. Could've gone for pump & dump.

My 'question' here is if I'm doing something wrong or too overt. Her analysis obviously was correct (and she was attracted). In the end I'd like an LTR and I wonder if my approach is ok.