GF relationship issues-bad ender

Aaren_Augustine · 2017-02-07T16:38:01+00:00

It will never end. Those push pull tactics will be common place. You'll be in the low part longer and longer, wishing you had a peak of happiness.

Before you know it, you won't know what normal is. Been boiling too long to even find your way back.

She'll break you down the longer you keep her around.

quicklogaccount · 2017-02-07T16:51:25+00:00

Do you have any good reason to keep this relationship?

/u/Aaren_Augustine gave you, crystal clear, the most likely scenario, but not the only one. Let me be honest.
Finding a feasible relationship for you, one that isn't shitty, but just "frustrating", will take a lot of effort. Fixing your relationship and making it into a decent one will take A LOT of effort.

If you choose to fix it, you'll probably check out emotionally. And then it'll be over, all your efforts will have been for nothing.
Fixing this sort of stuff requires dread and abundance mentality, and usually with the slightest abundance comes the realization that our partners have been shit shit for a while (or always were), making you lose the drive to work on things.

Do you have ANY reason to waste time and efforts on fixing it? Starting anew and not fucking up is WAY easier.

returnofthemackX · 2017-02-07T19:29:46+00:00

You need to stay broken up with her (no contact), because you are still developing the tools and mindset to have a healthy fulfilling LTR.

Get your shit fixed before you commit again.

dendsm111 · 2017-02-07T16:33:00+00:00

So what is the question? You broke up you move on. Pretty simple.

abdada · 2017-02-07T16:34:21+00:00

are in another bout

Well why the fuck are you on TRP? You probably like shitty women treating you like shit. Nothing wrong with it if that's your thing but TRP is not a place to post your tweets.

oldslut · 2017-02-07T23:44:56+00:00

i tell my ltr (at least once a week), "if you don't like it, break up with me" funny, she never does. in your case, it sounds like you should break up with her though, it if the problems outweigh the benefits.

waitforit93x · 2017-02-07T16:41:39+00:00

I didn't make that clear. My bad.

She wants to get back together. I don't know where my indecisiveness in life stems from, but Idk if I should. Again I'm on here to ask for help like the book says I should.

dRePe_Thill · 2017-02-07T16:45:09+00:00

She is attempting to control you through manipulation tool of breaking up, you didnt fall for that BS.

This behavior needs to be punished if you want to be an a LTR, if not hard next her.

Punishment, non-sexual, she should be doing your laundry, cleaning, cooking or etc... we want to negatively reinforce that behavior

waitforit93x · 2017-02-09T19:02:44+00:00

Update: as to make this even harder on me... my mother call and asked if there was anyway if we could fix this.

Tomorrow is my birthday, so she was indicating that I might want to consider it, because I wouldn't be lonely.

Not what I wanted to hear. A reminder that this chick is probably feeling shitty over this.

Title	GF relationship issues-bad ender
Author	waitforit93x
Upvotes	1
Comments	36
Date	February 7, 2017 4:31 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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