Getting over ex trp advice?

SkorchZang · 2016-01-11T02:59:38+00:00

It's going to be a bitch. I can't even count how many times I had to stop myself from those same feelings about "the one Ex", and how shitty it feels when you know you're wasting your own time and energy with it, but cannot make it stop outright no matter what you do and how many other girls you fucked already.

You did your duty (deleted her from everywhere, eliminated anything that even remotely reminds you about her from your sight), now it's time to give yourself time. Yeah it's fucking lame, how long it takes. You can expect to "suffer" for at least 1/2 the time your LTR lasted. But keep in mind what you're up against, that's evolution's brainhack that it automatically installs into men. Helps make sure the men will tend to stick around with the bitch they're fucking and be reasonably under her control, for the good of the next generation.

Eventually you get very used to the suffering, and that's the moment that it begins to wane, decline. You just get bored with your own inner drama about it, the same old thoughts you already thought 1000 times before... Boring. That's exactly what you want, that way lay healing and freedom. Speed it up by not allowing yourself to consume or overhear any new information about the ex, the less new shit you have to ruminate over, the sooner you're going to arrive at that humble boredom that'll ultimately save your soul from the little succubus that is your ex.

fit_to_fight · 2016-01-11T03:32:21+00:00

She wasn't one in a million, she was one OF a million. There's a chick out there that will just blow that one away. Go find her, and have fun doing it.

MrFuckupKing · 2016-01-11T20:29:58+00:00

She has the psychological advantage by dumping you.

There is something about rejection that for most people they have a visceral reaction to.

It seems to attack their very core concept of themselves so they end up with a wound that for many does not heal.

I have been rejected so much and survived so much that it does not affect me so I'm not wounded so there is nothing that needs to heal.

The need to get over her means that this wound still exists.

It really has nothing to do with her and everything to do with your own self doubts that the rejection created.

The self doubts were created because there were already self doubt so you could say that her dumping you opened up a fresh wound where there were already previous wounds.

She dumped you because you were dumpable because of what you were that you were created to be.

When you see this and understand it than you will no longer be wounded by rejection but simply accept it as a natural part of human relations so there will be no getting over to get over.

For me rejection is simply a natural part of the human landscape.

Allowing for and accepting rejection actually makes for more honest relationships.

Letsbeserioushere · 2016-01-11T01:29:44+00:00

Only way to adopt an abundance mentality is to have abundance.

The trick is that you can attain an abundant perspective from many things, and it will permeate into your oneitis.

Time will make it better. Continue to do what you're doing. The very best solution is to sleep with a lot of women, so get your game on.

machimus · 2016-01-11T01:39:06+00:00

All those romantic ideas floating around in your head are illusions. You don't miss her, you miss the idea you constructed of her and you miss how she made you feel.

GunsGermsAndSteel · 2016-01-11T01:51:34+00:00

Get laid.

ExcuseMyLobo · 2016-01-11T05:17:01+00:00

This is not advice, I just wanted to say your story is an eye opener for me.

I have a very similar relationship with my current girl. It's her first ltr (we've known each other since primary school though) and at the beginning I had the upper hand (I still do) in the relationship. We've been together for almost a year and a half, but I'm moving to another country and I've been punishing myself about how I'm throwing away an awesome girl and that she would probably stay with me for a long time (I don't mean that we'd get married, since I've always said, and she agreed, marriage was never gonna happen).

But reading your post lifted some weight off my shoulders. Maybe we wouldn't be together for a long time. Maybe it would only be a matter of time until she decided I wasn't good enough for her anymore.

I hope that you get over this unfortunate event and wish you the best in your path to alpha.

daveiscurious · 2016-01-11T12:15:53+00:00

One thing that tremendously helped me was travelling. You'll meet so many people along the way. I'm from the UK, I went to America for a year (study abroad thing) and it completely took my mind off her. Then coming back from America I went interrailing around Europe.

Oh, and fuck some girls.

Title	Getting over ex trp advice?
Author	gk1707
Upvotes	8
Comments	20
Date	January 11, 2016 1:12 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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